Is my wedding rubbish?

[ATrainSeat]

Sorry, I know there’s been a couple of these but I’m interested if there’s anything I can improve so people will enjoy our wedding, or whether you’d enjoy it as it is?

3pm - get married. the whole day is all in one location and we’re wanting it to be quite relaxed.
3.30/3.45 - After the wedding there’s some small canapés and a welcome drink for everyone, not sure which drink to go for so ideas would be great for this! I’ll make sure there’s flat drinks though. I’m also considering putting a basket out with various packets of crisps in incase anyone gets hungry?
5pm - afternoon tea, including some savoury bits eg cheeseboard, small pies. Two glasses of wine or beer provided plus a toasting drink.
7.30 - evening guests arrive, possible welcome drink for them?
8pm - cut cake, first dance
8.30 - hog roast, halloumi burgers for veggies l, some sort of vegan option that I haven’t sorted yet. Large salad bits buffet to go with eg pastas, coleslaws, etc. Dessert buffet including the wedding cake but also cheesecakes, brownies etc.

Evening is a DJ, there’s two rooms so one will have the dj in, the other will have sofas for people who prefer chatting:

We’re not having any ‘entertainment’ which worries me a bit. We’re having a DIY photo/video wall but nothing else other than the DJ. The venue is about 30 mins from home, so we’ve offered to organise minibuses for people from the local town, although can’t really afford to offer free transport so would be looking at about £10 per person. What’s the verdict? Haha! I just want people to enjoy themselves and have a good time.

Oh and importantly, we haven’t asked for money (or anything) in the invitation

I think anyone who would leave a good friend's wedding early so they could have a meal with vegetables would be a massive knob tbh!

I'm fully intending to RSVP my next invite with "will there be vegetables?"

I think anyone who would leave a good friend's wedding early so they could have a meal with vegetables would be a massive knob tbh!

They'd leave because the only available food in 6+ hours would be unhealthy junk and eventually hunger would take priority.

I have a terrible craving for nasty crisps now.

So your best friend is getting married hundred and you've filled up on a big lunch of crudités but the thought of going through until early evening when you' have a bbq (with presumably some salads/sides) is far too much for you and you ditch your best friend's wedding celebrations in search of a courgette?

I mean I guess I could put some carrots out with the afternoon tea or something...

I promise catering for dietary requirements is a priority. My vegan brother is very important to me, and my BIL can’t eat gluten so I’ll make sure they definitely have proper alternatives.

In all honesty there will be salad and stuff alongside the hog roast. I don’t think we’ve invited anyone who’s going to hate the food we’re offering.

Oh and sorry I didn’t mention it, but there’s absolutely tea being served with the afternoon tea!

But in my world, the majority of people are fairly health focussed so they wouldn't want to eat cakes or sandwiches so afternoon tea would be a disaster.

Your world sounds fucking boring. Kale and cress sandwiches! Ignore shit like this....afternoon tea is a great idea. I hate the whole sitting down to a three course meal that inevitably tastes like shite but cost you £70 a head - it's for one day, guests aren't going to die if they don't get their 5 a day! Do what YOU want OP! Your day sounds exactly like the sort of wedding I'd have fun going to!

Sounds lovely op. The crisps are a good idea, I'd go for posh in a nice basket but now you've said space raiders I'm not sure, quite partial to a pack of them.

I'd like pimms as a welcome drink if summer.

ATrainSeat it's sounds lovely, I'd be very happy at your wedding! I hate wankiness and overly formal nonsense

Sounds good to me. Perhaps you could serve strawberries and satsuma segments or chopped grapes with the afternoon tea, wouldn't want people getting scurvy after all

I think it sounds good. The secret to good weddings is really to make the guests happy ( food and drink) and leave them thinking it’s special to you.
Some of my guests had been to two or three weddings in the same year. Don’t do anything because it’s “what you do at weddings”.
Another round of the same routine gets tedious and doesn’t feel authentic. Do you. In everything. Cheap or expensive just make sure it reflects you and you husband to be.

Sounds like a fantastic day. But don’t be worried about what people are going to think concentrate on making it perfect for you and husband to be. As long as your both are happy That’s all that matters at the end of the day. It’s a special day for the couple and everyone will invited will have a good time regardless x

Oh I haven’t invited my partner, he’d just get in the way tbh!

Great response to an unnecessary snarky question

HundredMilesAnHour's post is fucking hilarious too. For a different reason.

Monster Munch pickled onion flavour (veg, right?!)

Food sounds great but I'd be worried about the two split rooms. I think you'd find noone on the dance floor for a long time..esp if they have to leave the seats in another room rather than people hopping up and down song depending!

Square crisps, wotsits and quavers. You need them.

It sounds perfect. I have been to a couple of afternoon tea weddings and there was plenty of food.

You’ve missed scampi fries!

Hahaha it made me laugh to be honest, as it’s just so far off the mark!

Yeah I am a bit worried about the two rooms thing... there will be the majority of chairs etc in the main room and most people I’m inviting are very keen on the dance floor so I’ll just have to make sure I’m on it to set a good impression 😂

Sounds lovely - I agree with moving everything forward by 30 mins

I wasn't too keen on the crisps, but am now regretting now tracking down those piglet crisps we used to fight over in primary school for our wedding

I’ve been to loads of 3pm weddings and it’s always been a free canapés then an early buffet at say 8pm. Personally I don’t think you need afternoon tea. Otherwise it seems like you’re constantly feeding people!

I also agree that two rooms may cause a problem. We had an evening do and it was a gorgeous day so people sat outside and it caused a real divide which I hadn’t considered

Sorry if I've missed it upthread but a cash and carry would be a good place to go for boxes of crisps (though the school disco vibe mightn't be what you're after).
Congrats, OP, and enjoy your day - sounds like it'll be amazing!

Sounds lovely! If you can afford it I'd do more than one drink provided in that first 1.5 hours. The rest sounds amazing and your food/timings all sound perfect to me.

I wouldn't worry about sorting transport. Just point people in the right direction if necessary.