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Worried guests will be disappointed

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spiritofadventure · 03/01/2018 09:33

We're getting married in a few months - a small wedding with 20 guests in a hotel in York, which is about 45 minutes away by car/train from our hometown.

We're not really 'wedding' people so just want a simple ceremony and a delicious meal/drinks with our closest friends.

We're asking people to come to the hotel for 10am for an 11am ceremony as we would like a few photos beforehand. We'll have bucks fizz and bacon rolls when they get there.

After the ceremony, we'll have some champagne and a few more photos before lunch at 12.30pm. We're getting married on a Sunday so our guests will be pre-ordering their main course and dessert from the hotels al a carte Sunday Lunch menu and we will also have a 'help yourself' table set up with seafood, charcuterie, salads, breads etc.

We're not having an evening reception, but after lunch, we'll head into the city for a few drinks.

We are giving our guests the option of staying over at the hotel but the last train back to our town is just after 10pm if they don't want to stay overnight.

We will be covering the cost of the whole day, including meal, drinks, train tickets & hotel rooms.

My worry is that people will be bored/disappointed by the day - all our friends that have recently gotten married have had very fancy church weddings, with entertainment, fancy meals and favours etc.

Is our day too simple?? Should I plan something else?

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newmumwithquestions · 03/01/2018 09:36

Sounds like you are covering way more expenses than I would expect you to. If I was your guest I’d feel very special to be part of your wedding. Have a lovely day!

newmumwithquestions · 03/01/2018 09:37

And no, absolutely no need to arrange anything else. It’s your day - don’t do things just because that’s what some other people have done.

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greendale17 · 03/01/2018 09:40

For a small wedding it sounds really nice.

Snowtato · 03/01/2018 09:41

It sounds like a perfect wedding to me.

I very much doubt your guests will be disappointed,as it’s a small ceremony with your closest friends and family.so I am sure that they will all be very happy to share your special day with you and watch you take your vows.
In my experience it’s the people who aren’t that close to the bride or groom that complain at weddings.

Please stop worrying.your wedding sounds wonderful.the ideal wedding i’d Like to attend or have myself.Smile

Rainatnight · 03/01/2018 09:42

I think that sounds absolutely great. Carefully thought out scheduling, and good food and drink. And you're being extremely generous in what you're paying for.

Bells-and-whistles weddings are actually pretty boring, and involve lots of standing around. Yours sounds like fun.

spugzbunny · 03/01/2018 09:45

I think it sounds lovely! Why are you covering trains and hotels? Most people wouldn't do this for their wedding and it seems like an unnecessary expense. Most guests expect to pay for these things.

GinIsIn · 03/01/2018 09:46

Sounds perfect!

MrsDrSpencerReid · 03/01/2018 09:49

I think it sounds lovely and very generous of you Smile

TwitterQueen1 · 03/01/2018 09:52

Another one saying it all sounds absolutely lovely and you are being very generous. Don't give this a second thought - you had me at champagne and bacon butties. Flowers Have a super day! All your guests will.

GrowThroughWhatYouGoThrough · 03/01/2018 09:53

It sounds perfect

spiritofadventure · 03/01/2018 10:03

Thank you all for reassuring me!

We are covering the costs as we wanted to make the day as stress free and enjoyable for everyone as possible. Being a wedding guest can be an expensive day and we just wanted everyone to be able to relax and not worry.

Neither of us have family so our friends are family to us.

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AgathaF · 03/01/2018 10:05

Sounds fabulous. I'm sure your guests will love it.

Enjoy your day and congratulations.

TractorTedTed · 03/01/2018 10:05

I think it sounds amazing and you sound very thoughtful.

Hope you have a fantastic day.

superking · 03/01/2018 10:07

It sounds lovely - I am a fan of big church weddings (and had one myself), but I would really enjoy the day you have planned as well.

Sarahh2014 · 03/01/2018 10:08

Sounds lovely.i went to an even simpler wedding.Registry office,few photos then we had coffee in a cafe in a shopping centre before the bride and groom made their way to the station to catch a train to Paris.itwas one of the nicest weddings I've been to and envied them that they did just what suited them

chandlersfraud · 03/01/2018 10:09

Yes I'd definitely plan something else.

chandlersfraud · 03/01/2018 10:10

Not really obviously. I wouldn't be expecting you to pay for things like train tickets or hotel rooms so I think you're being very generous.

10am is very early for anyone traveling any distance but if everyone is local that's not such an issue.

I hope you have a lovely time.

spiritofadventure · 03/01/2018 10:14

chandlersfraud what would you suggest?

sarahh2014 that sounds lovely! We're going on our honeymoon the day after the wedding - a week in Zakynthos, I can't wait!

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Growuphelen · 03/01/2018 10:14

It all sounds perfect. And I've been to a lot of tedious weddings.

spiritofadventure · 03/01/2018 10:17

I thought you were being serious chandlersfraud and was looking forward to your suggestions ☺

10am is early, but we discussed times with our guests before hand and everyone can make it. (Also, we're serving bacon rolls when they arrive to soften the blow 😂)

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spiritofadventure · 03/01/2018 10:27

parapaparpar I was worried about this too, but h2b is really keen on the bacon rolls!

Our ceremony will be done by 11.15am and then we're having champagne while we take some photos before lunch.

I might speak to the hotel and see if they can serve small bacon rolls instead.

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TheNewMrs · 03/01/2018 10:30

Sounds fabulous OP!

My DH and I got married last year(!) and had a slightly 'unusual' set up to our day, but I loved it and wouldn't change it.

splatattack · 03/01/2018 10:33

I would feel so special t be a guest at your wedding...it sounds lovely!! You are clearly a thoughtful person to have put that plan together and I cannot imagine anyone having anything bad to say...I hope you have a wonderful and special day!! Thanks

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