Invite for wedding in 11 days?

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Just received an invitation to a family wedding in 11 days time.

It's in my home country which is a two leg flight totalling around 22 hours (which we've neither the leave or budget for)
Two kids whom aren't on the invite but would obviously have to come as we have no childcare options at all .

This is a token invite right ?
It was posted about a week ago from the post mark .

A sibling and they forgot to invite their sister?

youngestisapsycho
They had been engaged for a while but no , today was our first notification of the wedding.

Form for being disorganised and forgetful
You forget to put out the recycling bin. You don't forget to invite your sibling to your wedding.

So I messaged DM ( time zone means I only really catch her at weekends on the phone) saying it's really put me in a really awkward spot with work, kids school etc .She said that the couple realize that but couldn't I get emergency leave ?

Emergency leave is when your child or partner is sick. Not for a lazy disorganised siblings wedding.

Just say no. It's too far and too expensive and you can't take time off work. The 11-day notice is the perfect get out clause anyway.

If they realise you've work, kids etc to organise them they really should have given more than 11 days notice. Don't be guilt tripped into going. They're being ridiculous, you know they're being ridiculous and they know that you know that they're being ridiculous. 😁

Another brilliant and thoughtful message has just popped through,
"It's cool, people who don't need a years notice for EVERYTHING are going to be there .It's you guys choice to live abroad and be slaves to not being spontaneous."

I would send back this face 😂 and not reply after that. What nutters!

God I was going to say you should go when you said it was a sibling - but after that message they can sod off!

I wouldn't even respond to it. Send a card if you wish but I wouldn't send a gift. Totally inconsiderate of them.

Oh wow. After that response I'd say that you had just thought of trying to get emergency leave but have decided not to!

Did your DM tell you how long the wedding has been planned for?

Or as other people have said, just ignore it. You've been polite. Their attitude sucks.

oh that's so rude of them

I'd ignore it. Don't waste any more brain cells thinking about going.

I would say
Yes unfortunately we have different lifestyles. You should have taken an interest in mine to know may need more time, atleast to save for four tickets. I bet they won’t even appreciate if you went alone, will still be moody everyone didn’t go.

I think it has been intended to be last minute if I am honest.
I mean they do know that you have kids, job and commitments so surely if they really wanted you to be there then they would have gave notice prior to 2 weeks before.
It’s a hard one but well I couldn’t do it and I have no kids and as you have said that flights are involved then how do they not know that you may have to renew your passport.

I take it you are not close to this sibling.

I would ignore, that is one snotty message.

oh that's true, it could be set up so they can say they invited you....

still thinking ignore!

or send them an audio clip of Billy Joel "My life"

Did your DM tell you how long the wedding has been planned for?
No she wasn't in the loop really.
The brides family organised it.

So it's your brother? He couldn't be arsed to invite you until 11 days before the wedding, and now he thinks it's acceptable to send you abuse when you decline. He knows you work and have kids right?

I would either ignore him, or send a cutting, but not abusive, message back.

They are bonkers. Get them to send you pics and just stay at home