Opinion please... Wedding abroad invite wording...

[ElBombero]

We are sending you this note, explaining our wedding plan. We'd love you to be there and we're hoping that you can.

We're getting married in xxxxx, somewhere nice and hot. We wish we could pay for you but it would be quite a lot.

For this reason we are asking you to bear our date in mind, so if you'd wish to join us we'd think it awfully kind.

We realise it may not be possible for everyone to come. And understand if you cannot attend as it maybe a hefty sum

We are going to tie the knot on xxxxx and hope you can be there. But if not please don't worry as we'll also be celebrating here.

We will be sending out the invitations & finalising the details & such. We will keep you updated on the info and we'll be in touch.

We got married abroad, a year before we sent out a save the date type note to everyone that said something along the lines of this, I could dig out the actual wording if you like?

We've decided to get married in xxx on xxx, and we'd love it if you're able to join us. We're staying at xxxx hotel and if you'd like to join us there that's fab, but if you'd like to come and stay elsewhere then please just make it your own holiday to enjoy. We understand not everyone will be able to make it, but wanted to give you as much notice as possible.

As long as you make it clear nobody's obliged to go and accept it as and when people can't make it but can make it their holiday if they want it's fine :)

Could you sooper, thanks x

I think I've got it saved on my laptop at work, I'll have a look tomorrow :)

are you having a celbfration /party of some sortwhen you get back for thise who can'tmake it, maybe you could consider this andut it on the invite so people who can't afford it have a nice optionB to choose?

something lie 'we're getting married on xxx at xxxxx, we'd love you to join us, however, if you're you re 'able to make it, we'll be having a post wedding bash to catch up with everyone on xxx at xxxx and we would love to see you there!

plus, youget to wear your dress twice!!

Thanks Joyce

I've planned to just do the plain save a dates and put the detail on the actual invites x

And thanks sooper

I think Joyce's suggestion of putting the at home party on the save the dates is a good one.
There may be people for whatever reason will feel obliged, feel pressure or even just feel a little stressed but that love you and want to make the effort for you but can't afford it or would be a struggle in another way to travel abroad.
Putting that there is an at home party that they will be welcome at afterwards may take some of that pressure off them and let them know that you actually do understand people may not make it abroad but that you still want them to be part of your celebrations.

agree with youmakemydreams.. i would put option b re a big bash for those that can't go on the save the date, then it immediately prevents people from themild panic of 'oh my God,I can't afford that! How do i get out of telling them?' and people may feel happier chatting about wedding plans as there won't be an issue of trying to avoid bringing up a converstaion of whther they are going to the wedding or not, as they know from your mention of the party that you understand people can't gop and they will be able tp celebrate with you at home

Have a lovely wedding, and then have a lovely party afterwards at home, wearing your frock twice

Too late all gone printers, I will speak to everyone though when passing invite on x