Do people ever uninvited guests...?

[Piazzapiola]

Just for arguments sake has anyone ever, or heard of anyone, uninviting people? At the moment all we've done is send a save the date email.

Am thinking along the lines of "we've decided after all to have a very small and intimate wedding so are only inviting a handful of close friends and family..."

It would be terrible, right...??!! Or would it???

[Floggingmolly]

However there are 14 of them!. How are you only realising how many potential guests are involved now? Surely you knew how many Save the Date cards you were sending??

[Lweji]

The key in your OP is "the wedding we want".

If the party is more important than your family, then go ahead and uninvite them. I'm sure they'll understand. Or not...

50 or 60 is fairly small already. I certainly wouldn't reduce it to 40 and call it very small and intimate.
To save face you'd have to only have your parents and siblings, really.

[Floggingmolly]

save the date don't guarantee an invitation Only if it's sent by a socially challenged baboon.

[Leslieknope45]

I wouldn't do this for someone who you have given a save the date to.
We did to one guest, but he had just cheated on his wife and treated her appallingly and she was the sister of the best man so I don't think he would have been surprised that no invitation arrived ...

[RosaDiazepam]

Sil decided to uninvite the children after inviting them/getting them all excited decided she wanted a child free wedding
She's a twat basically, I don't think you can come back from it

[Goingtobeawesome]

I think the rudeness is in sending save the date emails to people you won't be having at your wedding. If you planned to have everyone and now can't you really should have thought for longer.

[MadisonAvenue]

Can I just butt in and ask a question about save the date etiquette? We received one at Christmas for a wedding in late August this year, along with some seeds so that we could grow some flowers to be used during the wedding.

We received the actual invitation yesterday and we're just invited to the evening party. I've never come across this before, usually if we're invited to the evening then we just get an invitation to that and no save the date, no prior warning months previous to save the whole day! We assumed that because we'd had a save the date card then we'd be invited to the whole day.

It just seems a bit off to send a save the date and then, in effect, say 'well we only want you there for the evening (but please read our crappy poem and give us a wedge of cash)'.

[Jibberjabberjooo]

As far as I'm aware (and I admit I did look at wedding forums before I married), you don't send save the dates to evening invitees, only the full day.