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Wedding favours

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ButterflyOne1 · 29/08/2019 14:28

Hi all

My sister is getting married and has asked me to organise her favours (I've offered to help and she'll pay). I was trying to think of something different but wanted to ask your thoughts. What's your best favours, here are my ideas so far.

  • Soap for the women
  • Miniature bottle of whiskey for the men
  • Bottle openers for both men and women
  • Love heart sweets (personalised) for both
  • Luggage tag (couple loves to travel)
  • Tote bag
OP posts:
SheWoreBlueVelvet · 30/08/2019 14:11

How would they know why you chose their table

It was just to see who could come up with something entertaining if they didn’t want to write the normal “we hope you’ll be very happy together” stuff.
There were a couple of tables that came up with witty answers. I had told one of my friends that I would be very disappointed if the guest book didn’t have a penis in it, so her table did a very artistic postcard with one in face glitter and wedding decorations.

I think my mum took lots of pens early doors though because she really liked them.

HeadintheiClouds · 30/08/2019 14:12

How nice.

MaggieFS · 30/08/2019 21:53

We had homemade jam which my mum had made from home grown fruit, and put in mini jars. I wasn't overly bothered but she was keen and it seemed a lovely idea. It went down well and although I'd been worried about it being too bulky for bags, only about 10% were left behind (but were then taken by others).

If it hadn't been that, I think we might not have bothered or might have done packets of seeds in personalised enveloped which is another idea I like, and can easily fit in small bags or pockets.

bamboocat · 31/08/2019 00:23

After Eights come in mini boxes with about 5 in - how about those?

And I like the idea of the personalised pens.

Either edible or small and functional, that's the way to go.

HennyPennyHorror · 31/08/2019 02:50

I think After Eights are a bit naff unless you want to go for a retro feel.

hazandduck · 31/08/2019 03:02

@MaggieFS we did the homemade jam too as we got married in the orchard where the fruit grew at my mum’s. We had afternoon tea so all of it got eaten on the day, which is what we wanted as we know what a pain it can be taking crap from weddings home! We did make way too much though and are still eating jars of it now two years on...!

saraclara · 31/08/2019 03:26

My daughter was on a tight budget. She bought lots of good quality chocolate coins and white card, and stuck two or three coins on each card, with (She has gorgeous copper plate handwriting) "for richer for poorer", her and the groom's names, and the date handwritten on each.
Most people ate them, but they were tiny enough for some guests to take home for their kids.

tararabumdeay · 31/08/2019 03:37

Torch - into the Light of Love and I can imagine a crazy lighter anthem going on.

Search Key Ring Torch; they're 40p each (depending on quantity ordered) and really do the job.

Oh and a chocolate too because one shouldn't eat a torch.

CucinaBreakfast · 31/08/2019 03:39

We did mix tape style cds as our favours, and 7 years on people still listen to them in their cars. But dh is keen on music, he did the play lists for the whole wedding (which the favours were based on) so it kind of fit for us. Also not sure if cds are a bit 1990s..! Good luck

thatmustbenigelwiththebrie · 31/08/2019 03:56

The only thing I would like as a guest is sweets or chocolate.

Any kind of trinket or tree decoration or pin badge I would probably just leave behind.

hazandduck · 31/08/2019 04:35

@CucinaBreakfast we got a new car recently and I was upset (and felt really old) to discover we don’t even have a CD player any more :(

CucinaBreakfast · 31/08/2019 04:44

hazandduck oh dear lord stop the world i want to get off!

AtillatheHun · 31/08/2019 10:18

@CucinaBreakfast I hope they were properlylicensed and not dodgy home ripped pirate cds! (That’s like giving stolen goods as a wedding favour)

siriusblackthemischieviouscat · 31/08/2019 12:42

My advise is don't spend too much time or money on them. I spent hours writing on little Christmas decorations and filled them with wedding confetti and two chocolates thinking they could use the decorations on their tree (we married at Christmas time). I was gutted to see all these open decorations left on the tables.

I went to a wedding and we all got a kinder egg. That was good as we had something sweet to eat and we had fun messing around with the toys

SheWoreBlueVelvet · 01/09/2019 10:12

siriusblackthemischieviouscat Oh no, that’s really sad. SadI’m sure people thought they were lovely but lots of people have enough odd decorations maybe.

StrongInside · 01/09/2019 12:53

Jumping on the favour bandwagon so save creating an identical thread.

What are some practical favours that would work for men and women? I have seen some place name holders doubling up as favours, but that would probably end up in the bin, or giving pashminas to cover up if it’s chilly that guests can take home. Doesn’t help with both sexes though.

I get that no one wants to carry lots of things home, but I can’t be the only one who wouldn’t drink from a miniature alcohol bottle and doesn’t like love hearts/Skittles??

StrongInside · 01/09/2019 14:08

Siriusblackthemischievouscat, how rude of the guests! Even if they didn’t want the decorations, they could have binned them discreetly, although I would always find a space in my pocket, bag or HANDS to carry the thoughtful handmade decoration home! Miniature bottles of spirits that neither myself or my partner drink would, on the other hand, probably be left behind for other guests to take.

InDubiousBattle · 01/09/2019 14:14

My sister is making a load of those charms that go on wine glasses. Each one has the guests initials on, useful-ish on the day and small to take home .

StrongInside · 01/09/2019 14:36

InDubiousBattle, nice idea! I can see a lot of guests forgetting them after they have put the glasses down though. I have found an idea of a set of heart-shaped measuring spoons with a ‘Love Beyond Measure’ tag, kind of useful and small too.

timetochangeagainforever · 01/09/2019 15:06

We gave (in 2002) each guest a small personalised 'thank you for coming' envelope with a packet of wild flower seeds and a stretch card. Wouldn't do the scratch card now though as they were a novelty then but tacky now. I wanted the flower seeds and ex wanted the scratch cards. However, in his defence, it was fun seeing everyone seeing if they'd won and a few won a tenner! Was lovely getting photos of the flowers growing though. Now, I think I would have flowers seeds still and a charity pin

Ribeebie · 01/09/2019 15:33

We did a charity pin badge each and little striped bags of pic 'n' mix sweets - bought sweets in bulk and packed them up ourselves (I used to do that as a job in a little sweet shop as a teen). We stuck our 'monogram ' on the paper bag of sweets.
Everyone took both items home/ate them there. I've also got pics of the day that show people wearing the badges after the meal.

I'd be annoyed if DH got alcohol and I got soap - I don't use soap bars. Most people I know don't. My sister had her wedding last year and had alcohol minarets but had a hierarchy - so close family/ friends got the better quality ones - there was definitely some grumbling from guests about that!!

We have been to a lovely wedding recently and were given some wildflower seeds which was nice.

I had 8 children at the wedding - did little activity bags for the older kids - stickers, sweets, and a disposable camera with a list of photos to take - e.g selfie with grandad etc, and got a little board book for the 2 that were under 1.

hazandduck · 01/09/2019 15:58

I think @StrongInside the times I’ve forgotten my favour it wasn’t intentional, it is usually if I am too busy having a good time and then the tables are cleared before I’ve gone back to my table! So not necessarily an insult to the bride and groom.

chocolatesaltyballs22 · 01/09/2019 16:03

We had personalised shot glasses engraved with our names and wedding date. I know that everyone took them home and we have a few and use them. Our venue provided a small bag of sweets for everyone so we just got the shot glasses for the adults, then the kids had something as well. Have also seen personalised espresso cups.

HeadintheiClouds · 01/09/2019 16:28

If scratch cards are tacky now they must have been tacky then, too, timetochange. Sorry to rub it in but your reasoning just doesn’t work.

Nicecupofcoco · 01/09/2019 16:34

Hi, sorry not read all of thread but I'd suggest couple of truffles perhaps wrapped nicely! Can't go wrong with something edible.