Covid is ruining my wedding

[violetanemone]

My wedding is coming up this weekend.

Fiance tested positive for Covid middle of last week. I tested positive Easter Sunday. Both hoping we'll shake it in time, but both currently feeling pretty run down and getting strong positives on LFT's.

So.... would you go ahead??

For more context, this wedding has already been rearranged twice - originally scheduled in 2020!

Not if you’ve got Covid & still testing positive, I’m sorry but I wouldn’t.

Just stop testing!

Stop testing and just focus on both feeling better! 🤞🏼

@JustHereWithPopcorn

Stop testing and just focus on both feeling better! 🤞🏼

Absolutely *

`if you must go ahead, then you owe your guests the courtesy of knowing that you have COVID so they can make an informed decision as to whether they want to be exposed, and in some instances, be put at risk if any of them have underlying health conditions.

If someone told me they had covid before their wedding then I would simply say fine and wouldn’t go. If I went to said wedding without knowing, and then caught cOVID and it transpired the bride and groom knew they had it it I would never speak to them again.

Yeah I would go ahead but tell people, we had covid this week, it’s your choice whether you want to come and take the risk.

If you go ahead with it, you should definitely tell people so they can make an informed decision. Anything else is not fair on them.

I completely understand the upset OP but you have to be honest with everyone. My daughter is clinically very vulnerable and I could make myself ill worrying sending her to school every day. The majority of people will likely take the risk but you need to be honest. How utterly heartbreaking, hope you both feel better soon.

Yes, go ahead with it, and don’t let covid ruin anything else for you. Even if we still had rules you would be out of quarantine by your wedding, but we don’t have rules anymore and there’s a good reason for that.

Take your vitamins, concentrate on getting better, and have a wonderful wedding day.

Assuming you did not have symptoms beforehand you will be on day 6 on Saturday and unless you have two negative tests Fri and Sat would be considered to be infectious under previous guidance informed by medical advice.

I realise the rules have changed but for me it’s cut and dried that you have a moral obligation to let people know and allow them to make their own decisions from there. These are people you care about enough to invite to your wedding after all, plus others who need to stay well enough to work to earn a living.

So sorry OP!!!!
I was in a similar situation last year, and had already rearranged our wedding twice too.

I was pinged on the Covid app 4 days before my wedding, in the days just before the rules around self isolation changed.
I felt like I had it, but tested neg on PCR, however as there was the slim chance I might have it, we had to inform our venue, registrar and all guests.
Venue were fine with it, registrar had to get special dispensation, and we only had one couple drop out.

In your case, I think you’ll need to alert your venue and all guests asap and see what they say.
Really hoping you both feel better and can go ahead.

Personally I would go ahead with the wedding and inform the guests. The timing is such that you're likely to be feeling better and unlikely to still be infectious (but can't guarantee either of those).

If you inform people, crack on, but obviously exp3ct numbers to drop. You're not breaking any rules/guidance, seen as anyone with cocid can now happily stand next to anyone in a supermarket queue, regardless of whether they may become seriously ill by it or not. As long as you give people the option to make an informed choice, as you are able to do, that's your call.

I would go ahead, it’s only Tuesday and it’s likely you’ll feel better by the weekend. Covid is everywhere anyway, there’s a reason why we are no longer told to isolate and we no longer have to test. You don’t have to tell anyone, I would go by how you feel. And congratulations on your marriage

Depending on exactly when your fiancé’s symptoms started, if your wedding is Saturday it may well be past the 10 days isolation anyway, even if the rules hadn’t changed.
And for you, even if you didn’t have symptoms before Sunday, a negative test on Friday and Saturday would get you out of isolation under the old rules as well.

I wouldn’t cancel. But I would let guests know.

If it were me I'd probably tell people and let them decide whether they wanted to attend. It doesn't matter what the 'rules' are, if guests prefer not to attend they are entitled to be informed and make their own decision.

You can't just not tell anyone, explain the situation and let them know you'll keep them updated.

There are so many people in the world just not telling people and as I said it doesn't matter what the rules are, if someone has underlying health conditions you are putting them at risk.

We had it with a friend of my dh, didn't tell anyone and spread that fucker to the whole group and we all got it. I've a heart condition and I was extremely ill, my youngest is severely disabled and she got it. We all had different symptoms, it was nothing like a cold as many insist, but I was extremely annoyed that someone knowingly went ahead and met up and said nothing, dh could have made his own decision not to go.

Thanks for all the replies. Seems like a strong message to inform guests and let them make their own decisions - that's what we will do.

We simply can't take the devastation of cancelling last minute for a third time.

I’d go ahead. You’ll be day 7 by Saturday. Tell people before (if you are still testing positive).

I had the worst head cold before my wedding. I remember “helpful” my DM telling me the day before I looked dreadful and my nose was so red. I spent the day before applying Vaseline to my nose.

On the day I dosed up on Beechams and honestly felt fine. I’m sure the adrenalin took over

Definitely inform your guests and let them make a decision. I was due to attend a family wedding last year and one of the bridesmaids came down with Covid (she was also a child of the groom). They fiddled her isolation dates so that she could attend. A few days after the wedding the bride and groom came down with Covid as did many of the guests. They tried to blame it on one of the guests and it caused a lot of ill feeling. Just be honest with people and let them make their own decisions.

@LillyDeValley

I’d go ahead. You’ll be day 7 by Saturday. Tell people before (if you are still testing positive).

I had the worst head cold before my wedding. I remember “helpful” my DM telling me the day before I looked dreadful and my nose was so red. I spent the day before applying Vaseline to my nose.

On the day I dosed up on Beechams and honestly felt fine. I’m sure the adrenalin took over

No it would be day 6!!!

Day 0 was Easter Sunday.

2.5years into pandemic and still these school girl/boy errors!

I was unwell for ten days with it. There's no way I would have felt well enough on your time frame.

I agree with previous comments. Warn your guests, but still proceed. I would definitely attend - everytime I take the tube/go to restaurant/go anywhere, there is bound to be several people with covid.

Please tell your venue as well as your guests - they may have staff who are vulnerable and may well re-jig their rotas.

@AlternativePerspective

`if you must go ahead, then you owe your guests the courtesy of knowing that you have COVID so they can make an informed decision as to whether they want to be exposed, and in some instances, be put at risk if any of them have underlying health conditions.

If someone told me they had covid before their wedding then I would simply say fine and wouldn’t go. If I went to said wedding without knowing, and then caught cOVID and it transpired the bride and groom knew they had it it I would never speak to them again.

Not just your guests, but your suppliers too.

I'm a wedding supplier and pregnant- I would be absolutely furious if one of my couples or their guests knowingly put me at risk. Not just because of my health and the risk to baby, but because it also jeopardises my other couples and bookings too.