Would you attend a hen do with a couple of weeks' notice?

[Sishirunak40]

The wedding is on a Wednesday in August so using a couple of days annual leave. It's a few hours' drive from us, I don't think they have any links to the area or know anyone there, they just fancied having it there but fair enough I suppose.
Been invited to the hen do, whilst I appreciate the invite I've been given 12 days' notice of it and it's going to cost a few hundred pounds if I do everything. Even if I just went for the day it'd cost me over £150.
I don't have that sort of money available right before payday too. These sort of things are usually planned months in advance. I feel uncomfortable saying I can't afford it, I know people will say 'just don't go' but I feel like that doesn't wash well with everyone sadly, there is definitely a pressure to attend these events.
I'm going to say I have a pre-planned event that day, not strictly true. I could 'technically' put it on my credit card but I don't think that's sensible. I also don't want to share a hotel room with someone I've just met that day, I'm 37 and can't be doing with all that!
Aibu here? I'm sick of how grabby these events are, we're already paying a lot just to attend the wedding.

No. No-one would be telling you you are 'grabby'.

I suspect many would mention lack of planning / organisation, and that you'd be lucky if anyone were able to come at short notice, but it isn't grabby expecting people to cover their costs on a weekend away, or other event with a group.

Nobody on here is saying you would be unreasonable to decline. Many have even worded it for you. But you are using 'grabby' wrongly here.

The good thing about having so little notice, is that excuses are easier. Just say you have a family party that day, send good wishes and leave it. No need to worry over it.

"That sounds fantastic and I'm gutted I won't be able to make it, I'm soooo sorry.😟 Have an amazing time xxxxxx"

I’d feel like a bit of a twat if I was a grown woman and not confident enough to decline a simple Invite tbh. It’s completely meaningless. You’re over thinking it and need to woman up

Thank you for inviting me but unfortunately I won’t be able to make it. Hope you have a great time.

You don’t owe an explanation or excuse. If you plan something with 12 days notice you have to expect that some won’t be able to come.

But lots of people wouldn’t have a problem spending hundreds at short notice. Not everyone will think like you unfortunately