Covid is ruining my wedding

[violetanemone]

My wedding is coming up this weekend.

Fiance tested positive for Covid middle of last week. I tested positive Easter Sunday. Both hoping we'll shake it in time, but both currently feeling pretty run down and getting strong positives on LFT's.

So.... would you go ahead??

For more context, this wedding has already been rearranged twice - originally scheduled in 2020!

I'd go ahead if feeling ok and probably wouldn't say anything to anyone if it could be avoided.

You absolutely need to tell everyone beforehand - guests, venue, priest etc.

Could your venue move your wedding outside?

If you tell everyone you may as well cancel- honestly it will have been nearly a week, I'd go ahead.

If you are telling people , which I would, don't forget to tell the vicar/registrar

I wouldn’t of even tested!

You must tell people but once I had I’d carry on, some guests won’t go, I would although I might not hug you! 😁

Tell the venue. If they're still happy to have your event, tell the guests. If the venue turns you down, obv the guests will need to be told that too.

Wear masks if you go ahead, and ask your guests to do the same.

I suppose there are three scenarios. 1) you test negative and feel fine in which case hurrah 2) you feel horrific and unable to go and still test positive and 3) you feel fine and are still testing positive. You don't know what hand you'll be dealt so it's a dilemma. I think I would probably keep my options open and wouldn't cancel. Hopefully you don't feel too unwell by then, most people i know have been fine initially and then day 7 started to go downhill. It's so different from person to person though. My DH had it and by day 3 was fine and testing negative but then day 10 lost his hearing and started suffering severe fatigue. I'm assuming you have wedding insurance. I'd check your t&cs and see where you stand from that perspective just in case you do go downhill.

The advice is now five days isolation so if you tested positive at the weekend you have followed the guidance.
Congratulations

You'll be fine by the weekend, don't panic. I might keep my distance from vulnerable relatives tho as an extra precaution but isolation is only 5 days now so you'll both be over that.

Seriously, given some of the responses on this thread it’s little wonder that COVID is still rife.

All this “the rules say” crap, do people really not have the ability to exercise common sense? No wonder the government had to introduce lockdowns and restrictions if people need their hands holding throughout. .

My mum tested positive for COVID on Thursday and I had seen her on Wednesday. On Thursday I had a hospital appointment. According to “the rules” I could have gone to that appointment,although they do ask whether you’ve been in contact with anyone who has tested positive within the past 10 days. But in all conscience it would never have occurred to me to walk into a cardiology department full of vulnerable people when I had been exposed to COVId so I re-scheduled it.

I tested positive on Sunday.

I am so glad I changed the appointment, because if I hadn’t, I would have taken COVID on public transport/into the hospital where I would have been in contact with other patients/staff etc and who knows what the outcome of that might have been.

Maybe if people stop being so bloody selfish and use their own common sense rather than waiting for the government to tell them what to do we won’t be in the position of more restrictions come the winter.

@AlternativePerspective

Seriously, given some of the responses on this thread it’s little wonder that COVID is still rife.

All this “the rules say” crap, do people really not have the ability to exercise common sense? No wonder the government had to introduce lockdowns and restrictions if people need their hands holding throughout. .

My mum tested positive for COVID on Thursday and I had seen her on Wednesday. On Thursday I had a hospital appointment. According to “the rules” I could have gone to that appointment,although they do ask whether you’ve been in contact with anyone who has tested positive within the past 10 days. But in all conscience it would never have occurred to me to walk into a cardiology department full of vulnerable people when I had been exposed to COVId so I re-scheduled it.

I tested positive on Sunday.

I am so glad I changed the appointment, because if I hadn’t, I would have taken COVID on public transport/into the hospital where I would have been in contact with other patients/staff etc and who knows what the outcome of that might have been.

Maybe if people stop being so bloody selfish and use their own common sense rather than waiting for the government to tell them what to do we won’t be in the position of more restrictions come the winter.

Hospitals have questions and guidelines - eg. Like isolating before a procedure. Covid is rife but covid is mild, I’m not stopping my life for something that felt little more than a cold!

@AlternativePerspective actually it’s very unlikely you were infectious on the Thursday so you can’t really be quite so self righteous.

I would go ahead OP, informing your guests and any necessary suppliers. If I was your guest I would still come (I just maybe wouldn't give you a hug ).

I have a close friend who is a CEV (was shielded) vicar. You would never know it to look at her, in her 30s and looks healthy. She has also just announced her pregnancy to close family and friends but isn't showing yet so you wouldn't know if she were marrying you - but covid has a very real risk of landing her in intensive care or worse. In this situation I hope one of her non vulnerable colleagues in another parish in the area would step in. The vicar has to wrap your hands in their stole as part of the ceremony, so she wouldn't be able to distance from you.
Please tell all the people you will be in contact with and let them make their own decisions.

I think you have to tell people, and that includes those working the wedding not just the guest.

Sorry this is happening to you.

Id say all the best and recovery, then I'd advise, check what the current rules and regulations are for covid, at this present time, and then plan accordingly.

I assume you will have elderly relatives at your wedding? You must warn people before your wedding to give them the opportunity to cancel. There is no way I would want my elderly mother to come in contact with you if you were still testing positive on the day.

I'm so sorry this has happened to you Op. I can imagine how awful this must be for you.

Do you have insurance?

We were in similar position - married July 16th, 2 days before restrictions ended last year. We were lucky enough that most key wedding party/ guests were negative but we did have 12 not attend.

We also had a last minute registrar change as he was positive. If he'd attended when positive the venue staff would potentially not have been able to do the weddings they had booked in the days following.

It's shit but your venue / priest/ registrar/ make up artist etc need to know really - if they come down with it then that's potentially a lot of other brides and grooms' days ruined.

@violetanemone did your wedding go ahead? x

@BlueBellsArePretty Yes it did thank you - we both tested negative the day before the wedding.

We'd ended up agreeing that we would cancel if either of us were still positive on the day (despite the money we'd spent and letting people down) - so it was a very stressful lead up, but we were lucky and had an amazing day.