Child Maintenance reduction (informal agreement)

[Spiritualchic4]

I have been divorced for 10 years. Maintenance was court ordered for 5 years at £1550 per month, my ex earns a 6 figure salary and we have a 70/30 split. Since the agreement has become informal it has continued and I have never asked for more despite many costs increasing. I pay a lot of money out for all dance classes, competitions and shows. Along with associate costume and uniform costs. I cover all clothing costs including uniform and I even purchase clothes at Christmas and for holidays abroad. I cover everything and I’m happy to do that and to continue as is.
my ex has recently got married, was made redundant but has another job. He claims his salary is 20% less however 20% less than the salary he had 10 years ago, he most definitely will have earned more but like I’ve said I’ve never asked for more. he has suggested a 35% reducing which is significant £550 a month so £6600 per year. My stance is if things change your side they have to change my aside and I will no longer cover all dance and clothing costs. He has not suggested CMS which makes me think he is lying about salary as his offer of £1000 and I don’t know what that is based on and could be slightly more than CMS figure. I think I should ask for evidence of salary. I would consider could continuing as is until she’s 18. Anyone had a similar experience? If so, what did you do.

I never said no one should get CM from the fathers. In fact I think their needs to be a damn sight better system than their is to ensure it. I ASKED the OP if she was spending the same It was not me that said she should. If I said that repeatedly through the thread then show me where.

And the thing about the DD not being a baby. Do you think if the OP was on UC or whatever it is that they would allow the fact she has a secondary school aged child ( most likely ) to use as an excuse for not working? Hardly. . So it works the same I wonder if the time the kid is at school in her 70% of time.

And you are insinuating that my kids have missed out on loads, where are you getting that idea from. ?

Who is talking about a 10 year old? I'd assume given they divorced 10 urs ago that OPs daughter is a teen. Teens definitely should be planning their own travel arrangements to a certain extent - it's important to learn independence.

But more importantly, in no way will OPs child 'miss out' because her Dad contributes £1k per month instead of £1.5k. £1k plus child benefit plus the OPs pro-rated contribution is a hell of a lot of money in fact, it'd be more than many family income total

Yeh but in 10 years her ex could have a much, much bigger salary. I know it depends on job/industry, hence looking up the details. My husband’s salary has doubled at least in 10 years, mine has also gone up by 3/4k each year since I started, although it’s just inflation rises now.

It’s not what he’s earned in the last ten years, it’s what he is earning now which he says is £95k. You’re not going to be able to verify his salary by looking up glass door and linked in. If OP wants to verify his salary, the CMS is her best bet, but this may end up resulting in an even bigger reduction.

well yes of course, But LinkedIn and glass door can possibly give some sort of idea as to whether it’s a good idea to go to CM or not.