Children chalking over our land

[Charliec12]

Hi all, am I over reacting? My neighbours brought their children some chalks at the weekend. The children are chalking everywhere with them including on my driveway which we half share with them. My OH said to one of the children tonight that the area looked a mess. Said child started crying and then the Mum came out and was confrontational and annoyed with me that I don’t agree with it looking nice in the area. I also have 2 young children and I get they want to have fun.

It's not private if it's shared. Oxymoron.

You said housing association as well

Is there really a need to call me that?

As long as Op is engaged here, she's leaving some poor child alone as they try and play.

Why would you care if other people's kids are indoors on a screen?

Honestly some people are so entitled on here! 🤣

So what if it's a bit of chalk. The woman could have asked her children to keep to her side of the drive way or do you not respect things that don't belong to you?

We had kids from next street chalk all over the side of one of our flats. And I mean all over the side. It didn't come off with the rain. The grounds man tried to scrub it off and it became a daubed mess that was left for ages.

You're basically teaching your kids they can do what they hell they like and on whoever's property. To not respect things and people around you. No wonder so many dragged up people. You all think world owes you everything.

Yes they do on the areas that we own

Your poor children 😭 you sound like a delightful mother. Do you remember what Perez Hilton said to Katie Hopkins on Celebrity Big Brother let's hope your kids don't feel that way.

A bully for saying loudly ‘what a mess’ when kids have drawn all over our property. I have my deeds I know what I own. Get that we need to share it though correct.

Why? My children play out all the time. They just respect others areas.

@Ginburee
They wrote things like;

You've got this!
Smile!
Have fun!
You are a superhero!

They also drew rainbows, happy faces, suns etc. Lots of bright colours.

It was really sweet. And I looked forward to seeing it every year, even after my DCs had moved on to secondary.

I have my deeds I know what I own

ah, you’ve sunk to this point…

maybe you and your bloke need to go around to your neighbours and insist on showing them your deeds in minute detail. I’m sure that would be helpful in them kowtowing to you and knowing their place.

from this point on you should probably carry copies of all legal documents so you can produce legal evidence on any interaction you have with people that aren’t you.

If you say so, this is nothing to do with looking down on anyone it is about respect.

Miserable attitude to kids just having harmless fun. Lighten up. It’s chalk and it’ll wash away in the rain.

No love, the prick that makes kids cry to feel the big man instead of speaking to the adults :) x

It just sounds so OTT. I own my house but I have never referred to 'my land'. It's not a sprawling country estate.

The kids on my street get out the chalk from time to time and draw all over the pavement and driveways. Then it rains and it disappears. It's just not a big deal IMO

It is unsightly and messy and they have their own areas to do it in. My kids would not chalk on someone else’s area.

I own my house to I don't go out with my broom stick telling off other peoples children. If my car park was shared and I saw happy children using chalk on the drive it would actually make me happy. I would probably get my own children involved in the harmless fun. I'm not an uptight cunt who thinks highly of myself.

I agree with you and have mentioned on here that he did apologise to the child and her mum for that reaction.

'Unsightly' 😂 one of those words that I never actually hear people use IRL

Can I ask OP, why did you ask if YABU of you're so adamant that you're not?

Do you not see that, whilst annoying and they maybe shouldn't have done it, it's really not the end of the world and it will always away, and that your husband shouldn't have raised his voice at other peoples children? He crossed a line there, no amount of 'respecting his private areas' (weird way to put it btw) justified raising his voice at the neighbour kids!

He knows he was wrong so what are you going on about. Get a bucket of water and wash it off if bothers you that much. A storm in a tea cup.

Really hope you already have fibre broadband etc already and won't need a party wall agreement/ drain replacement/ scaffolding for roofing past your boundary temporarily/ boundary fence replacement etc any time soon as this is not private land it's a shared access and you are falling out with neighbours situated very closely to your plot you might need to work with in the future over nothing. Sounds like a newish build set up so maybe nothing needs to be changed now but will at some point in the future. Your attitude to owning land which is a shared access is problematic and a grown man shouting at a child over it is massively ich

I bet you egged on your husband to go out there and tell off the children. That's why he apologised he realised he listened to someone who is unreasonable and put it right.