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Awcw1234 · 03/08/2026 16:08

Hello,
Off out on Friday evening with some colleagues and plan to wear this. Will be going a few bars. Not feeling great about myself at the minute and ChatGPT has told me the dress does nothing for my shape but unfortunately, I just have no waist at the minute due to weight gain (perimenopause 😩) so please no comments about how it does nothing for my figure as maxi dresses are the only thing I feel comfortable in right now 😭
Anyway, what shoes would you wear? Black flat sandals, black heeled sandals, trainers? I have no gold shoes.
Does the outfit look ok overall? I will also be wearing a bracelet that matches the necklace.

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Rumpledandcrumpled · Yesterday 19:35

Bollihobs · Yesterday 19:14

I think you look great in the dress, sod ChatGPT!

I'd go for chunky black sandals or trainers to keep the vibe casual and comfortable.

But it’s not suitable for city centre bars in Manchester, she will feel silly and over dressed.

Awcw1234 · Yesterday 19:36

EleanorMc67 · Yesterday 19:13

OP - I feel for you ... this thread is full of the most conflicting advice ever!!

What about asking someone who you think is stylish, or one of your friends/colleagues who's also going along?

If I was feeling uncertain & had posted here for advice, I think the conflicting opinions would persuade me to cancel & stay in!!

(Like @TealReader & @PhaedraTwo , I would always veer towards over- rather than underdressed if I wasn't sure what others would be wearing. I'd also go with "punking up" something delicate or pretty, so would go with chunky-ish sandals with the dress.)

Honestly how I feel to be honest!

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Rumpledandcrumpled · Yesterday 19:36

PhaedraTwo · Yesterday 18:33

The bodysuit looks as if it's too short for you. It looks as if it's had to be stretched and pulled down hard to fasten.

The dress is better but wear with the clompiest sandals you have to tone down the prettiness/dressing upness. No delicate heels or ballet pumps.

No it doesn’t, it’s not remotely stretched, it’s just low cut.

WasntSupposedToBeLikeThis · Yesterday 19:40

Stacey Solomon is wearing exact same dress on her insta. She is wearing bling H sandals

What shoes?
Gooseling · Yesterday 19:45

Rumpledandcrumpled · Yesterday 19:35

But it’s not suitable for city centre bars in Manchester, she will feel silly and over dressed.

Eh? Of course it is!

I lived just outside of the city centre for years and no one bats an eyelid at what people are wearing. Manchester is so diverse with lots of fancier and dressier places, you’ve got Gay Village, NQ, Spinningfields, Deansgate/Peter Street.

Unless she’s going to 42’s or a student dive bar in NQ she won’t look silly or overdressed anywhere.

OP I don’t think this thread is helpful. It’s making you overthink, and it’s quite upsetting to see you have your confidence knocked and question yourself.

AMurderofMurderingCrows · Yesterday 19:57

Awcw1234 · Yesterday 19:36

Honestly how I feel to be honest!

Your dress is gorgeous on you. You have a lovely figure and your ChatGPT is a cheeky bitch 😂 Do you feel comfortable in it?

Personally I'd wear black heeled ankle boots with it but I appreciate it might be too warm for that. Not sure what the weather is like in Manchester.

Bollihobs · Yesterday 19:57

Rumpledandcrumpled · Yesterday 19:35

But it’s not suitable for city centre bars in Manchester, she will feel silly and over dressed.

ChatGPT is that you.....??? 🤔😂

Moanycowbag · Yesterday 19:57

I would go with dress and chunky sandals over the jeans.

AMurderofMurderingCrows · Yesterday 19:57

Bollihobs · Yesterday 19:57

ChatGPT is that you.....??? 🤔😂

😂😂😂😂😂

Moanycowbag · Yesterday 19:58

Bollihobs · Yesterday 19:57

ChatGPT is that you.....??? 🤔😂

😂

EleanorMc67 · Yesterday 19:58

Gooseling · Yesterday 19:45

Eh? Of course it is!

I lived just outside of the city centre for years and no one bats an eyelid at what people are wearing. Manchester is so diverse with lots of fancier and dressier places, you’ve got Gay Village, NQ, Spinningfields, Deansgate/Peter Street.

Unless she’s going to 42’s or a student dive bar in NQ she won’t look silly or overdressed anywhere.

OP I don’t think this thread is helpful. It’s making you overthink, and it’s quite upsetting to see you have your confidence knocked and question yourself.

Agree, that dress is IMO on the slightly more casual side anyway. Been out loads in Manchester in the past, in various types of bars & clubs, & I would go with the dress.

TealReader · Yesterday 19:59

Honestly OP wear whichever you yourself prefer. I like to dress in what makes me happy and being overdressed doesn’t concern me hugely. I tend to go very low key with my shoes, bags and makeup so don’t look like I’m going to a garden party anyway. I think a dress can easily be dressed up or down as can denim so go with whatever you love and makes you feel good.

EleanorMc67 · Yesterday 20:01

Rumpledandcrumpled · Yesterday 19:36

No it doesn’t, it’s not remotely stretched, it’s just low cut.

I would personally feel more overdressed (or should that be underdressed?!) in a really low-cut top.

@Rumpledandcrumpled - are you a very low-key casual dresser?

Goodluckanddontfitup · Yesterday 20:02

Any of these outfits are fine for an evening in Manchester City centre. In those muggy weather I’d personally go for the maxi, with the chunky sandals or block heels, but that’s just as I prefer a heel, flat sandals would be fine too. No idea what people are going on about it being too dressed up, that’s nonsense, it’s a fairly casual and nice maxi, perfect for the occasion, a nice balance as you will have some people in jeans and trainers, as well as some very dressed up in heels and mini dresses etc in matchester city centre. The comments about this being ‘too dressy even in London’ - up north is totally different and a mixed bag, some people absolutely get very dressed up, others don’t. Don’t overthink it honestly, wear whatever you want, personally I always feel better in something new so I’d do the dress!

cowandplough · Yesterday 20:20

Looks very good to me

Princessfluffy · Yesterday 20:27

Block heel black sandals

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