Mother In Law insisting on inviting guest

[AliceLilac]

I’m getting married in May 2020 and although it’s far away, an unwanted guest is causing me stress.

I get on really well with my mother in law however myself and the whole family really dislike her best friend. We’ve told her clearly that only guests attending the whole day and evening are welcome at the church. She reacted to this by saying it’s a public place and that her friend will be coming. I know she’s right about it being a public place but why would she want to go knowing she isn’t invited?

She has since told other family members that she is going to speak to my fiancée on his own to try and change his mind. His dad died when he was young so she is using the guilt card and has angrily said “well who’s going to support me on the day?”

Her friend is extremely controlling, negative and opinionated and will insult all the choices I’ve made. For my sister in laws wedding, she insisted on being in the bridal suite and interfeared with lots of mother of the bride tasks and took over the day. There are also rooms available at the venue and we’ve already said it is family only staying and she’s said no, my friend is staying with me in the room!

The only reason she’s an evening guest is because of my mother in law!

Why can’t she understand our choices and let it be our day?

I’d elope as well

Just say ‘ hello f you keep insisting we will cancel the wedding and go abroad’ and leave some magazines open on Las Vagas

Why do we let people railroad us on wedding days? Why should any one put up with negativity on their day?

What did SIL make of this woman’s interfering and did she tell MIL

Or you could tell your MIL she can come but only if your MIL promises to keep her in line?

I let my mum bring a friend of hers to my wedding despite us not liking each other and she sat there with a face like a slapped arse all evening. I resented her being there as there were people I actually liked that I hadn't invited to keep numbers down.

Your partner needs to speak to his mum about this if you don't want her there.

Most weddings we go to the parents get to bring a friend..usually a couple. We have been that couple on a few occasions. It means later as the younger people are all dancing and having fun together the parents have someone familiar there they can fall back on. I won't need that at my dcs wedding as have a big family but some do as don't have that support.
Its not worth making a fuss. Graciously invite her as it will make mil happy and you want to get off to a good start. Your dp could have a serious word with her telling her she better keep her friend in line. But its obvious mil will find it hard not having her dh there for their sons big day. Cut her some slack and invite her . Don't wait until there is a big row. Do it in the right way.
You will be having so much fun you won't give a dam. Just completely ignore her on the day and leave mil responsible for her.

Christ. Just invite her and stop being so bloody precious. It is an important day for MIL too. You know her best friend, you know her limitiations. Nothing will shock you as you expect it. Just roll your eyes and be done.

Going on her past behaviour she will be a pain in the ass. If it was me I wouldn’t want to deal with that on my wedding day. Does your MIL understand why you don’t want to invite her? Are there other people she will know well?

'Christ. Just invite her and stop being so bloody precious.'

Agree

All this and wedding not until next year

Ugh

Assuming she is a fully functioning adult why the fuck does she need supporting??
Bizarre indeed.
We uninvited mil.
Just an idea op!!
Her friend will be like Where's Wally on all your pics!!

He’s spoken to her and she’s going to tell her she’s only an evening guest! Relief!