Weird Request for Wedding Guests?

[GeckaDiego]

I'm getting married in 2 years and I'm considering asking the female guests NOT to wear perfume or fragrances? I have an allergy to most perfumes, fragrances, air fresheners, laundry detergents, pretty much any product with a floral smell. I'm not allergic to actual flowers but the combination of chemicals they use to recreate the smell. I take antihistamines any time I'm working, going shopping or visiting peoples homes, however they are not always 100% effective especially if I'm hit with multiple fragrances at once. I just don't want to spend my wedding day either avoiding certain guests or sneezing and wheezing with my nose streaming! Fortunately gents aftershaves and fragrances aren't normally floral based so they would be excluded from this request. I don't usually ask ladies to accommodate me largely because I've learned they either forget or believe their particular scent "isn't that strong" but I think for my wedding day I shouldn't have to worry about it. AIBU?

As long as you explain yourself then seems very reasonable👍(if you dont maybe people will ignore?)

YANBU

As long as you explain reasons for your request then guests would be fairly inconsiderate to ignore your request (there will be a few thar do though I'm sure!)

I wouldn’t have a problem with this at all. You’ve got a proper reason for it

YANBU, the last thing you want is to feel awful on your wedding day and it really isn't a big ask of people.

I think it might be better to ask for no fragrances at all though as saying it only to the women might make things more complex, others may think otherwise though.

I don't think that's an unreasonable request considering, I would explain why though or you might get talked about as the next bridezilla, you'll see a thread on here about it 😂

I think that's a fair request and not bridezilla at all.

Do Aftershaves not have the same detrimental effects on you then ?

I would have no issue with this at all, but would find it rudeish if the request was on the invitation. Word of mouth would be better IMO.

I wouldn't have an issue with not wearing it however I would polity remind people closer to the wedding as I would properly forget as I'm usually on auto pilot getting ready

Gemini69, most male fragrances aren't as heavily based in florals. That's not to say some don't give me that weird itchy nose/need to sneeze feeling but it's rare in gents aftershave.

I have a friend like that and l have seen her discomfort. I would have no issues with that at all and would perfectly understand your request.

I’d find this a bit pathetic tbh. It’s just such a weird thing to ask too, can totally imagining forgetting all about the rule on the actual day

I don’t think it’s rude, but I would need a reminder closer to the time rather than just on the invite

It’s unusual, but if you explained why, I would understand. I’d put it in a separate note along with the invitation.

Aahh okay.. I wasn't aware of the differences... but I think for the sake of your wellbeing and your enjoyment of your own Wedding Day... you must inform the ladies of this allergy ... plus you're giving them plenty notice

I’d find this a bit pathetic tbh. It’s just such a weird thing to ask too, can totally imagining forgetting all about the rule on the actual day

Good thing ya not going then ain't it?

As your guest Id be absolutely fine with this

Whilst it’s an unusual request, it’s not a hardship for guest. So many requests are expensive for guests, it’s quite refreshing to hear one that isn’t.

I also think that's absolutely fine given your reason.

glintandride how on earth could you think that an allergic reaction to perfume is pathetic exactly? I sure hope OP doesn't have a guest like you at her wedding!

I think lots of guests won’t get it, or will think its odd. However, its a good opportunity to pull the bride card and raise awareness! I swim in a health club and have similar (though not as bad) allergy type issues and boy is it awful when someone gets in the pool heavily fragranced, it affects me immediately.

My friend makes fragances herself for people who have allergy issues - Maybe you could say you will provide some suitable smellies to dab on at the reception?

Don't bother sending Outfoxed an invite to the wedding

I'd definitely include men, my exdp wore at least 4 that irritated me due to the floral base, the only 2 I remember were Givenchy Gentlemen and a Hugo Boss Bottled. There are quite a few floral ones for men, the added pepper kind of hides the smell but it's definitely there

I'd definitely include men, my exdp wore at least 4 that irritated me due to the floral base, the only 2 I remember were Givenchy Gentlemen and a Hugo Boss Bottled. There are quite a few floral ones for men, the added pepper kind of hides the smell but it's definitely there

I second perfume wedding favours, that's adorable

I'd definitely include men's too tho. Otherwise people will think it's ok x