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Kid just threw controller out of window

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Devinathequeen · 23/04/2022 09:32

My DS has just THROWN his PS 5 controller out of the second floor window after he has just been glitched out of his game of Fortnite and it has now been cracked and no longer works. I feel like punishing him but I don't want his anger issues to worsen.

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Grumpsy · 23/04/2022 09:33

Personally I’d be taking the ps5 off him. I’m grumpy so he’s probably loose it for at least month.

Artichokeleaves · 23/04/2022 09:34

Natural consequence there anyway. Lose your temper and throw an expensive item and break it?

Well shoot, you no longer own an expensive item.

I'd sympathise and be clear that you won't be rushing to replace it.

Idontgiveagriffindamn · 23/04/2022 09:34

Of course there should be punishment / consequences for this behaviour. Not addressed it could cause his behaviour to get worse as he views it as acceptable.
How old is he?

Soultrader · 23/04/2022 09:35

There's not a chance in hell id be replacing that. So there's his consequence.

MayorDusty · 23/04/2022 09:36

Natural consequences surely?
Now the controller goes in the bin and no PlayStation?

Grumpsy · 23/04/2022 09:36

I missed the no longer working bit 😅🙈 no I wouldn’t be replacing it either. Abs he would face other consequences too.

PAFMO · 23/04/2022 09:37

"oh, you don't want that game anymore so you threw the equipment away. No problem. Here's a book"

Smile and walk away.

JolkienRolkienRolkienTolkien · 23/04/2022 09:37

I agree with @Artichokeleaves, the natural consequence of throwing the controller is that it now doesn't work. Assuming he doesn't have an SEN that means he can't make the link, don't replace it until he can show you that he understands.

Aquamarine1029 · 23/04/2022 09:38

Come on, now. Of course he has to face consequences. That kind of behaviour is totally unacceptable. I would be taking gaming away for three months and he can earn the money to replace the controller.

AnnesBrokenSlate · 23/04/2022 09:39

He's 15. What do you usually do when he has a temper tantrum? Or is this a one-off?
The natural consequence is that he can't game because he broke the controller. It'd take away his second controller if he has one. Then I'd send him out for a walk till he calms down.
When he got to game again, would depend on all the variables you haven't mentioned eg his anger issues; how often he loses his temper; your rules around gaming; what is going on in his life, etc.

toomuchlaundry · 23/04/2022 09:39

How old? Why does he have anger issues? In this house DS would have to buy a new one but he is a teen. If younger, and if you can afford a new one, he would have to earn it back through behaviour and chores

Hawkins001 · 23/04/2022 09:40

I never understand gamer rage, my flavour is call of duty warzone, yes at times very frustrating but why break the equipment as then you either spend more ££ fixing equipment or then cannot use the machine until it's fixed

GrazingSheep · 23/04/2022 09:40

What age is he? What anger issues does he have?

AnnesBrokenSlate · 23/04/2022 09:40

Oops, sorry. I don't know why I thought he was 15. I think I misread PS5

FasterthanBolt · 23/04/2022 09:41

I would sympathise with him that the controller is broken and leave it for him to figure out the cause and effect! Absolutely no to replacing it, and if he has the funds to replace it himself I would make him wait a few weeks as punishment. My oldest son was dreadful for gaming rage when he was younger and many a time I would take his console to work with me as punishment!

Flickflak · 23/04/2022 09:42

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flashpaper · 23/04/2022 09:43

We had to ban Fortnite from our house because DS got completely absorbed into it and it made him angry and upset. Best thing we did, no other games make him that way.
Absolutely agree with natural and logical consequence. No need to do anything, he can't play now the controller is broken. I'd just laugh 🤷🏼‍♀️

watcherintherye · 23/04/2022 09:47

Years ago one of mine threw his Nintendo DS in anger and broke it. Never had another one, nor did he ask, tbf!

Spudlet · 23/04/2022 09:47

I also understand gamer rage - but you can’t be throwing stuff around, it won’t help. He’s broken it now so he can’t play - that’s the consequence for him. I’d also talk to him
about whether a game that makes him that angry is actually fun, anyway.

I wouldn’t be replacing the controller just yet (actually I would on the quiet so I could
olay once he was in bed, but I wouldn’t tell him that)

JoeGoldberg · 23/04/2022 09:48

Natural consequences here. He has no controller. He can't play his PS5.

AngelaRayner4PM · 23/04/2022 09:59

He has a natural consequence in that the controller is broken, it is his responsibility to either replace it if he has his own money of any kind, save any pocket money, earn it back through doing extra jobs around the house or to wait until next Christmas/birthday for a replacement.

Otherwise I would try and see this is an opportunity to talk to him about his anger and to help him learn and/or come up with some anger management strategies that don't involve breaking his prized possessions. Don't invalidate his feelings of frustration (he already knows it's just a game, pointing that out will just make him feel dismissed when obviously his feelings are just as valid whatever the cause, they are his feelings). Try to talk to him about alternative strategies. Eg. Put the controller down and then punch a pillow. Say all the worst words he knows. Scream into a pillow or his hands. Etc. These all let out frustration without anything being broken or damaged. And are a good step on the way to managing anger or frustration through more appropriate means like counting to ten or breathing exercises walking away from situation etc. But it can be hard to go straight from major destruction to just counting or breathing. Could also try some stress balls or maybe a punching bag? Just some way to let out that raw emotion in a less destructive way.

Matildahoney · 23/04/2022 10:02

My nephew threw his controller at the TV, broke the TV, she made him save up to buy a new one so he learnt the value of it & because she couldn't afford to replace it. He never did it again.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 23/04/2022 10:07

'Oh dear, that's a shame'. [walk away]

'You've got nothing to do now? That's OK, the washing needs to come downstairs and the dishwasher needs loading.'

'You're bored? I'll bring the vacuum cleaner up and you can do your room and the landing'.

Be obnoxiously calm and cheerful.

'Well, yes, it's broken now because you threw it out of the window. Do you have sixty pounds to buy a new one? Oh, that's a problem....Well, you could earn it by doing extra chores - pound a job? Two things a day means you'll be able to buy a replacement by half term'.

BewareTheBeardedDragon · 23/04/2022 10:09

Imo natural consequences are WAY more effective than any imposed and potentially perceived to be unfair punishment.

He has no controller now and can't play unless and until he pays for a new one. He will know and understand that it was his actions alone that caused this. If you impose another additional punishment he might (depending on his personality) transfer his anger/frustration from the game and his own actions onto you, as the imposer of the punishment.

FrankLeeSpeaking · 23/04/2022 10:09

Agree. Just don't buy him a new one.
How old is he? A younger child losing his temper is more acceptable. A 17 year old, not so much.

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