It hasn't seen the earth -WTF??

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So said DH last night and refused to take the leftovers of the meal I'd made for lunch into work today. Said I was ridiculous, knew nothing about cooking and "it hasn't seen the earth". I assume this is because tomatoes grow above ground? Is this some form of extra-veganism I should know about or has he totally lost the plot?

I made this Pasta and had served it to the DC with other stuff for lunch. For evening meal we had salad and spinach falafels so I put some of those aside for him to have with it and offered to add some steamed carrots from the weekend. Before he decided to go vegan, cherry tomato and carrot pasta was a meal he sometimes cooked.

I am so lost right now. Is that not an edible meal? The DC were perfectly happy with it.

I would let him do his own meals. It sounds as though he's close to getting an eating disorder.

this is very very weird

as for your question about whether a meal is “edible” or not…. really?

. Is that not an edible meal? The DC were perfectly happy with it

surely you answer your own question!
and presumably you enjoyed

I’d wager that this is just one of
many issues in your not so happy
marriage

Well, I'm not spectacularly enthusiastic about the whole vegan thing, neither are the DC but they're being very good about it. I suppose I meant "is it nutritionally acceptable or balanced" rather than edible (which it was!). DC and I ate it with the leftover meat from the weekend - we had IL's over and DH doesn't want to tell his dad he is now vegan, so... I thought with some spinach falafels for the protein it would be an acceptable, if uninspiring, meal.

My DH is vegetarian - always has been. I’m not. I now do all the cooking and will cook veggie meals, but I also eat meat too! I would have eaten the dish you cooked, but maybe added feta cheese or grilled halloumi. If we have chilli, i make a veggie one and a meat one and freeze portions. For burgers / sausages / bacon I always have meat versions.
If your DH is so bothered about becoming vegan, tell him to do his own cooking!

Well, I'm not spectacularly enthusiastic about the whole vegan thing, neither are the DC but they're being very good about it

Why do you all have to be vegan because he chose to be?

It’s completely unacceptable to expect the whole family to adhere to his dietary whims.

Tell him to cook his own meals.

What does hasn't seen the earth mean?

Erm why are you all being vegan?

If your husband wants to be, fair enough but there's no requirement for you all to be.

I'm vegetarian but DH and the kids have meat - because they like it and their diet is their choice.

Also if he's trying to save the planet, eating left overs is a good thing, whatever they are

Well I'd never cook for him again if he was so rude to me!
Cook for yourself and the kids and let him sort out his own food.

Did he eat vegan when his parents were there? Because if he didn't and then was so fussy about your food, he really is taking the piss.

Does he usually take lunch into work in general? Some people just don't lile eating from a box in front of colleagues..

FIL does this. He went onto a raw vegan diet next and ended up seriously ill, it was hard not to smirk after all the hell he put everyone thru.
If he was genuinely interested in food etc he would shop and cook. This is a controlling man who has new stick to beat you with.

Did he think that the vegetables had been grown in an artificial way ? Hydroponics? Rather than hand picked by a dewy maiden from a hand weeded garden that has never seen an agricultural chemical?

Because he is going to have a very restricted diet if those are his criteria.

I'm vegan (only one in my house) and family dinners are often vegan just for ease. They are allowed to eat meat as long as I don't have to cook it.

WTF does "It hasn't seen the earth" mean 😳

He’s odd. Stop cooking for him, but have leftovers available. If he asks why, repeat what he said, that you ‘know nothing about cooking’ and no longer understand his dietary preferences.

Stay really calm. Until he is able to communicate his preferences properly you are not able to accommodate them.

This does sound like disordered eating. His family must be stressful around food if he doesn’t want them to know what he’s doing.

PP please note the rest of the family aren't vegan and are eating meat alongside vegan meals.

OP he sounds like a twat. Don't cook for him any longer.

My husband has complained twice in our pretty long marriage about my cooking. The reason it's twice is he forgot what happened the first time around.

Tell your husband he's to make his own meals from now on. The only thing he should be saying to you is thankyou.

@RoseNy because I'm not cooking multiple meals.

Did he eat vegan when his parents were there? No

Does he usually take lunch into work in general?
Yes. But he refused leftovers from when his parents were here and I joking asked "why, will it ruin your image?" And he nodded. So I imagine he's been quite vocal about his new-found veganism at work. He will often take our lunch for the following day which means I have to cook vegan when he's not here so he has something the following day.

If he's not with us for lunch and he doesn't need a meal for the next day DC and I don't eat vegan.

He also complained I bought proper milk for the weekend and proper cheese for a cheesecake. (Other thread somewhere below) he first suggested we go flexitarian ie vegan during the week not on the weekend but he's now making comments on anything the DC & I eat at the weekend too.

I've no idea about the earth thing, wondered if it was it's own branch of veganism. Does it mean all meals need to have one root veg in them? Can I drop his meal in the garden before serving it to him...

because I'm not cooking multiple meals.

You don't have to. Cook for you are your DC and let him sort himself out. Why should the whole family have to change their meals to suit one person?

I bet his colleagues are as sick as you are of his dietary choices.

Also, why is he eating meat in front of his dad? What is it to him if his son wants to follow a vegan diet? This is how committed DH is to veganism.

Sorry OP but you’re coming across as an absolute doormat.

I can’t believe you’re bending over backwards to cook and eat things you and your DC don’t want just to try and please him. (And then he’s not even pleased!)

It’s not a hardship for him to cook for himself.

I think maybe it's just that it doesn't have much veg in it. It looks tasty but I might've added some nuts or puy lentils for protein.

HOWEVER I think if he is going to be like this he really needs to cook for himself and you should count him out of your decision-making when it comes to food. Like a pp said, this sounds like an eating disorder developing.

OMG - he has lost the plot... and turned into a tosser - but maybe he always was..

Good luck!! and yeah - his workmates are probably all fed up too.

Put the food in a container and bury it in the garden - he can forage for his dinner / lunch.

As you are 'ridiculous' and 'know nothing about cooking', I would not be including him in my meal plans. I would be cooking meals that appeal to you and your children and letting him fend for himself - you can allocate a shelf in the fridge for him with a few carrots on it.

I am not against vegan / vegetarians in any way - my sister and her family are, as are my BIL and his family. When they come to visit or we eat together, we eat vegan food.