AIBU? A step too far?

[rhardwick945]

Hello brides to be. I'm really hoping for an opinion from the other side of the fence... (We married last year)

Anyway, we have a wedding invitation from DHs best friend from school, who he doesn't really see anymore but, he came to our wedding and it's a nice sentiment.

However. There's a few things bugging me.

1. Children definitely not welcome
2. It's a Wednesday
3. It's about 3 hours away

I understand it's your day, but is it ok to be so unaware of your guests needs that they can't see just how difficult this makes attending? We need to take off two days holiday to attend, (they are teachers and it's half term) we need to find baby sitters for two whole days (we've never left our baby overnight before, so I also have that anxiety) if we decide to just do one day, we will have 6 hours driving which is a bit excessive.

Am I over reacting or are they being a bit unreasonable. I understand it's their day and they can do what they want, but the same thread, are they completely unaware that people have children and we cant just leave them in a play pen at home because they're getting married!

LOL, so if guests don't want to take a day's holiday to attend THEY'RE the ones being selfish? Not the couple who expect many many people to take a day (or two) days holiday from work just to attend their wedding?

Interesting take.

We once had eight weddings to go to in a year, including our own. Three of them were such close friends that we also were invited to stag and hen parties. If all of them had been mid week, we wouldn’t have been able to go them all. Not selfish. Not rude. Just not logistically possible.

YABVVU. If you don't want to go/can't make the arrangements you'd need to make to go, decline the invitation.

Moaning about it being inconvenient is rude. Do you know how expensive weddings are? Venue hire is a lot cheaper on weekdays than weekends, and also cheaper on Wednesdays than on Fridays or Mondays. Feeding and entertaining kids - of which there may be many - also adds to overall costs. This couple may be on a tight budget.

Just decline and send a card.

I’m getting married on a Wednesday, nothing to do with cost, it’s about the date.

It will be child free. I can’t stand other people’s children. I certainly dont want them at my wedding.

If anyone invited doesn’t want to accept for whatever reason I’m absolutely fine with it.