My friend is getting married and its a very small wedding. Just parents, no siblings as both single children, 5 groomsmen and 5 bridesmaids. Some partners have been invited and some haven't.
All 10 of the bridal party have partners but 1 and bride and groom didn't want half their wedding to be partners as it's very expensive.
All engaged or married partners have.
My partner has as he's been dating me for 5 years.
None who have been dating less than 2 years on the date of the wedding unless engaged. The idea was no short term relationships.
I have no problem with this.
This effected 4 people in the bridal party. 1 who didn't care as their partner would have to also buy a flight and it was too expensive. 1 who would be at the 23 month mark so bride and groom reluctantly extended an invite when the bridesmaid just assumed their partner was included (they have never met the partner). 1 who has since broken up. 1 who really cares and is very upset. They will be dating their partner about 18 months on the day of the wedding and see this as the person they will eventually marry.
She want's me to raise it to the bride and groom.
I am MOH and very close with bride. I already know that in her eyes the wedding is bigger and more expensive than she wanted, costs are mounting and one extra person is £165 just for their food and champagne toast. There is also the cost of an open bar on top and the wedding budget has gone over.
I think the bride should be able to invite whoever they like. Who is being unreasonable here?