A thread for (over?)optimistic Summer 2021 brides?

[harper30]

Hello all,
I'm hoping I might find my people, I don't want to bore the shit out of my friends and family by constantly talking about it, and fiancé is firmly in the very sensible 'play it by ear don't get too excited' camp, whereas I'm in the 'holy shit let's restart those Pinterest boards and start making ribbon bunting' phase again immediately after the announcement 😂
Our date is July 31st and so I think we're going to almost plan twice: once for a guest list of 30 max and then again for a bigger number if the restrictions really do lift, maybe like 80? (Our original list was 145 so not going to be quite so insane as to think that's happening.)
Is anyone else also resurrecting their plans for this July/August/September onwards?
Anyone up for some wedding chat??

@bellsbuss we sound so similar with the Etsy buys and the over cautious partners 😂 he's doing my head in to be honest with his '60 max' idea, it's not going to make any difference if I plan for 90 and we end up with 60! I won't be ordering the wine or confirming the food for a few months so it literally makes so little difference.
He's told his best man that his two boys (my partners god sons?!) might not be able to come if we only have 50 on the list??? He's really annoying me 😂

Although having said that I'd order the wine right now if it was up to me because it's 25% on the majestic website, although I've got nowhere to keep a ton of wine in our house at the right sort of temperature.
So I should maybe accept SOME of his caution. But that's us all over, impulsive vs sensible.

@harper30 OH has been annoying me with his negativity, every time I buy something for the wedding I hear why did you buy this or why did you buy that , we should wait I've stopped showing him now I didn't know majestic had an offer on, I need to order the wine and champagne and was waiting for Sainsbury's to do their 25 %. I'm allowing for 3 welcome drinks , 1/2 bottle each for the wedding breakfast and a glass for the toast but then think maybe I should allow more.

@harper30 that's exactly OH and I , he's always cautious and I'm always a tad too enthusiastic lol.

@bellsbuss I'm the same, I'm not telling him when I buy things 😂
I'm a bit lost with the drinks maths as well. We're buying all the booze for the whole day, there's no paid bar as it's a village hall. So I'm doing alcohol maths, like, two bottles of wine per person, and then also beers and pimms and things, for the whole day, but just because I would drink that much over the course of like 10 hours, doesn't mean everyone else would and I don't want to give everyone alcohol poisoning! But my worst fear is us running out of booze at like 9.30pm and everyone just leaving because of it 😂

😂 I didn't mean two bottles per person I meant one.

Or should it be two per person?? Will we all be passed out by the first dance?

Minefield

@harper30 I think things could get a bit messy if it's 2 bottles per person 😂 we have a paid bar at our venue but want to make sure there's enough for after the ceremony and during the wedding breakfast. I worked it out per 60 guests even though some don't drink and about 6 are children as we have some big drinkers coming. I'm worried il get over excited and drink too much, OH said just remember nobody wants to see a pissed up bride all our friends and family are so happy and excited for us as we've been together for such a long time. Our children are beyond excited too and it's really lovely that they will get to be part of our day .

Yeah I think two bottles of wine will kill everyone 😂
My mum reckons it's going to be like the 'roaring twenties' after prohibition ended and that everyone is going to want to go nuts in the summer 😂
You're right though I've told my bridemaids they're in charge of making sure I don't get too drunk on the day, like you said nothing worse than a pissed bride!

@bellsbuss it's so lovely that everyone is so excited for you after all this time!
We're in such a similar position, our daughter is nearly 3 (I ordered a flower girl dress for her yesterday 🙌🥰) and she's excited for the wedding. She keeps calling it 'daddy's wedding' 😂
And our families are excited but also a bit over it I think, we've had two dates before this and have been together nearly 10 years

@harper30 I was only saying to my sister yesterday that I think it's going to be like the roaring twenties. My sister thinks our wedding will be a bit crazy as it will be the first big event in a long time. Our wedding date is the only one we have had , it must have been very hard for you to keep changing it. I have out daughters as bridesmaid too though they are 17 and 23 and our eldest son who is 11 is a usher and our 5 year old is pageboy. I have all the dresses we just need to arrange the suits when the shops reopen.

Ergh had a long chat with the lady who runs the staffing company we had hired, she's not doing staffing for events anymore this year. She can't get insured for Covid to cover legal costs if there is an outbreak at a wedding her staff work at.
So no staff.
She was also saying most people she knows are having the wedding ceremony this summer and then a party for it next year.
Feel pretty deflated after all that.

@harper30 have you checked agencies who provide staff to the hospitality industry ? Or what about your local catering college, I've used students in their final year for large events I've hosted before ? Hope you get it sorted

Thank you that's a great idea 🥰

Can i join? We're 16th July (postponed from last summer)

We've buried our heads and planned virtually nothing!

Hi @Workyticket ☺️
I've been getting stuck in to planning but only in the past month really, since it's started to become a distinct possibility that it will actually happen 😂
How many guests you thinking?

@harper30 we originally had 80 during the day. We've definitely lost a few to holidays / change of circumstances but not sure whether that's way too ambitious

You?

I want to invite 80 or 90, DP thinks it should be 70 max. But I'm finishing the invites and sending them next week, and I'm doing all the legwork, so I think I'll invite 80-90 people 😂 I feel like just saying to him that if people are uncomfortable coming to a gathering that big, they just won't come? It's not something we (hopefully) have to manage really, as long as the numbers do go to unlimited and don't stay at 30

Our evening vendors won't come out for less than 80-90 covers so we'll be paying for that number either way, so inviting that many will just mean buying a bit more wine etc as far as I can see 🤷‍♀️

Hope you're all ok ladies, quite a bit to think about thanks to bo-bloody-jo eh?
Weddings with masks and no dancing? 🤦‍♀️

I'm so stressed We're booked for 29th July and initially I was like YAY more people! But if there's no dancing allowed and everyone has to sit down to drink, what sort of reception is that going to be?! Everyone's going to be bored stiff by 8.30! Ugh

@mrsplum101 exactly the same problem we have. We are July 10th. What are guests supposed to do if you can’t mix tables?

@PullingHairEverywhere it's so frustrating isn't it! I also don't understand why they've totally disregarded testing as a way to allow people to have dancing etc. Surely if everyone was tested, and I'm sure venues would be more than happy to facilitate it, that would be the safest way? Because at the moment they're saying you can have as many guests as you want as long as it's socially distanced, but realistically that's not going to happen and most venues aren't going to become the Covid police and march people back to their chairs so it's still a risk?! Argh!
The wedding taskforce are doing an Instagram live at 2.30pm to explain the guidance if anyone wants to watch that, hopefully it will clarify some things.

😩 it's all so difficult to figure out, we're on the 31st of July so maybe things will change again by then (but for the better or worse??? I don't know?)
I feel so much for people who have their days booked at proper venues as well. We're hiring a village hall and I've hired former students as staff so really no one will be policing us, we can do what we like/ignore the stricter elements. Especially if we ask guests to do a lateral flow test before they come that day.
There's a big fat headline on the dailymail online today about £10k fines for people who break wedding rules