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Would I be seen as tight if...

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wintermonster · 28/01/2018 18:39

Would it be tight if me to just have a bridal bouquet and no bouquets for my two bridesmaids?

Do they need to be seen holding something?

Would it also be bad form if I get my hair professionally done but not the bridesmaids?

I'm doing my own makeup.

(Smallish low key Wedding)

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SloanePeterson · 28/01/2018 18:40

Just get them supermarket flowers. I did all of ours myself for about £20, florist tape and pins are cheap from eBay and then some ribbon to tie around x

PurpleDaisies · 28/01/2018 18:40

I would have felt like I didn’t know what to do with my hands without something to hold.

I was a bridesmaid with a single flower to hold once. That was fine.

MrTurtleLikesKisses · 28/01/2018 18:41

I think it might look a little bit odd if they're not holding something to be honest.

I think their hair is their responsibility though. My chief bridesmaid and I went and got ours done and a close friend who is a hairdresser did the little bridesmaids' hair at my house but I didn't feel like I had to do that, I just wanted to.

PurpleDaisies · 28/01/2018 18:43

It’s fine to have them do their own hair but if you’re having someone come to your house, I’d ask the bridesmaids if they want to use them.

thisismadness77 · 28/01/2018 18:43

Give them the option of paying for their hair. I’ve always paid for mine as a bridesmaid. How about them carrying a single stem?

Creasey31 · 28/01/2018 18:46

When I was a bridesmaid we paid for our own hair and make up (was given a choice) and the flowers were from Lidl in a ribbon, they were lovely.

MrTurtleLikesKisses · 28/01/2018 18:48

There are some reasonably priced artificial bouquets on eBay if that would help? My friend's bridesmaid had one and it was lovely and she could buy it in advance and not have to worry about collecting it on the day.

Nomad86 · 28/01/2018 19:57

My bridesmaids did their own hair, I got mine done but did my own makeup. There's only so much in the budget and I didn't mind how they wore their hair, it's not like I expected them to pay to have it done a certain way.

greendale17 · 28/01/2018 20:03

Yes it will look odd and tight. You really can’t afford £20 for supermarket flowers or something????

IWouldLikeToKnow · 28/01/2018 20:16

IMO it would be a bit mean not to get the bridesmaids hair done. And like a pp suggested, a single stem would be a lovely compromise on the flowers.

Spam88 · 28/01/2018 20:26

I think they need something to carry otherwise what do they do with their hands... Agree with PPs that a single stem would look fine, or just some baby's breath?

If you're having a hairdresser come out I'd offer them the option to pay to have their hair done. I'm dreadful at doing hair so would much rather pay for someone to do it than look a mess for my friends wedding.

user1493413286 · 28/01/2018 20:28

I’m paying to get my make up done and said to the bridesmaids we aren’t able to afford to pay for theirs but they can pay if they want to. They’re all happy to pay for their own so might be worth saying that to yours.

Floralnomad · 28/01/2018 20:30

If things are that tight why are you even having bridesmaids , let alone 2 , just have one and get her some flowers .

Bumbumtaloo · 28/01/2018 20:32

I’ve seen lots of posts on a wedding group (im helping my closet friend plan her wedding) on Facebook sorry of people buying the bunches of flowers from places like Home Bargains, it’s around £1.70 per bunch. They have then made bouquets themselves.

BackforGood · 28/01/2018 20:39

I agree with most that I think it gives them something to do with their hands. But you can give them something without spending much - supermarket flowers, artificial flowers, a single stem, as suggested. Depending on the time of year, even some flowers from the garden of someone you know.

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wintermonster · 28/01/2018 20:40

Fab ideas!

It's not a local Wedding so I won't be having a real bouquet myself, just an artificial one.
I suppose it makes no difference if I buy a few extra.

My dp wants to have his two brothers pay abspecial role in the wedding so are having them as best men and so I don't want to unbalance it by having no bridesmaids unfortunately.

Plus they both put me on the spot when I saw them after getting engaged and asked if they would be bridesmaids Grin

Hair wise I wasn't too sure if I should hire a professional for me at all.
But I've never don't anything to my hair and so it's just down all the time. I fancy having something a bit special.

My issue is I had budgeted £125 for hair and it turns out the location of the wedding only has one nearby and it's double that.
I am not in the area to find someone else and when I asked the venue for more recommendations they didn't have any.

My last wedding (also cheap and cheerful) had a family member do my hair but I hated it and never wanted the photos after Confused

I couldn't complain at all as they were doing it for free as a gift and we had run out of time.

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wintermonster · 28/01/2018 20:41

Ps - it's winter wedding so unlikely to be able to pick flowers for us at that time of year.

We aren't bothering with floral centrepieces or anything like that so no florist involved. Just lots of candles

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idontlikealdi · 28/01/2018 20:47

I got mine a corsage. Pretty and so much more practical - and way cheaper. Bouquets are a pain.

They paid for their own hair. We did our own make up.

MamaLupine · 28/01/2018 20:52

I've seen these in Dunelm and they really are nice(I had a red coloured one in my house) and are reasonably priced. Would they be any good?

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CantThinkOfUsername · 28/01/2018 20:53

I'm team corsage! I had one when I was a bridesmaid and to overcome the "what to do with your hands" thing... I had a cute clutch bag too. Each time I use it now it reminds me of a good day so has an extra use Smile

YearOfYouRemember · 28/01/2018 20:55

We had a best man and a page boy but no bridesmaids. Was totally fine.

CMOTDibbler · 28/01/2018 21:01

A little clutch bag with an artificial flower of the same sort as your bouquet would be great for the bridesmaids. Cheap as chips on ebay as are the flowers.

For their hair, I'd explain the horrific cost issue and ask them to decide on a style they can both do themselves (low bun over a doughnut for instance) and do that. Have a laugh doing a makeup makeover at cosmetic counters to work out what to do for makeup.

If you are getting married in the UK, you could ask for a hair recommendation on the style boards - someone is bound to know someone more reasonable!

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wintermonster · 28/01/2018 21:02

@MamaLupine they look great - definitley would work as nice and neutral

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wintermonster · 28/01/2018 21:03

I like the sound of corsage and a clutch! Will look into that for sure

Thank you Smile

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BackforGood · 28/01/2018 23:12

£250 for someone to pin your hair up Shock Shock Shock

You presumably have a link to the area if you are traveling to get married there - ask someone local for a recommendation.
Or ask MNer for a recommendation in the area (you could name change if don't want to be identifying).

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