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Hi, I'm looking for thoughts and advice.

We are planning the ceremony and the party at the same venue, basically one running into the other. No sit down meal (but there will be seats). There will be snacks available for the duration (so cheese, crackers, crisps and nuts as soon as the ceremony concludes) and a long, informal Street food service through the evening.

If the ceremony is at 3pm and there is a children's tea party at 5.30pm with the main catering opening at 6.30pm, would anyone think that was unreasonable?

Btw to clarify, the children's tea party will be in the adjacent room to the main event, it will be the start of a full nanny/crèche room that all the children will be registered for, but no one is obliged to use, children are welcome at all parts of the event.

If someone has eaten nuts and then touches a doorknob then someone with a nut allergy touches that same doorknob that's all the contact with nuts that needed to produce a bad reaction

Ok, so everyone basically thinks the standard hotel schedule/breakfast plan would be better

Fair enough

No, stick to your plan. If people are arriving at 3 for a 3.30 wedding and they haven't eaten yet, they're silly!!

newme I'll happily drop the nuts, but I meant if any guest has that severe a nut allergy they would surely warn us in advance and then we'd have dropped them anyway. I am totally sympathetic, it's just the scenario you describe could happen in any pub

Anyway, no nuts!

No! Don't change a thing, it's bloody brilliant.

Surely people would eat lunch before any 3.30pm event?

I certainly would!

Sounds lovely. With the street food it may be worth considering things which are one handed to eat rather than two. If you're not providing formal seating and people are casually milling around they may have drink in one hand food in another. So things like buritos or pulled pork in a bun, steamed stuffed dumplings, smooth drinkable type soup.

Can I come? It sounds blooming marvellous.

Agree on the one hand stuff.

There will be loads of seating as well though

My friends had a mobile pizza van. It was brilliant.
And a tower of cheese wedding cake.

No!
I think it sounds wonderful. I'm all for people reinventing the wedding format.
Ceremony at 3.30pm may ensure that everyone fits in lunch before they come.
Have you looked at Rock n Roll Bride? So many fabulous alternative weddings on there.

Oh yes! Meant to say that the snacks will include the cake (which will actually be cupcake tower to facilitate easy eating). And a cake of cheese with crackers etc

Sounds amazing, dont change to the standard hotel schedual! Personally i think people should be able to go from 3 till half 6 without food, esp if theres snacks to help soak up the alcohol! Maybe put on the jnvites a rough schedual so people know what to expect? (Ceremony at 3, nibbles and music at half 3, kids buffet at half 5 and main food at half 6). Its your day, do it how you want! I think it sounds like a fun day!

I think it sounds great! If there was a meal after the ceremony people wouldn't eat the night stuff so I think you've nailed it. Annnnd now I'm starving!

Went to a wedding yesterday, it ran as follows:

1430 ceremony

Photos followed ceremony, bar open for those not needed, bubbly and non alcoholic bubbly laid on too. Ice cream stand with diy sauce and sprinkles.

1730/1800 meal (BBQd chicken, pork patties, sausages and burgers; buns, coleslaw, couscous, salad, cheese, sauces)

Followed by dessert: range of briochey things topped with fruit, BBQd doughnuts with chocolate dipping sauce, marshmallows and fruit to dip in chocolate.

1900ish speeches

Cake cutting after speeches

Shortly followed by first dance.

Disco

2100ish pizza

I don't understand the nuts thing.

If you have a guest with a nut allergy, they will presumably be used to dealing with the remote possibility that someone who has eaten nuts may touch something they touch? I mean, surely that's true of anywhere a nut allergy sufferer might go to?

Or is the suggestion that no-one should be allowed to eat nuts in case the nut allergy sufferer doesn't know how to protect themself from risk?

Yes of course the nut allergy scenario could happen in a pub but nut allergy sufferers know pubs sell nuts and can be wary. Bags of nuts at weddings I've never heard if.

Sounds absolutely ace .. can I come!? 🤣 don't change a thing, and the nut thing is nonsense! Every pub sells nuts, I had a Thai meal at the weekend and it had a peanut satay sauce, I'm sure I may have touched a doorknob or two on the way to the loo to wash my peanuts fingers!
The last wedding I went to (v v posh) had Donner Kebabs at 10!

@suburbanrhonda nobody will say well the wedding was OK but if they'd had nuts it would have been brilliant. Nuts are not a key ingredient of a successful event

Unless the nut allergy sufferer is also visually impaired, won't they see the nuts on the table?

I didn't mention pubs - I meant literally anywhere members of the public might be.

I hope that ice cream stand didn't have chopped nuts!

I love nuts.

If you're planning to serve smoked almonds, OP, I'm available to be someone's plus one

I had been intending to have these available. I love a cashew!

Nutzilla

And a cake of cheese with crackers etc

Please can I come?