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Imahappycamper101 · 16/05/2020 23:29

Hi, I’ve had to postpone my wedding from October to next end of next year. I’m devastated, in my head I was getting married this year and now it’s been taken away 🙁 I’ve explored every option to do it the date we wanted, we can’t. So now my dress comes in a few months and I’ve over a year to wait to wear it. My family and friends say they feel sorry for me but I don’t think they Understand the devastation I do. Anyone else feel so so sad the wedding has been put back a year? It might not seem much to younger folk, I’m getting closer to 40, plans for a family put on hold again..it feel like it’s never my time for anything, feeling very sorry for myself this week🙁

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lemongrassmartini2021 · 17/05/2020 13:13

I am in the same position, but try to think that its not cancelled, just postponed and put energy into enjoy and making the best out of this year as it is. We also have longer to plan and make our day extra special.

DianaT1969 · 17/05/2020 13:21

OP - have you considered getting married quietly as soon as the registry offices open instead? It seems a shame to put off starting a family when you are close to 40.

Onemorefortheroad · 17/05/2020 18:48

Feel your pain... ours was supposed to be March and we postponed to September. Have postponed again to March 2021but already wondering if we need to move it again 😭

Picklesprout · 17/05/2020 19:54

I was August and now may :( upset but also happy its moved now.. how long will it last before I start worrying about the new date?!

Cantdecidewhich · 18/05/2020 10:04

I was June now moved to June 2021 it's really horrid isn't it. I am worried I will have gone off my decorations and dress by then :)

Blue2020 · 18/05/2020 12:21

Ours is this August, we now have a backup date for August2021 incase our original date cannot happen. So we are relieved to have a back up date but unsure as to which is happening at the minute. Potentially 15 months to wait (+15 months since we got engaged) but if it means all our friends and family can attend then we can wait. We are looking to buy a house at some point in the future, so might move our energy and focus on that instead.

IndiaMay · 18/05/2020 12:27

I was early May and moved to 31st october. Not sure whether to move again yet, I still feel devastated at the first move, I also feel like it's never my time for anything (string of bad luck, nothings ever easy for me lol and this was the first thing I was really trying to enjoy for myself). Why is it you decided to move your October wedding? It's still 6 months away x

itsme · 18/05/2020 12:31

We moved from may 30th this year to 29th aug this year. We are looking on the bright side and could filter it down to minimum if we have to then have a reception at a later date.

TheDogsMother · 18/05/2020 12:31

We moved ours from 9th May to 30th October so I am hoping that date will be ok.

CurlyEndive · 19/05/2020 15:59

OP, at your age I honestly wouldn't put off starting a family, even if you have to postpone your wedding.

Lyricallie · 19/05/2020 16:03

@IndiaMay

I'm the same moved from May to 31/10/2020. Fingers crossed it happens. Although slightly concerned that people are moving their October weddings!

lovinglavidaloca · 22/05/2020 23:05

We’re still in for October.

I honestly can’t believe this has happened. I still have stuff to book and now I’m booking stuff knowing it may well not even go ahead Sad

And if we have to change dates some of our suppliers might not be free.

AnxiousElephant77 · 22/05/2020 23:18

We're still in for December but our venue have let us provisionally book the same date next year. Really hoping we don't need to use it.

lovinglavidaloca · 22/05/2020 23:36

That’s good Elephant. Has that taken a bit of weight off your mind even knowing you have that date secure?

I sort of asked about that but they don’t seem keen at the moment - I’m assuming they want to keep as many dates open next year for the brides having to cancel in the next couple of months.

Ours is an exclusive use venue so I’m not sure if that helps our case or not.

ImInYourMindFuzz · 02/06/2020 12:15

I’m late to the party but our wedding was supposed to be this weekend. I had been feeling ok about it but as the date approaches I feel more sad. And now I had a lovely call from John Lewis to tell us that none of our costs can be reclaimed as we decided to postpone rather than a supplier cancelling. So having a cry about that now. Wedding insurance is a scam.

Aelin · 05/06/2020 18:23

I was supposed to be getting married in August this year. Unbelievably, I have managed to postpone almost everything to the same date next year at no extra cost, and I haven't lost a penny. The only trouble I have had is that my florist is closed and I have no way of letting them know until they open again. I am upset, but the way I see it is I have another year to save up. Bright part of this ladies, we can always cancel it if they get on our nerves 😂

Fattyboom · 13/06/2020 10:18

Today should have been our wedding day, I'm gutted

NaePies · 13/06/2020 10:23

@Fattyboom Flowers
Sorry to hear that

Bridecilla · 04/07/2020 21:51

We were meant to b 17th if this month. Now postponed till next July. I've felt ok up till this week. I've just picked up my bridesmaids dresses which was a bit deflating.

We've managed to book a table at our venue for lunch on what should have been our wedding day though so that'll be nice

roundtwotooto · 12/08/2020 00:00

Anyone still around to commiserate with?

So far our wedding is still going ahead but we can’t get married where we wanted to at the venue (the whole reason we’d chosen the place), we can’t eat where we were meant to be eating, can’t have any music in case people sing or dance, all three of our ‘bubbles’ will be sat at separate tables etc. I’m absolutely devastated and torn between being grateful it’s not been cancelled because I don’t want to have to plan it all again to wishing it had been because it’s not the wedding we booked and it’s not the wedding we’re paying for. Because it CAN go ahead, if we cancel we lose everything.

I’m so sad about it and feel so angry at myself that I chose the date I did. Even though obviously I could never have predicted this.

Onemorefortheroad · 12/08/2020 08:57

We were supposed to be March, then September and now next March. I'm holding out in the hope that we can have a few more guests but feels increasingly unlikely 😞

roundtwotooto · 12/08/2020 09:09

What were your original numbers meant to be onemore?

Onemorefortheroad · 13/08/2020 16:05

We had around 120 day guests and maybe about another 20-30 at night. I went through my numbers to see what the very minimum people I would want to go ahead with and it's around 70 :-(

acupofteamakeseverythingbetter · 13/08/2020 16:48

I completely understand ladies, it's so horrible isn't it? I feel guilty for feeling so sad about the whole situation but it isn't ideal! We're supposed to be getting married at the beginning of October but we are going to postpone until April but our venue won't let us move it until 4 weeks before the wedding. Absolutely stressed and gutted, this wasn't the excited and happy lead up to our wedding that we had imagined.

Onemorefortheroad · 13/08/2020 16:56

Agree. I know there's a lot of bigger things going on but this just wasn't how it was supposed to be. Can't even look forward to it as it's the unknown as to whether it goes ahead. When we moved to September originally I was sure it would be going ahead and yet here we are!