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Anyone care to share what was a total waste of £ in hindsight?

81 replies

MandaraSugar · 09/01/2018 15:38

NB: I don't mean "I don't understand why people spend £25K and the rest on one day..." but things you/someone you know chose to do that looking back wasn't worth the £ or time that went into it.

Several years ago I was my friend's bridesmaid - we spent many hours in the run up to the wedding making handmade soaps as favours (including wrapping and putting twine around them the night before) for 100+ guests, people appreciated the gesture but at the end of the night at least 75% of them were just discarded, unwrapped on the tables. We were talking the other night about how, effectively, they were a waste of time and £.

DNiece got married last year and spent a tidy sum getting a graphic designer to layout artwork for the seating plan, name for each table and place name for each guest etc so all in the same font and colours - looked really lovely, however she said she wishes she would have just taken the venue up on their offer to put the table plan up on a big screen (almost like a powerpoint slide I guess) and do basic table and place names as when it was all over and she asked friends/family if they liked it most said they didn't notice/didn't remember the seating plan, or anything that was nicely graphic designed and printed Blush Nevertheless, they had a great day. Think she was just grumpy it was all over and they still owed a couple of invoices to suppliers.

Don't know of anyone who has done this, however I see buying a veil from new as a waste (unless there's a v.specific one you want) as so many people sell them 2nd hand after only wearing them a few hours.

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NewYearNiki · 22/01/2018 23:15

One of my friends had personalised fucking everything including satin robes for the bridal party to wear whilst having their hair and make up done.

She also bought a full sized penis costume complete with huge balls at the bottom to wear on her hen do. And yes she wore it in public out on the street.

minipie · 22/01/2018 23:33

Tbh we managed to spend a fortune despite not paying for veil, favours, cake, bridesmaids, suit hire, hair/makeup artist, car, hotel and lots of other "extras" mentioned above.

Most of our bill was food and booze - the venue had a serious chef and we had a very, very open bar. Guests had a great time Grin.

Back to the OP - one expense which was a bit wasteful was my shoes. I fell in love with some stupidly expensive shoes and justified them on the basis I'd dye them and wear them loads afterwards. No sooner had I dyed them than I got pregnant and they've never fitted since. (keeping them for my two DDs though!)

I also think we could have got away with fewer flowers since the venue was very pretty.

Not an expense but I did spend hours choosing a font for our invitations and order of service... Blush daft really

DropZoneOne · 22/01/2018 23:42

Favours

Dessert - cake was enough

A very big cake (fed 80, we had 50, we used around a third, there was so much left!)

Over catered on evening buffet - did for 75% of guests but would have been fine with 60% or less as we had no extra guests so everyone had finished a huge meal only 3 hours earlier!

ForeverBubblegum · 22/01/2018 23:46

I only had about 30 people, and all attended both daytime and evening. This meant that the were served a buffet for the evening 'do' just a few hours after eating a 5 course meal. Nobody could face it and about 80% went to wast.

At the time we went along with it as we got the room free if they were providing food, but in retrospect it would have been cheaper to find somewhere that just did room hire without force feeding our guests.

ForgivenessIsDivine · 23/01/2018 09:57

Our wedding cost quite a lot and there were things that only we noticed like the matching invitations to the order of service and the menu (which the venue would have done for free) but we enjoyed doing these things and it was part of us bonding as a soon to be married couple. Long story about the wedding car but we threw caution to the wind and bought a second hand convertible as our wedding car,,it was outrageous and lots of fun!!

FairfaxAikman · 23/01/2018 19:34

Our whole wedding was around 10k. Half of that was the venue but included just about everything- food, table plans, wine/prosecco, centrepieces, Place markets, chair covers etc for 60 people (plus extra 40 at night).
Cake was part of evening buffet.
Used balloons to decorate church and venue - £250 delivered and installed.

My one extravagance was my dress. My great grandmother had left me a small sum with the condition of be used for a wedding.
It covered most of the cost of my dress.

We saved so much money by buying from Etsy (veil, cuff links, finishing touches) and getting cake and flowers from M&S.

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