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Has anyone set up or go to a BLW group?

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Cazwa · 19/05/2007 19:50

Me and a friend Ive met through our BF group were thinking about setting up a BLW group along similar lines to our BF group and I wondered if anyone out there has done this before and has any advice?

The reason for setting up is that we've both found a real lack of advice, information or support apart from on the internet. My friend doesn't even have internet so between the pair of us we've muddled along and given each other support. A few people at our BF group have been asking our advice after watching our babies eating their lunch and hearing us talk about it so we thought perhaps there is a need.

We've found my nursery has never heard of it, our HV haven't, no other friends know of it, and its been sometimes a struggle when you are going it alone, so the moral support of a group might be helpful. Some days Ive thought this really isn't working when DD hasn't eaten a thing. Having someone say to me, dont worry, thats quite normal, it could be teething, try again tomorrow and dont stress, would have been a great help to me personally. IVe also found that our BF group is very much geared up for new mums and once your LO is past a few months and feeding well, or even gone onto formula theres not really the need to go, but there is nowhere else for weaning support.

Im thinking we meet in our local church large room which has a kitchen and high chairs, and meet around lunchtime once a week. We are going to advertise in local doctors, nurseries, through our 1 willing HV etc. People can come with their babies and all bring lunch and basically let them chow down! We might produce a really simple leaflet for first-timers which point them to the Rapley guidelines and some simple tips.

Any thoughts? Its in the North East by the way.

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bananabump · 19/05/2007 19:58

Ooh, whereabouts in the North East? I'm near Chester. I'd be up for something like that next year when baby is old enough to start blw!

Cazwa · 19/05/2007 20:00

Hi Bananabump, its going to be in North Shields/Tynemouth, which is right on the north east coast. Is Chester in the North West or is my geography really dodgy?!?

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bananabump · 19/05/2007 20:10

lol, no, you are right, it's just that I'm on the welsh border and where I lived is classed as North East Wales, so I had a brainfart and thought we were in the North East... porridge brain strikes again!

I'd kill for some wine right now.

Cazwa · 19/05/2007 20:15

Sorry, forgetting I am on a UK wide board and not an English one, I should have said North East England!

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hatwoman · 19/05/2007 20:19

sorry no advice but at your health visitor. my youngest child is 5, it's not my job to be up to date on such things and i've blummen well heard of it. I even know - roughly - what it is. sounds like your gorup would be a good idea - esp if you did that leaflet

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bananabump · 19/05/2007 20:34

lol jetjets, he's due in er...august

Wait til whomovedmychocolate comes in, she's used to me prematurely stalking the blw boards!!

ruddynorah · 19/05/2007 20:38

i just used aitch's blog for info when i started, plus mn of course and gill rapley's study. other than that i found youtube helpful for seeing blw in action.

mostly i found the best thing was to just carry on as normal and find 'followers' that way. so at baby groups etc while the other mums got their purees out me and dd would chomp a sandwich together. or in a cafe with friends they'd faff trying to warm mush up, i'd order off the menu for me and dd. then people would ask about it etc.

cathcart · 19/05/2007 20:39

this sounds like a great idea! I am in the south east but would definately go to a blw group if there was one around. No way though would I start a group as I will be going into this blind in a couple of months. Read up loads but would be great to have rl people there to give support and advice.

Aitch - you may have to start a tour! Our babies need YOU!

Cazwa · 19/05/2007 21:01

The one HV I know who has heard of has said to go for it in setting up a group. She said she reckons in a few years they'll all be aware of it and PCT's will be supporting it, but not to bother waiting for their input yet as they'll be in school by then!

Having seen the discussions on here about HV's telling people to give baby rice at 3 months then it'll be at least 10 years before BLW becomes embedded as an alternative approach to feeding.

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fibernie · 20/05/2007 07:10

What a fab idea..
Let me know if you need any help - I'm in Heaton.
DD is past the weaning stage now (16m) but would happily lend a hand, help you set up mailing list etc etc.

AitchTwoOh · 20/05/2007 13:26

i don't know anything about groups, tbh, as i don't go to anything like that in RL, i think MN is my proxy 'group'.
i assume you'd just do it like a mother and baby group? i don't know, though, this subject stirs up a lot of bad feeling on here, i'd be concerned that people who were spoon feeding or had started weaning a bit earlier might feel that they couldn't attend... dunno. i'd say that you could certainly help people by attending weanign talks with your baby and offering a BLW PoV, but having been involved in some extraordinarily bitter fights here i'd be careful...

monkey100 · 20/05/2007 15:20

My baby is now 17 weeks and i started giving him a very small amount of solids last week. I thought i was doing the best thing for him as he is a big boy and seemed to show all of the signs that i had read about. However i have been reading more on this website today and i am wondering if it was a mistake? I have had so much conflicting advice from so many sources - i just don't know anymore. Would it make a difference if i now stopped? Or would any potential damage already have been done? I have only given a very small amount.... i am breastfeeding and preferred the idea of giving something else natural rather than formula???

confused first time mum

Cazee · 20/05/2007 15:36

monkey100, if it were me I would stop now and continue with exclusive breast feeding until 26 weeks. I would be very sceptical about "signs", as many of these, such as waking in the night for feeds, are perfectly normal behaviour (if a little inconvenient for us!).
Plus, if you wait until 26 weeks your baby will be ready for BLW, which sounds like the most fun ever! Have you seen whomovedmychocolate's spaghetti pictures ? (dd is 20 weeks, so 6 weeks left for me...)

MrsBadger · 20/05/2007 15:38

Monkey, if you're unhappy with it there's no reason why you can't just stop and go back to 100% bf for as long as you like - he'll be fine on breastmilk alone till at least 6mo.

Don't beat yourself up about it though - you did what you thought was right on the information you had at the time .

fibernie · 20/05/2007 15:52

Aitch has a point cazwa... I'd say the best plan for you is to try to meet other mums doing BLW in your area and then maybe meet for lunch at each other's houses? That way it wouldn't have to be anything formal, ie. a club that some mums might feel they couldn't join.

fibernie · 20/05/2007 15:54

monkey100 - I feel for you... it's so confusing, you feel like no one sings from the same hymn sheet!
Why don't you have a look at some of the information here and at www.babyledweaning.com to help you make up your mind what to do?

monkey100 · 20/05/2007 16:12

I have never even heard of Baby Led Weaning before?!? Is this a new idea?

MrsBadger · 20/05/2007 16:37

the idea of going straight for finger food is as old as the hills (esp for second / third / etc children where the mother is way too busy to muck about pureeing everything) but the name is quite new.

JulietFarkinBravo · 20/05/2007 16:39

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CODalmighty · 20/05/2007 16:47

LOLOLOL

hwo you will cringe whne your kdis are 6

lulumama · 20/05/2007 16:50

monkey-- your LO was possibly having a growth spurt, often happens around 16 weeks

you can stop offering solids, and go back to BF only....don;t beat yourself up about it !

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