Basically world war 3 has broke out between my mum and aunty this morning! It’s my cousins wedding tomorrow. All the girl members of the family and bridal party went to a spa day yesterday and we were talking about our outfits and I showed them a picture of me in mine. My cousin said it was gorgeous but my aunty had a face like a smacked arse! I didn’t think much to it, shes very over opinionated about everyone, we’ve been to weddings with her before where the bride has looked like a supermodel and all she’s said is things like “oh she looked a bugger, did you see the back fat” “she hasn’t got the complexion for white she should of worn ivory”! So I just assumed in my paranoia she was looking at the picture as if “she’s not got the figure for that!”
Well this morning I woke up to a really nasty text from my aunty saying it’s a disgrace I’m wearing white, I’m selfish and trying to make the whole day about me, she knew I would be like this as soon as I said I didnt want to be a bridesmaid and under no circumstances am I to come to the wedding in “that” dress!
Theres a bit of a back story to me saying no to being bridesmaid, the wedding has only been planned for a few months, when my cousin first asked me to be bridesmaid I was really excited and said yes but I was six months pregnant and already the size of a house! A few days later I met her for lunch and said I didn’t think I could be a bridesmaid I was pregnant with ds2 and I didn’t think I could commit to bridesmaid “duties”, on the day of the wedding I will have a 2 year old and a 3 month old (ds2 is 13 weeks now) and my dh would need my help with the kids on the wedding day, plus I didn’t feel I would be body confident enough to be a bridesmaid. (all the other girls are like size 6 beauty queens and I’ve got a post baby bod!) She was really understanding about it and we’ve had a running joke I’m the “unofficial bridesmaid”. But my aunty has made it clear she’s annoyed about it, there has been many a barbed comment!
We went back to my cousins for a take out after the spa day and I had a bit of a hangover and I’ve got my two little ones here so I just couldn’t deal with her this morning so I’ve not replied. I called my mum and well shes gone berserk about her contacting me! Turns out they had a row last night and this morning about it, and she had told my aunty under no circumstances to contact me about it. The row turned really nasty by the sounds of it, mum was trying not to rise to it till my aunty called her and started getting really personal and bringing stuff up from years ago, well mum just lost it and let her have it!!!
Mums been at my house for hours today ranting and raving that shes told her a few “home truths”! She told my aunty she’s sick with jealousy and she and my cousin have always been jealous of me because “you’re the pretty one” (ffs mum!!!) and that my aunty has been jealous and spiteful since they were kids and she has always been the same with my mum! My aunty has been snapping and being nasty to everyone for weeks with the stress of the wedding and mum has been getting really upset with her but there’s a time and place to say things you been “holding in for 50 years!!!” facepalm
So now I don’t know what to do??? Should I wear the dress? My mums 100% adamant I should, my husband says it’s lovely and said “all you woman turn into crazy bitches around weddings she won’t have meant it”. I’m tempted to ask my cousin because I know she’ll be like “just ignore my mum” because whenever we were alone together yesterday she was complaining about how much her mum is driving her mad! But I can hardly ring her the night before her wedding asking about my outfit and telling her about a family argument!!! Also I haven’t replied to my aunty so I don’t know if she’s calmed down or if there is going to be a massive atmosphere tomorrow! Help needed!!!!