DP’s ex-wife asked how much my engagement ring cost, and he told her!

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My DP proposed to me a few weeks ago and we bought a ring that we both love. He told his ex-wife over the phone (which I knew he was going to do) and she passed on her congratulations. Just to be completely transparent, my DP left her for me, but they have remained friendly, mainly because of their now-adult daughter, but also because of their shared profession. I have always been supportive of this friendship, as I know it is beneficial to their daughter. The ex is also engaged, and getting married to her long-term partner later this year. The ex-wife called my DP a few days ago and they had quite a long chat. During this she asked him how much he had spent on my engagement ring. Whilst I am cross with DP for telling her, I am furious with her for asking. I have never asked my closest friends how much their engagement rings cost, as it’s none of my business. This has caused a huge row between us as he has said I should just get over it, but it’s really annoyed me that there are now three people who know how much my ring cost, and one of them is his ex! Am I overreacting, or is this really crossing the line by her (and also him to be so dismissive of how upset I am)?

Yes I ABU to object to her asking this (and him telling her)
No I ANBU to feel pretty pissed off with both of them

NC as it’s all very outing!

But did he tell her the truth? Likely she was checking he had spent more on hers!!

You think she’s the one that overstepped the line?

🤣 nailed it

To be fair you was rude running off with her husband, so whatever she does will never match that level of rudeness. Fair play to her.

This will not be bettered today. 😅🤣

What a non issue, does it really matter and why is is such a big secet? To be honest I would be more worried that he jumped from one bed to another so quick...good luck with that one!

As did the OP I'm sure 🤭

You'll get your chance to do the same one day when he leaves you for someone else.

I’d be more worried about the fact that he left her for you than the cost of a ring personally 🤷‍♀️

I agree it’s weird to have shared but not a hill I’d choose to die on really OP. Maybe he was proud of it?!!

Genius 😂

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This will do, until you think of something else to moan about.

Very weird to ask this- I wouldn't even ask my sister/brother this. It's vulgar as if reducing your love to the cost of a ring. She probably wanted to compare with hers. I didn't even want a ring and I never wear my simple wedding band because I don't wear rings.

He was her husband, it will feel normal to share financial details with her.

As this bothers you, set a line in the sand now that your joint finances are to be kept private and not shared with parents, children, siblings, ex-wives or friends.

Nor me! Think a bit of self reflection is in order….

I really do accept that I am overreacting here, and of course the way in which we got together was wrong, and not a day goes by when I don’t think about that with regret, but it’s well over a decade ago now. Again, thank you all for your comments.

What number of inappropriate questions did you ask your "D"P about his wife when you were having an affair with him? I doubt her asking about your ring goes anywhere near evening up that score.

It's all very grubby.
Her asking how much your ring cost fits in very nicely.

When a man marries his mistress, he creates a vacancy.

I'm guessing that's what's really bothering you. You can never be secure in this relationship because it was build on a bed of lies.

This. You were the most rude by a mile.

So their joint child was fairly young when you started shagging her husband?

How do I apply for the vacancy coming up of your soon to be DH’s mistress? He seems like quite a catch.

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Your DP's ex knew you were having an affair with him which is 1,000 times bigger than knowing what your ring cost .