Is this rude or inconvenient to guests?

[MissMoodyMoo]

I've got it into my head that I want a winter wonderland/Christmas wedding! And was thinking the 28th as it's my brother who sadly passed aways birthday but could the date be considered inconvenient or rude towards guests?

"my mum suggested my brothers birthday"

Totally understand that doing this would be inclusive of your brother.

"The venue is 10 minutes from the village where most of my family and guests live and etc"

What you describe sounds lovely and very considerate of your guests. I would love to be invited to a wedding like that.

We got married over Christmas and have been to other weddings. We loved it.

You may find that your anniversary gets overshadowed so depends if you are bothered.

You may also struggle potentially with some suppliers / traditional wedding bits. We couldn't have fresh flowers for bouquets for instance.

We loved though the whole Christmas decoration vibe, frosty air and threat of snow. We thought it very magical.

We got married in mid December and loved it! I would enjoy a wedding on that date if I was local. I wouldn't want to go if it involved travel and spread over a couple of days.

Going forward you do have to plan a head as anniversary card are hard to find as space is given to Christmas cards 😂

Our wedding sounds very similar to fatcakes.

Late wedding in a candle lit church with Christmas carols, followed by drinks, then dinner. Everyone invited to the whole thing.

Only 2 couples didn't come.

We were warned that flowers might be difficult, but found a florist who sourced roses, lizianthus, hypericum berries and ivy for us and made up beautiful bouquets. We bought flowers from them and did all the church and table arrangements ourselves.

It was absolutely magical having a candle lit ceremony, followed by a party with great food.

Because the venue was about 5 miles from the church, with tricky parking, we arranged for coaches to pick everyone up at the venue and bring them to the church. It worked really well.

I think it sounds absolutely lovely and very appropriate. The only note of caution I would sound is in terms of anniversaries in years to come - fine until you have kids, but my friends who got married on the 26th have never gone out for their anniversary since having a family, due to Xmas and other commitments at that time, and also their day is kind of subsumed into all the Xmas things that go on. That's in the future though. For now, go with your heart.

Ooops - for some reason I was convinced Christmas Day was a Sunday this year!
Even so it still would be that most people I know would be at work on the 28th and wouldn't be able to get time off work. I suppose it depends what jobs the people you are inviting have.

If someone is posting in November about getting married in December I'm going to assume they mean at least a year away - Dec 28th 2019 is a Saturday.

The biggest difficulty for me would be travel - there are often engineering works happening in that in-between period.

I do have friends who book themselves up to what I'd consider a ridiculous extent, seeing every family member and therefore travelling around for the whole Christmas-New Year period with no chance to add anything else to their itinerary even if they were given a year's notice.

We always celebrate our anniversary on 28th, never have problems finding somewhere nice to go. I guess lots of people don't bother going out between Christmas and New Year, so there are always tables at decent restaurants and/or rooms in nice hotels.
We've never felt that the festivities overshadowed our anniversary, they do feel like distinct events.
Also never have trouble getting a card, even at the last minute. 

Regarding a tight timeframe. If you are hoping to get married this December, it can be done.
We organised ours in 6 weeks. Full white wedding too.

I think it's a lovely time of year for a wedding and the colours/theming could be really nice.

I would echo PPs about the date though. My DB passed away nearly 10 years ago now, and when I got married earlier this year, I couldn't consider the whole month of the anniversary of his death (Which also happens to contain his birthday). I find that month to be difficult still for our family and none of us needed the additional emotional strain of having that alongside wedding run-up.

Obviously all families deal differently with bereavement and you may find that you're completely fine and find it a nice tribute. But do remember that your wedding day is supposed to be about you and your future husband, it might be difficult for him to have his wedding date chosen in memory of your DB. You may also find that you're quite emotional on the day - I found it tough getting through such a big family occasion without DB there.

If you wait until next year the 28th will be a Saturday which is much easier for people to get off work. Many restaurants are quiet so it’s easy to book and get good deals on minimum spends free room hire etc

I got married on the 29th of December, I don't think there we're any more people that didn't make it because of the date than otherwise wouldn't have made it anyway. In fact, in some ways because people were already off from work it was a good date to choose and there's some venues that are cheaper as it's on off peak period. We only started organising ours in the August before (so 4 months prior) and ALL but one venue were available on the date we wanted

I got married on the 28th December. Not one person declined, everyone turned up. I had flowers no issues. Cake was a slight issue but that got sorted eventually but I would t have been massively put out if I hadn't of had one. It was wonderful. A great day. Yes we don't always want to go out to celebrate our anniversary but that's no biggie is it.

Just catching up on this post lol!
We have visited our venue and talked about dates but nothing is set in stone as we haven't yet put down a deposit!
It would be 2020 so we have time to plan and send out the save the dates! I also spoke to my sister's whom are all ecstatic that we have chosen our brothers birthday as it's always been a day of celebration rather than mourning
My partner has also set his heart on a full Christmas dinner for the tea and Santa and elves for the kids as the wedding party alone will have 6 under 10s as well as offering all guests the option to bring their children to the night time party! Which would start early at 5 or 6 and last until midnight with a break inbetween for silly Christmas games as well as traditional Scottish music and dancing before a DJ rather than a band playing all sorts of music from all decades from Ac/dc to little mix lol...ohh I can't wait to get started

Bugger anyone else OP, your day, your choice!