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Cancelled summer holiday, other suggestions please

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Nchol26 · 24/02/2026 01:57

I’ve nc-ed for this as outing.

As my title states I have been forced to cancel our UK summer holiday. We booked it last year and went without a break last year to save up. As we have never been away in the summer holidays I have been really looking forward to it. To cut a long story short there’s been a huge family fall out situation with my extended family. I was left with the only option available to me which was to cancel our holiday. I have lost the deposit. I am really emotional and drained by it all.

As well as this my DP already has ten weekends away booked (sport hobby type of things). One in Europe so DP will be away for that one for a week so I think it’s about 30 days. DP also works away a few days per month. We have pet caring responsibilities (rescues) so that all falls to me.

Due to the cancellation of our holiday we have had to have a frank adult conversation about it all. My DP has now deemed adult DC who lives with us (mine) as currently unsuitable to cover the pets, I sadly agree. So DP has said for me to get a break that the only option is that I go away by myself for a couple of nights. I’m feeling really low, depressed, overwhelmed and lonely from it all now. As I am sure some of you will point out it’s also not fair and I totally agree. I ended up in tears and I am feeling really trapped.

If anyone can suggest anywhere or anything that they have done alone and enjoyed I would love some suggestions, UK only. I live on the Kent/Sussex border. I am in my 50s love nature and history but I cancelled our NT and English heritage memberships this year to save for the holiday. I don’t like crowds/noise (ND) and I suffer from really bad anxiety.

And before people suggest solo dates to the cinema/theatre and so on I’ve been doing that for over 20 years when DP works away (in the past was away every week). So I can’t stomach doing that with my current frame of mind.

OP posts:
user1492757084 · 11/03/2026 05:27

Do you want to stay home and visit local day spas and places that pamper you?
Have your DC do all cooking and cleaning for you both those five days. Choose a time when DP is away.

You attend to the cats; and set a time limit for them to be comfortable enough to cope with having a cat sitter feed them. They might not be able to be sucessfully rehomed, no matter how hard you try.

Save your money for visiting your parents as I hear that is what you would really love to do.

Set a time limit for your DC to be capable of looking after themselves fully before they move out.

Discuss the expectation of future shared holidays with DP. You both need to be on the same page so that you each allot time. You are a couple; that should not be a shock to DP.

Bulbsbulbsbulbs · 11/03/2026 10:24

I would go to a small luxury hotel, The Scarlet in Cornwall or one of The Pig hotels.

Goldfsh · 11/03/2026 10:28

OP, it sounds as though you have an adult DC who is useless, doesn't get on your DP (which is why they are away so much) and can't even look after some cats.

Can you spend some money on therapy to work out your next life steps? It sounds like a right pickle.

I found a therapist in the middle of the country and I enjoyed the drive there and back AND it gave me some space to myself. It's just a thought!!!

cestlavielife · 04/04/2026 14:49

Something like this. Yes expensive but you wont have to do anything food etc

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regista · 04/04/2026 22:00

OP, have you thought about being a Trusted Housesitter? You love animals, can pick a part of the country you love, you’ll have a purpose in looking after pets, activity if it’s a dog as you will be walking, ideally in gorgeous countryside, and you could just concentrate on chilling out, pack your own hobby, bring some books, get some lovely shopping in etc.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 04/04/2026 22:05

shame you can’t go away with a friend or a child.
if in the uk I would book two nights three days at the glasshouse retreat in Essex it’s fine to go alone most people do and it’s a great mix of wellness and emotional wellbeing stuff

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