Wedding October 2020

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We are (hopefully) getting married in October this year, everyone is telling us to wait until the end of May before making a decision about postponing it. However, we have been very laid back about planning, still need to book band, flowers, suits, invites, cake and all the other small things for the day. The dresses were only ordered a few weeks before lockdown and they take 6 months to be made so I don’t know if they will be ready in time. Should we keep booking stuff and assume it’ll go ahead?
I always thought 6 months before my wedding would be an exciting time but now it’s full of worry. Obviously everyone being healthy is the most important thing so if we have to postpone we will.
Any advice would be appreciated

Do you think June 2021 will be safe?

I think asking about June 2021 to people worrying about October 2020 is a bit off, really.

Who knows? No one knows. I would expect so, but who knows?

Ah sorry didn’t mean to be rude

It's ok, can you tell I'm a bit tetchy about it?!

Sorry.

I'm sure it will be fine but that's based on er, absolutely nothing. For what it's worth I wish mine was booked for June 2021

I agree with @AnxiousElephant77 , no date is safe. But if they finally introduce track and trace (who cares about privacy at this point if we could return to normal-ish life by following other countries’ lead), events could become safe.

We are due to get married in Oct 2020, we are in Scotland. We haven't made a decision about postponing but I've manged to get in touch with the venues to ask for their opinions. They say if social distancing is still in place, it can go ahead but with only us two... Going to wait until the end of June and revisit

My venue have allowed me to keep our current date in December, but also provisionally book the same date next year. It's not ideal to have to wait another twelve months but I feel a lot better having a back up plan.

@whoisjoe I’ve PMd you

I'm in the same position.... I said to myself I'd wait to June, but it's getting close to that and I still don't know what my wedding will look like. Still have quite a lot to organise as well - mens suits and bridesmaids dresses being the main things.

I'm fairly sure at this point we'll be allowed a 'wedding' but completely in the air as to whether we can have everyone we want or if it will be limited to people that can fit 2 metres away from everyone else. Kind of ruins a wedding reception....

I really don't want to postpone, we've been together 8 and 1/2 years and engaged 4 come October, and I just don't want to wait another year.

Have had suggestions of getting married, then next year, either asap or on the anniversary, holding a reception and even a blessing but then do I bother with a big white dress? For the marriage, which will be 30 mins in a registry office, then no doubt clearing off home... or for the reception, which is basically just a party. I've bought the dress, and even if I hadn't I feel like I'd never get the chance to wear one if I didn't do it. Feel almost childish saying "But I want to wear a big pretty dress!!!"

I just don't know where to comprise? On the 'date' we get married or the 'day' we have? It's the "it's the marriage that's important" vs "you only get married once"

I'm sorry, I totally didnt mean to write that much...I feel like everyone is giving me conflicting ideas and I just don't know what I want. Sounds really horrid, I feel like if I postpone and it's all good by October, I'll really have regretted making the decision to move it....