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Over heard conversation in Asda today re: jars

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jmum6 · 12/04/2006 16:40

Was in Asda buying follow on milk when 2 women came looking at the baby food.

'Really can't be doing with cooking for him' says one woman.

'No' says the other 'what a waste of time.'

Didn't know whether to laugh or cry. :o

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marthamoo · 12/04/2006 19:27

I think it's very sad not to cook for your child at all (if the only reason is that you can't be bothered) - though I think calling it child abuse is too strong.

Fwiw, ds1 was fed pretty much exclusively on jars - and I am a good cook , love cooking, and - like Enid - equate food with love Smile A few people told me that he would never like 'proper' food and that he wouldn't develop a range of tastes, would be a fussy eater etc. He is the least fussy eater I have ever met - eats pretty much everything, has a fantastic appetite.

Ds2 never had a jar (well, maybe one or twice if we were out and it was convenient). I lovingly mushed up what we ate for him, did the pureed veg in ice cube trays, provided him with a wide range of beautifully prepared, home cooked and nutritious food - and was such a fussy eater with nowhere near as good an appetite as ds1 (at 4, he is better - though still not a clear your plate and ask for seconds child like ds1).

Have no idea what that signifies, if anything, but I thought I'd get out one of my range of Lakeland silicon spoons (wooden? Pah, get out of the Dark Ages...) and give this thread another stir Grin

PutAPeachyInYourSimnelCake · 12/04/2006 19:30

Ds has very diluted juice... they don't always take water, coz you can't know if your 4 month old like mine is As can you? and As kids do what they damn well want even if it means hospital for dehydration- but i'd rather fruit juice diluted than a mix of sugar and Gawd knows what.

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hulababy · 12/04/2006 19:32

Was the cost that I was comenting on for the Waitrose women!

I used baby juice a little with DD. She wouldn't drink water until she was over a year old, and we did persevere, but also gave the odd VERY diluated juice at times too. She now choses to drink water over anything else the majority of the time.

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jmum6 · 12/04/2006 19:34

Diluted fruit juice is one thing, flavoured baby cordials and water is another. Just another way to make megabucks for the manufacturer.

By the way, we're going away for a week in 4 weeks time. Any ideas how I can avoid using jars 24/7 when I'm away?

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jmum6 · 12/04/2006 19:34

Diluted fruit juice is one thing, flavoured baby cordials and water is another. Just another way to make megabucks for the manufacturer.

By the way, we're going away for a week in 4 weeks time. Any ideas how I can avoid using jars 24/7 when I'm away?

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jmum6 · 12/04/2006 19:36

Diluted fruit juice is one thing but to buy baby cordials and flavoured water is just throwing money away imo

But any ideas on how I can avoid jars 24/7 when we go on holiday next month?!!

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jmum6 · 12/04/2006 19:37

Sorry bloody laptop is playing up, you keep getting everything in triplicate!

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PinkTulips · 12/04/2006 19:38

i used jars a couple of times a week with dd for the first few months as i didn't have a proper kitchen.

i did lovenly prepare lots of meals for her over that time (several a week) but lived in a very small cramped flat where the kitchen was just a corner of the living room, trying to keep dd happy in such a small space and contending with having a cooker on which 2 rings were broken and about a square foot of space to prepare the food (no exageration!), not to mention no storage space and no freezer space for leftovers, wasn't exactly conducive to me enjoying cooking. as soon as we moved to our bigger flat i stopped buying jars and have prepared every meal for her myself but there was no way i could handle that in the old flat.

although, even in that flat, i never bought her a breakfast in a jar, she always had cereal or fruit and she usually had yojurts and fruit etc for tea so i'm not defending all jar buyers, just pointing out some of us did it for other reasons than laziness!

barefeete · 12/04/2006 19:40

what is the difference between follow on milk and normal formula?
sorry but got confused by the follow on milk comment earlier!

edam · 12/04/2006 19:45

Thing is Enid, you like cooking and equate it with love. I hate it ... but equate it with love when I actually do it. Really, really resent my hard-fought efforts being rejected... think ds would be better off emotionally if I just gave him ready meals, tbh. Grin

PinkTulips · 12/04/2006 19:53

ps, i did insist on buying all organic, so i'm not all evil!

Moondog · 12/04/2006 19:53

I'm with Enid.
If you can't be arsed to cook for your kids,it's a pretty poor show.
These people always seem to have time to watch shite on the tv though eh??

Eh? Eh?

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jmum6 · 12/04/2006 19:57

I wasn't going to bother with follow on milk until I read a comment about it containing more iron and extra nutrients than normal milk and that it's a good safety net if you've got a picky eater.

AND it's a £1 cheaper (bracing myself for the expected comments Wink)

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PutAPeachyInYourSimnelCake · 12/04/2006 19:59

Hmm, who published the info you read and do they need the extra iron though- that's the question.

I think there may be an issue if someone 'can't be bothered', but there are so many possible reasons too.

PinkTulips · 12/04/2006 20:01

wish something was cheaper than goats milk! my dd has a milk intolerance so our milk bill each week is double what it should be, not to mention she doesn't really drink milk except at night(the goats milk is for cereal and cooking) so pay fortunes for cartons of tropicana +calcium to increse her calcium intake. god i miss breastfeeding!

Dior · 12/04/2006 20:02

I used to buy the fruit purees to take out. I also had the odd jar, but I too felt embarrassed at the till!

Jodie - your dd/ds might be in bed when you cook, but you can puree several portions and freeze them for other days. I used to do this with roasts/veggie. lasagne/macaroni cheese etc. Also, if I made a recipe especially for ds, I would make enough for 4 portions, and freeze the other 3. Makes your life easier, and you know that their is always something home-cooked to choose from.

PutAPeachyInYourSimnelCake · 12/04/2006 20:02

My DS is intol (ds1 and 3), ds3 gets enfamil lactofree on prescription and has done for a few years. HTH.

katierocket · 12/04/2006 20:03

"breakfast in a jar"?! does such a thing exist then?

PutAPeachyInYourSimnelCake · 12/04/2006 20:03

You'd be amazed how many people, esp. those in tiny bedsits, don't actually have a freezer.

just a thought.

PinkTulips · 12/04/2006 20:04

living in ireland, nothing is free on prescription! also she spits soy milk at me (literally) so thats a bust!

PinkTulips · 12/04/2006 20:05

lol, was just thinking that peachy, that was me!

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jmum6 · 12/04/2006 20:06

I think it may have been a Gina Ford book. It does contain more iron, which they ought to get in their diet anyway, but my ds is such a poor eater (my cooking, jars, babylicious - he's not fussy!) that I thought he might benefit from it.

Certainly wouldn't recommend it instead of breastfeeding, but my milk dried up a few months ago.

By the way, about the PND comments and cooking. I suffer from PND and am on ad and I still manage to cook for ds. So not sure I understand those comments. ( but not judging anyone)

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PutAPeachyInYourSimnelCake · 12/04/2006 20:08

Quite a lot of depressives (and some poeple as a result of AD medication) get very tired indeed, which could affect their time to cook and motivation to do so. I know my friend on Ad's sleeps most of the day and night and has done for years, her Mother has to take kids.

Northerner · 12/04/2006 20:10

YOu know what? If you love cooking and enjoying pureeing nutrious home grown, home cooked grub for your baby then fab. But some people hate cooking, don't enjoy it, don't have time and aren't very good at it. If these people choose to feed baby jars/packets then the world is not going to end is it?

Saying it's tantamount to child abuse is bloody ridiculous. I bet the poor bloody kids who really suffer from abuse wish that being fed jars is the worst thing to happen to them.

Really hate it when people expect you to live by their standards.