Panicking about wedding!

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My lovely DP proposed on friday, and I obviously said yes!
But now the reality is sinking in!
This year is meant to be the year I finish my PhD, I'm also looking for a job, and DP and I are trying to buy a house!

Please tell me it'll be ok! I don't feel like I have any time to plan this, and of course we don't have any money!!
Did anyone else feel like this? I love him and want to marry him and have been thinking about this for years but never panicked like this!

Doseidi Suck it up. You were called out for being rude about someone else’s wedding, and now you’ve thrown a tantrum.

I don’t think threads get deleted because you feel guilty for being mean.

What are you actually worrying about with regards the wedding? Work out your budget, and go from there. People manage to organise weddings doing all kinds of things (including writing up PhDs - ask me how I know). It sounds like you have lots of lovely, interested family to help - where’s your problem? Things sound dandy.

Cowarthegate, I love that registry office. Your wedding sounds as stylish as anything. I hope it’s wonderful.

Cowatthegate your wedding sounds marvelous. Really sorry about your mum

I just don't want a sad little party with 10 people, I'd like a proper wedding.

Fuck sake OP. Harsh and rude!

"I hope you feel good about yourselves"

For saying don't be nasty and rude, yep I feel pretty good about that

You can make a wedding what you want or don't want. Dh
and I were both second time around. After 7 years we decided to get married at short notice.

Set the date, got a notepad of invitations for £4.and sent out 40. Into town with a friend and was home at lunchtime with my outfit including shoes and fabulous hat £250. Small hotel that doesn't normally do weddings sorted us out with 3 course chicken dinner. Cake was two tiers from M & S.
Hired a bus to take us all to hotel reception one hour away.....it overlooked the sea with a fabulous rugged coastline. Bus took guests home at 11pm and the journey was very merry ....one man, one song. We stayed on at the hotel for two nights. Did it all for £1k.

OP, consider this thread practice.

Weddings bring out the worst in someone, and in a small but significant way, it brought out a little rudeness in you. Remember that when some idiot is similarly rude or thoughtless about a detail of your wedding.

It could be something you did offhand and don't really care, it could be something you put a lot of effort into and heart into. Someone will be rude about your choices along the way, and it will hurt and/or annoy you.

Regarding your wedding - don't forget that doing it yourself can be cheap, or it can be stressful and almost as much money. The only thing that makes it a wedding as opposed to a party is two people making vows. Start from that and build upwards, don't start from a 'standard' wedding and cut down.

I went to a gay wedding last year. No traditions to worry about, and it was unique, beautiful and touching. I went to a standard wedding on Saturday... and it was exactly like any other wedding you'd picked from the brochure. Parents were paying, so they picked everything, and I couldn't get a sense of my friend anywhere in it.

One was a 'proper' wedding, and one wasn't. Only one of them properly warmed my cockles though.

Why do you have to do it this year though?! Weddings often take years to plan (partly because venues can be booked up so far in advance) but it allows you plenty of time to save and work out what you actually want. No rush whatsoever!

And I hope you are more thoughtful and considerate with your wedding plans than your comments on here indicate. No point stropping when people point out how hurtful your comments were.

I won't be offering you any suggestions, you'll probably think they're pretty dismal. Talk about champagne taste and special brew manners.

I've never heard that expression 'champagne tastes and special brew tastes'.

I love it

Talk about champagne taste and special brew manners

Yes, manners sorry! But it's very good!