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Wedding October 2020

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Bronzedoor72 · 19/04/2020 21:53

We are (hopefully) getting married in October this year, everyone is telling us to wait until the end of May before making a decision about postponing it. However, we have been very laid back about planning, still need to book band, flowers, suits, invites, cake and all the other small things for the day. The dresses were only ordered a few weeks before lockdown and they take 6 months to be made so I don’t know if they will be ready in time. Should we keep booking stuff and assume it’ll go ahead?
I always thought 6 months before my wedding would be an exciting time but now it’s full of worry. Obviously everyone being healthy is the most important thing so if we have to postpone we will.
Any advice would be appreciated

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snidgetowl · 20/04/2020 10:15

We are in exactly the same position as you! We have been very laidback as well, so we still have things like suits, evening entertainment, decorations etc left to book but don't know what to do at the moment. I can definitely empathise with your last paragraph - I don't feel excited at all for the wedding at the moment as it's full of uncertainty. We're hoping to go ahead even if it means a limited guest list, so am holding out for now, as there is no knowing whether a second or a third wave will hit later this year, or next year during the spring again. Our venue hasn't recommended postponing yet, so we're just sitting tight for now.

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Bronzedoor72 · 21/04/2020 23:55

I’ve contacted the dress place and they have said they are expecting delivering in the normal time scale. Our worry is the social distancing, we struggled to get our guest list under 100- now the thought of halving it again 😩 I wonder when venues will give advice. Is your wedding all in hotel or registry office?

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Bronzedoor72 · 21/04/2020 23:55

Sorry should have @snidgetowl

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Wolfgirrl · 22/04/2020 00:22

In exactly the same position! We are giving it till June before making a decision.

snidgetowl · 22/04/2020 10:34

@Bronzedoor72 The social distancing is worrying us as well. We have 150 guests at the moment, so cutting it down would mean a lot of family wouldn't be able to come. We're getting married in a chapel and then having the reception at the hotel. Chapel weddings are on hold indefinitely at the moment, so just waiting to hear when that will be lifted, but the hotel is still expecting things to carry on as normal. Have your venue said anything?
I haven't contacted my dress shop yet, I saw online that they were trying to sort out spring brides at the moment so didn't want to hassle them. I ordered my bridesmaids dresses the weekend before lockdown, and they should be ready by June, if the factory has been able to produce them.

bravotango · 22/04/2020 11:57

We've postponed ours until 6th March 2021 - couldn't face the hassle of dress fittings etc not being available until September for an October wedding! Also lots of family/friends abroad that might not be able to travel so just biting the bullet and delaying for 6 months.

JorisBonson · 23/04/2020 13:31

We've postponed ours until the end of October (was supposed to be June) and I'm getting increasingly edgy about it now.

AnxiousElephant77 · 23/04/2020 22:19

Mine is December and over the past 2 days I've become very edgy too! Looks unlikely at this stage.

CreamWhitecakes · 24/04/2020 14:59

Ours was meant to be at the end of May. We have rescheduled until the end of Oct and now thinking was it a good idea Hmm
It can drive you mad!

However the economy has to get back on it's feet and we cannot continue another 6 months of lock-down. Perhaps there will be a cap on the number of guests? Perhaps the rules will be along the lines of if you are ill you have to self isolate
I hear that Italy and Spain are easing their restrictions slowly in May. We are about 4 weeks behind. I think the worry would be a second wave of the virus.

I think by the end of June things will be back to some normality and I cannot see weddings being banned until January 2021. There is also the issue of the back log of wedding that have been cancelled.
For places such as registry offices they cannot simply stop for 9 months.

AnxiousElephant77 · 24/04/2020 15:03

Finally a reply Smile

I'm just over here having a nervous breakdown. My worry is the comments about 'disruptive social distancing' until there's a vaccine. We don't really have any vulnerable guests, but we do have about 100 people. It's so shit, because I know it's a stupid thing to worry about at a time like this, but it's supposed to be exciting, not stressful and on a knife edge!

CreamWhitecakes · 24/04/2020 17:25

You're allowed to be upset. I felt guilty for being so upset but actually you're allowed!
I think it's best not to look for advice (easier said than done). No one knows, literally no one is an expert because it's a new virus.
What I'd say is just expect it to happen especially with it being 6 months away.
People will riot if this continues for months that's the truth
People will get fatigued by this and the economy will implode.
And if we have to cancel in Oct...again...it means we're in such a bad state as a world the wedding/marriage won't matter at all.

Look at it this way. By Oct ppl will want a big party!

AnxiousElephant77 · 24/04/2020 17:57

I'm going to try and put out some positive energy, I've found myself in a terrible slump, thank you for replying Smile

CreamWhitecakes · 24/04/2020 19:30

I feel the same Flowers you need to be kind to yourself and take time to be upset don't feel guilty for feeling down.
Perhaps write down plan A,B and C about the different scenarios that might happen and what you will do then switch off from it, don't over analyse because until it gets to September no one knows. Plan you're getting married in Oct because it is likely it will happen.

As someone who has had to cancel it once it's not too bad on a practical level and emotionally it's disappointing but you realise it will happen at some point.

We are confident to reschedule for Oct. We know it may not happen but we'll pick it up again and move it again. X

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Bronzedoor72 · 26/04/2020 04:16

My dad has for the letter from the doctors to shield, that worries me! We won’t go ahead with the wedding without our parents there. Do the people rescheduling for October think weddings will go ahead then? I’ve heard a lot of people locally rearranging may/June wedding to October. Maybe the October dates will get done before the next wave of covid?

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AnxiousElephant77 · 26/04/2020 10:50

I've heard lots of postponements to October as well but I'm not convinced at this stage due to the large gatherings issue.

Elbels · 26/04/2020 13:47

Ours is September and I think this weekend we've made a decision to postpone but need to find out what the options are for our venue.

AnxiousElephant77 · 26/04/2020 14:34

Our venue isn't even open. We've had an email which says as the restrictions don't currently affect our wedding, there aren't any options at this stage.

Truthpact · 26/04/2020 18:32

Honestly I've made a separate smaller guest list for my wedding early next year, just incase. It's looking like hotels, restaurants etc might not open until December this year, and that will only be for small numbers potentially. So by early next year, it could be the same.

I'm probably just being nuts though, but as others have found, it's hard just having the numbers under a small amount (mine was 60), imagine having to take that down to 20?

Hopefully though it will all go ahead as normal. Smile

AnxiousElephant77 · 26/04/2020 18:36

When you say 'it's looking like', has that actually been reported anywhere? I wouldn't have thought the majority of these establishments will even exist if they have to wait until December.

Elizadoeslittle19 · 26/04/2020 21:44

@AnxiousElephant77 ... I think there has been some reports in the press this weekend that social distancing measures could remain in place until December. What exactly that means or if it will be the case I don't suppose anyone knows for sure.
My wedding was due to be in September, we resigned ourselves to the fact it would be postponed a a couple of weeks ago. This last week we have been trying reorganise a suitable date and it looks as though we are having to postpone as far as spring 2022 !!! At first I was gutted.... angry
upset and lots of other emotions, but after a few days of getting used to it... thankful that both of our families are still safe and healthy, there's not a lot we can do and it's something to look forward to... Smile

Truthpact · 26/04/2020 23:15

@AnxiousElephant77

It could just be up here, I'm in Scotland. Sturgeon is planning a phased out lockdown, and hotels, restaurants etc will be last to open. But considering they think social distancing will last at least the rest of the year it might not be until then that they open. We seem to be a bit behind the curve in cases to be honest or at least my area does so I don't think we've seen it's peak yet. Maybe the whole of the UK hasn't though, we don't know sadly.

Ifihadapoundd · 30/04/2020 14:46

I'm in the same boat. We are due to get married the start of October. We are having a very small day time ceremony so can not reduce our number for the evening. We are waiting to see what happens towards the end of May and go from there. I have waited five years for this and I am truly heart broken that there is a high chance we won't be getting married this year. At the moment I am trying not to think about it. I keep telling myself what ever happens I will eventually marry the man I love 🤞

AnxiousElephant77 · 30/04/2020 14:58

I'm really upset too and ashamed to admit how much it's getting me down. We've been together 8 years Confused

whitershadeofpale · 01/05/2020 19:07

Me too. We want to ttc straight after the wedding. We don’t really want to delay for to our ages but I know we’ll never have that ‘proper wedding’ if we have to delay. It’s only fairly small and I feel quite selfish for being worried/ upset but I was really looking forward to something beautiful and intimate and feel some of the joy is taken away even by this uncertainly.

Mummyme87 · 04/05/2020 22:26

We have been postponed from Easter 2020 to end of November. Praying it goes ahead. Been together over 7yrs, 2 children, engaged over 4yrs and booked original date in May 2018!!!

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