9 month won't eat please help

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Here is as much info as I can give:
She is formula fed Kendamil step 2

6:30am Bottle 1 180ml with iron drops and multi vit drops
10:00 Bottle 2 180ml
12:30 Bottle 3 180ml
1:30 - solids (Also tried 2pm)
3:00 - bottle 4 210ml
6:15 - bottle 5 210ml

She has 2 solid naps in the day at 11 and 3:10 normally around 1hr

Before she stopped eating. She preferred savory vegetables with wheat or egg. She had penut butter with bannana.
She didn't like fruit or sweet things as much but she did eat apple, plum and blueberry well. Sometimes with yoghurt.
I successfully moved her on to fork mashed food and one of her favourite was potato and green beans or egg and Carrott.

She just now pushes the spoon away, clamps her mouth shut or will only eat 1 spoon. she takes water during her meal no problem.

I've tried putting the mash in front of her to touch. Pre loaded spoons, also always offred her some of the vegetables as soft fingers for her pick up.

I thought it might be a leap because she started rolling onto her tummy all the time and is not pushing up on her arms but it's been 2.5 weeks now with no improvement. She isn't teething and has her 2 bottom theeth through without any fussing she is a super chill baby tho so even if it was bothering her she probably wouldn't fuss. I'm very lucky in that respect.
I'm eating with her as well. nothing is working and heath visitors advice was not helpful at all.

Have you tried reducing the number of bottles she has, or even the amount you are giving? She might not be that hungry. I noticed you are feeding her food 1 hour after a bottle - maybe swap this around so she is having food at 12:30pm instead?

My DD also didn't like sweet stuff and doesn't like typical breakfast items so I make her egg muffins, ABC muffins, etc and she loves them. Just keep offering her things.

There’s an average of 3 hours between bottles, so she’s probably not hungry 1 hour after a bottle? How come you don’t give her any food in the morning? I’d be trying it before bottles

As PP have said, food before bottles. I’d do breakfast as she’s been hungry if first bottle is at 6.30am and top up with bottle. Same at lunch or dinner. Also try and have your meal at the same time so eating is a communal event. You need to model the behaviour you want her to copy.

She won’t eat as she’s filling up on milk

I was giving her breakfast at 9:30am and started with baby porridge or mashed steamed fruit with yoghurt but she was refusing so I was told to go back down to 1 meal to keep it low pressure.
I also tried 12:30 food and then 1pm milk but that didn't make any difference and was advised to give food after milk but tommrow I will try again with solids before milk

she always has her first bottle nappy change and then go's back to sleep until 7:30/8am but I can try some baby porridge at 9 before her 2nd bottle

Sounds like a good plan OP. You also need to be consistent, so don’t give in if you’re not successful at first. It’s a process. They will learn if you are consistent in your routine and join in with her.

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Health visitor

I can understand the HV suggesting cutting back on offering solids if you are both getting stressed but I do agree with other posters saying that your LO is having so much Formula that they’re just not hungry enough for solids. Usually by 9 months you’d be looking at 600ml a day and offering solids 3 times a day.

It sounds like first bottle really works for you both and LO goes back to sleep until around 8? I would carry on with that bottle for now.

So how about:

Bottle at 6.30 am

Breakfast at 8 am on waking

Bottle at 11

Lunch at 12

Bottle at 3pm

Tea at 5 pm

Bottle at 7pm

tommrow I will try
6:30 bottle 1 180ml
9:00 breakfast
10:00 bottle 2 180ml
12:30 lunch
1pm bottle 3 180ml
4pm bottle 4 180ml
6:30 bottle 5 180ml

lets get her eating 2 meals a day before we try 3. I will try fruits, Yoghurt, porridge, scrabbled egg, penut butter and fruit for breakfast and vegetables with wheat or potato's lunch if she settles then next week start lentils and chicken building up to beef and fish.
I will keep a diary and update over the weekend on our progress

That’s still 5 bottles though OP so she’s unlikely to be hungry for any solids.

Is there a reason that you’re limiting the types of food that you’re offering too?

Usually that’s only advised if either parent had severe allergies. There is a list of foods to avoid giving babies here. As long as you avoid those, it doesn’t matter what you give them after 6 months

Keep offering food to play with when there is no pressure to eat it. Also have her sit on your lap while you eat, so she can learn about others eating and potentially grab it off you. Food strikes under 1 are very common. My eldest used to gum enthusiastically and then spit it all out. My youngest got ill and ate nothing but yoghurt for a month. They are both much bigger now and definitely don't shy away from eating.

Food shouldn't really be 'low pressure' but rather 'no pressure'! Just look on it as sensory play. When you have your meals offer her bits and pieces off your plate. If she eats them, fine, if not, also fine. Let her hold them and mulch them about in her fists and keep everything cheerful. Bibado bibs are great for reducing the mess, and a splash mat on the floor that you can bung in the washing machine afterwards.

I would also strongly advise reducing her milk. You probably wouldn't want a meal an hour after drinking 180mls of the stuff either! I think your new plan is a good idea, but I would be tempted to make 4:30 150ml and keep bedtime as big as usual, to keep her fuller through the night. You really want to be dropping that 4:30 one in place of a meal within the next few weeks.

I didn't think i was limiting the food choices. she has had over 10 different veg, 7 different fruits, wheat, Yoghurt, egg, peanut butter we just haven't started meat or lentils/beans yet but we're working towards that before her refuse to eat. we didn't start weaning until start 6.5 months due to her having bronchiolitis

I agree with previous posters about the amount of formula - NHS guidance says roughly 600ml would be the average formula intake. She just won’t be hungry enough. And again still good to keep exposing to food if she doesn’t eat it. Just do very simple foods so you’re not too frustrated if she doesn’t eat what you’ve made!

I will make her 2nd and 4th bottle 150ml see if that helps she has always had 180-210 since 6 months of age.
Today she has porridge for breakfast and lunch is green beans and potato with about 20ml of formula mixed through. it's a mash and I offer a few sticks of green beans for her to hold

What are you having for lunch OP?

spinnich and sweet potato mash for baby and dad and I have KASK badjoom we eat iranian diet.

OK so it's probably clear im a first time mum. I do work better will a schudule which is loose give or take 15min depending on how she is but has worked well for us. She does have baby groups on Mondays and Thursdays which I have to work into her timing. Here is a new plan which I hope will improve her eating. The total milk is now 810ml daily when she starts to eat better I will look at dropping a bottle probably bottle 4
What do you guys think?

6:30am – Bottle 180ml
8am - up, floor play and cuddles
9:15am – Breakfast + chair play
9:35am - wash
10:00 - floor play
10:25 - bottle 150ml
10:30-11:30 nap 1
11:30 - 12:15 floor play, cuddles etc park walk baby groups Mon and Thurs
play and cuddles
12:15pm – Lunch
12:45pm – Bottle 150ml
14:30 - 15:30 Nap 2
3:30pm – Bottle 150ml
6pm bath, story, cuddles
6:30pm – Bottle 180ml (bedtime

She had 1 finger in her porridge which she licked and 2 small spoons of Hipp organic porridge for breakfast before pushing away the spoon.
I really want to get this right for her and she starts nursery 2 days a week April 20th.
I will rotate breakfast items
Scrambled egg, Porridge, Fruit, Yoghurt

Ah i see. I was asking what you were having for lunch because I thought it might have been good to share but the salt in the dish you were having would probably be too much for your DD?

I can see from your posts that you are a first time Mum. I can also see that you seem very anxious over this.

Lots of Mums on Mat Leave like a bit of a schedule but I think if you’re scheduling your day quite to this extent then it might be worth talking to your HV or GP about the level of anxiety that you’re feeling.

Speaking to the Pandas Foundation might be a good idea too. They should be able to help you decide if your anxiety is enough to need some support

I would really think about dropping a bottle now.

Waiting for her to start eating before she drops a bottle is a bit back to front. You need to reduce the milk now and let her discover that food can satisfy her hunger as well as formula.

A few MNers have mentioned that she only needs 600 ml at this age. This amount reduces to 450 ml by 10 months. I think that’s nearly half of what she’s having now? So if you drop a bottle now and then another in a couple of weeks she should be having more like the recommended amount?

So in 4 weeks you could give a bottle before her first nap, a bottle before her second nap, and a botyle before bed.

It’s probably worth checking with the Nursery though what the schedule for milk, food and naps will be like there wheb she starts and try and it in with that

Have a look at this guide from the Caroline Walker Trust too. I think you will find it helpful as it gives suggested portion sizes and sample menus.

Thank you for all your advice. I will check those links out. I do feel that having it written down as a rough daily guide helps me stay focused on the task at hand. I can loose time otherwise. Although I also follow her cues. She was tierd and crying after every bottle today and has minor reflux I p
made a g. p appointment to discuss everything and hopefully things will improve. I don't feel Aniexty at all I feel structured and safe with a plan that she is looked after and happy. it might look like Aniexty because I've been so stressed about her now not eating and it getting worse.

She will only start to eat though when you reduce her bottles. It can be hard to think about cutting then down but it won’t hurt her to have one bottle less a day for now.

Food is only for exploring under 1. Mine barely ate any food til she was about 14 months; you need to be patient and relax. We never had any set routine or schedule for feeds/naps/ food; it sounds like you are being very rigid.

I think the advice on that has changed in the last couple of years