Partner and I getting married. Several children between us from previous marriages and one together. Neither of us like being centre of attention however, so planned on just being us and all the kids with 2 random witnesses in a registry office. 2 randomers simply because you invite person A, you have to invite person b and then person c....and before you know it there's a room full of people that you don't want there! We are closer to certain friends than we are even to immediate family and it feels wrong to invite one group and not the other. HERES where we are stumped- after the marriage we would like to do something with all our friends and families to celebrate. Drinks, food etc all very casual. No speeches, no master of ceremony, no cutting the cake, no great big line up to welcome our guests. I feel physically sick at the thought of even having to do that. We want it as low key as possible- but do we do a sit down meal? Do we do a big buffet? Will people even want to come if they aren't invited to the ceremony (even though absolutely no one is