AIBU to think there may be dangers in this?

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To think there are dangers in this?
My son aged 20 yrs just asked my opinion and his sisters aged 23 yrs opinion of this issue, opinions appreciated.
My son is on an online dating app, he has recently come out of a long term relationship of 2 yrs and wanted more casual encounters . Hes honest about that.
He generally is attracted to slightly older women so didnt give a very young age bracket. He matched with a woman aged 42 yrs . They messaged a bit and seemed to get on ,then arranged to meet. She then said she was married and her husband agreed to an open marriage. Thats when things got a bit unusual. She said her husband had selected my sons profile for her and that she wanted to meet at her home for sex and it would be videod and later her husband would like to sit in and watch.
My son is not keen and wonders if there are dangers in this.
My DD says he should run for the hills as this video will end up on only fans or hell be blackmailed...
Is she right?

What do you mean?

This is totally normal and sure look it's the way things are now a days. You could possibly go along with him to ensure he is safe, you don't have to be in the room or you can if that's your thing, the husband might be a friendly fellow.

The DH might want to have a go with your son, when son is finished with the wife. OMG what have I just said/thought, but hey it could happen.

Wtf. This is the most bizarre thing I have ever read on here

Ds "Hello Potential shag. This is my mum. She can keep your husband company while we get down to it"

Door slams

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The husband tries to get it on with the mum 😳

It's a parenting website, with forums where you can ask for advice. Are you saying your children don't ask you for advice about whether they should allow cuckolded husbands to film their sexual encounters with strangers?

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(I'd be horrified if mine did)

Insanity. Your dd is right.

They could have a cuppa and a natter

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Oh I’m thinking the woman is catfishing and isn’t actually a woman. Your son is about to go to a random strangers house and star in some gay rape fantasy porn potentially endanger his life.
I think he’d do well to learn to listen to his own intuition and his sisters advice - she seems to have her head screwed on the right way

politely decline.

I knew a guy of around 35 who had a preference for older women. By all accounts he had many many adventures with married women. Some with the knowledge and consent of the husbands and presumably some without. (He had been into this since he was about 21. ). I have no problem believing what he’s been invited to do. I would suggest the filming is a no since that’s going to be around forever and it’s entirely understandable that he wouldn’t want evidence. If he meets her then he needs a hotel and probably no commitment to meet the husband. He should be in the room first Or he could give the whole thing a swerve and find a less complicated set up. I don’t think there’s any plan to blackmail him they’re just “ sex people”

Well quite. We've all done it 😂

Seriously, I would worry about anyone stupid enough to even consider doing this.

I don't think it's dangerous to have sex while being filled. 😉

• FILMED - (bit the filled is a ... pun indeed!)

He shouldn't really needs anyones opinion on this. Of course it's dangerous. He should never go to someone's house for a first meeting and he should not agree to be filmed. Well unless he's looking for a job in the adult industry which is a whole other conversation.

He's not keen so why is he even considering it? Part of the point with online dating is that you can just swipe left.

Apart from that, there is no way in hell I'd agree to being videoed by a casual hook up. Absolutely crazy. Nor to the whole cuckolding fetish. A good rule for sex is to only get involved in fetishes you share.

My last job required a social media check

if he is happy for his potential employer to find that then crack on

I don't think this would be a very good idea, OP. He should probably look elsewhere.

If he were my son I would be advising him to not even consider it.

I would be advising my son ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!!

No adult (or their mother) is this naive, surely?

It could just be a kinky thing for them (the married couple) or it could be dangerous.
I wouldn’t take the risk tbf.

Well what do you think OP? As a grown ass woman, surely you must have an opinion?