Stressed M.O.B

[Maverick66]

Any advice for a mother of the bride?
Trying to stay calm
My daughter is doing few things with regard to invites which are not right and I'm finding it difficult not to interfere.

Busy yourself with other stuff ?
What's she doing that is not right and that will help with the nature of the responses?

Not right? Is she having them delivered by ostrich?
It’s not your wedding. Stay out of it.

Do not interfere - that is all

Yes, try and find something to do that is nothing to do with someone else’s wedding!

Depends on how they’re ‘not right’?

Not your wedding. She can do exactly as she pleases.

When she has children, will you be dictating how she parents?

What do you mean by 'not right'?
We need more information but agree with pp that it's her wedding so leave her to it.

As other posters have said, it's not really any of your business. Perhaps find something else to occupy your time

Find something else to do then.

You know, something that is actually worth thinking about.

Also, my MIL would have a fit at the use of 'invites' instead of 'invitations' (something I didn't realise was incorrect until the subject of my own wedding invitations came up!)

I too get very worked up by the use of 'invite' instead of 'invitation' but I fear that ship has sailed as EVERYONE does this now.

You would help us a bit OP if you could tell us what you think your dd is doing wrong?

If it's just a case of her not inviting who you think is appropriate then I'm afraid you do have to bite your tongue. Her weddibg her rules.

Depends what's wrong? Are you just interfering or is it a real faux pas

Thanks everyone.
General opinion from you all is for me to mind my ow business.
That's what I'll do 🤐

In the interests of anyone else contemplating a wedding, I think we need to know what she's done.

You could be doing a public service my telling us so none of us fall in to the same track.

Many thanks in advance.
From, A bride to be about to send her invitations... :)

• Fall into the same trap, that should say.

Sorry @Botanica obviously I have made a huge error in thinking I could use this forum as a source of information and general support.

Best of luck with your wedding.

How can anyone give advice and support if you haven’t given a clue what she might have done wrong! As a pp said, ostrich delivery might be too far! Child free is a debate in itself as are wedding lists and ......the list goes on.

Your post reads like a Facebook status, one where they say woe is me then won’t go into detail!

bviously I have made a huge error in thinking I could use this forum as a source of information and general support.

What?... you asked for an opinion and you got other people's views, and very reasonable views too. Plus many of us have asked what you think your daughter is doing wrong so we can say yes step in or no keep out, but you haven't answered ?

@Botanica was asking what you think the issue is so that she knows and can avoid it herself!

What did she do?

I think if she's doing something that will upset some people, then you should have a quiet word with her, but otherwise leave her to it.

Thing is nobody can say whether it's right or not unless they know what she's doing 'wrong'. Like if she's sending out save the dates and have no intention of inviting everyone they've been sent to. Or she's having a 2 tier full day and evening only guests. Wedding in the middle of nowhere and not putting on transport, putting a menu list in that's all meat or worse, no feeding guests at all. Asking for cash in the form of a poem. It goes on and on.

Impossible to advise really, but given the limited info then yes keep your beak out and let her get on with it.

OP, this is not the right forum. I have tried before to get advice as MOB and the overwhelming advice seems to be that your DD's marriage is nothing to do with you and you should keep your beak out.

As the OP hasn’t said anything about what the issue actually is then I don’t see how anyone can advise.
But yes. It generally is good advice to wind your neck in where other people’s weddings are concerned.
PP is right. It reads like a FB post where everyone is supposed to ask “U Ok hun?”

If it’s a spelling mistake I’d like to know.
If it’s “creative” issue then I wouldn’t like yo know.