Worried guests will be disappointed

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We're getting married in a few months - a small wedding with 20 guests in a hotel in York, which is about 45 minutes away by car/train from our hometown.

We're not really 'wedding' people so just want a simple ceremony and a delicious meal/drinks with our closest friends.

We're asking people to come to the hotel for 10am for an 11am ceremony as we would like a few photos beforehand. We'll have bucks fizz and bacon rolls when they get there.

After the ceremony, we'll have some champagne and a few more photos before lunch at 12.30pm. We're getting married on a Sunday so our guests will be pre-ordering their main course and dessert from the hotels al a carte Sunday Lunch menu and we will also have a 'help yourself' table set up with seafood, charcuterie, salads, breads etc.

We're not having an evening reception, but after lunch, we'll head into the city for a few drinks.

We are giving our guests the option of staying over at the hotel but the last train back to our town is just after 10pm if they don't want to stay overnight.

We will be covering the cost of the whole day, including meal, drinks, train tickets & hotel rooms.

My worry is that people will be bored/disappointed by the day - all our friends that have recently gotten married have had very fancy church weddings, with entertainment, fancy meals and favours etc.

Is our day too simple?? Should I plan something else?

It honestly sounds lovely. I can't think of a better way to spend the day than chilled out time eating and drinking with friends. And keep the bacon rolls

Sounds fantastic, and you're very lovely for wanting to do it that way.

My only thought was the bacon rolls. Make sure people know so they don't go to waste, and yes maybe small ones, because if I knew I was eating again a couple of hours or so later, I wouldn't have one, simply because I couldn't manage both in that timeframe.

Everything sounds fine although Sunday people might go back home if they are at work on Monday.

I completely understand about the bacon rolls as I would probaby skip them too but h2b really wants them.

I also think it'll be nice to offer breakfast as people will have to get up early to get ready and travel to the hotel.

Also, although lunch is scheduled for 12.30, we will be in no rush as we will have pre-ordered the mains and the starter will be a 'help yourself' table, so people can take their time - we have the private dining room for 4 hours so plenty of time to not feel rushed

unicorn we've taken that into consideration, it's one of the reasons we're having an early start.

The offer of a hotel room is there for anyone that wants it, but the trains home run every hour until just gone 10pm so if people want to go home, they can still have a few drinks and catch the train

Sounds completely perfect to me. I'd love to be invited to such a lovely wedding - beats some awful function room in a hotel and hours of hanging about while all the third cousins get photographed!!

To be honest it sounds incredibly generous and anyone who accepted that and then complained would be vile.

Sounds perfect. My only suggestion would be I think you're underestimating how long you will enjoy mingling with campers after the wedding before lunch. I'd push linch back to 1.30 and that solves the over feeding issue too.

No one expects train tickets and hotel rooms paid. Are the hotel rooms for the night before? If you expect them to stay the night of the wedding, people will expect dinner. Money could be better saved or spend on dinner for your guests.

Desmondo my only worry abut pushing lunch back an hour is that that will mean our guests are stood around for more than 2 hours drinking, without food. It is something to think about though.

thethoughtfox the hotel rooms are for the night of the wedding. No one is expected to stay and there are regular trains to take people home. We just wanted to give theme the option.

After lunch we will be going to the city for a few drinks with whoever feels like joining us - there are plenty of places to eat whilst out and about when/if people get hungry. For those that are staying the night, the hotel has a very good 24 hour room service menu if they wish to eat when they get back. This would also be covered by us.

Maybe it seems unnecessarily generous but my h2b and I really just want to spend our special day with the people we love the most and for everyone to be full of food, drinks, laughs and memories by the end of the night

That sounds absolutely lovely. Have a wonderful day!

It sounds lovely and so generous of you. I think it gets boring when everyone’s weddings are the same (some of my friends’ weddings have kind of been a bit routine and samey I think). I’d love to go to something a bit different and get home early too!

Sounds perfect and very generous.
Wouldn't change anything that's there - I can't see anyone being disappointed when they've got a number of options, all of which you're financing. Seems very relaxed and like your guests comfort and enjoyment is your priority, not putting on a big show. Enjoy - I wish I could come!

Ooo can I come