Guests who accept wedding invitation then don't turn up

[meikyo]

DH and I got married over Easter weekend. It's second time for both of us so we had a small ceremony and sit down meal for immediate family. We had a larger gathering for an evening reception. 120 people RSVPd yes and we paid £25 a head for buffet and drinks for toast.

Of the 120, one couple texted me at 9pm the night before the wedding saying they were now going away for Easter and wished us a nice time. Two couples contacted DH re baby sitting issues and a further 10 just didn't turn up or contact us at all, despite RSVP yes a week or so before.

I have given it a couple of days in case people got in touch to say they had a sudden illness/crisis, but so far nothing. I completely understand the babysitting problem., so no issues there.

We are both v cheesed off with the no shows, including the couple who decided to go away! (She was at the hen night!). I clearly told people that the wedding was Easter Saturday. I also chased up RSVPs before we had to pay the final catering cost for venue. This has cost us hundreds of pounds extra so we are a bit annoyed!

We had that and the opposite. ' oh I just brought cousin Fred as he's in England on holiday'

Me and my wife got married 2 weeks ago . Over 20 guest did not turn up for the evening doo . In spite of us letting everyone know we were catering for them and needed to know if people could not make it . We are not rich and it left a bad taste in my mouth watching over £600 worth for food getting thrown away . Not had anybody who did not show up message me . My wife has forgotten about it but I cannot . We got a total of £660 as gifts from guests who showed up which was nice . And it kind of paid for Our so called friend who we have not heard from since .

I think it is a good idea to make the invitations as formal as possible to give the idea that it is important. A colleague of mine recently got married and mentioned to me she was having an evening do at the local golf club. She said to me, and I now know to the rest of the workforce, " you can come if you like" I took this to mean she was mentioning it only to be polite and didn't go. Everyone else thought the same and she was a bit upset at how few turned up. If she had sent out cards I probably would have said yes, but she would certainly have got a present.

ZOMBIE THREAD.

However still relevant I guess. Mines abroad so at least I know if they haven't got flights by now the chances are they won't come.

Don't think I've ever been to a wedding where people invited didn't turn up. Well not for the main part and meal. The evening reception yeah some didn't turn up, but that didn't matter.