To be secretly hoping our summer flights are all cancelled and there’s a travel ban

[Decisionsdecisions1]

This is awful to admit but I’m secretly hoping something happens and we can’t go on our booked holiday in August.

Because of a difficult teen we pretty much only holiday with friends (she is so awful if it’s just us) but that means compromise - so we didn’t choose the location.
I hate hot weather, it wrecks my skin with eczema. And the chalet site has terrible reviews.

It’s seven weeks of school hols so we have to do something but honestly dreading it. Might have to do something drastic like break an ankle two days before….
i know I’m being ungrateful so this is lighthearted honestly.

Don't be ridiculous. Some people are simply pointing out that this isn't lighthearted or funny.

😆 I have had similar feelings op

I had to attend a recent dreaded team day I was hoping for an electric outage to hit the whole of London, no real disruption was caused in my daydream just that the underground was out of service for several hours

sadly it didn’t happen 😬 and the team day was actually ok

Wow people are grumpy here today! OP says it’s light hearted!

I totally get it OP. I have skin problems too, very sensitive due to vitiligo and I’m also allergic to mosquito bites. So my summers I’m often burned, or so white I look blue, and covered in huge swollen bites.

I’d love to enjoy sun and sand in shorts and a strappy top, but no, my fate is to be covered in factor 50 or swathed in long flowing cotton clothes that I detest.

But every year I put the rictus smile on while we plan the family holiday. This is year I have something cool and northern planned - but next year is a huge holiday with in-laws in Spain so we’ll be in the baking heat for two weeks in August. These big family meets happen every several years and I always feel out of place amongst the Spanish in laws with their perfect tans.

I also have a teen dd who really just want adventure so I know she will hate hanging out with boring mum, dad and ds. She wants to go paragliding and caving and all sorts.

Yes, in some ways I dread it, I tell myself I will enjoy it but I am always the weak one, not able to participate fully. It makes me feel rubbish and I’m often glad to get home!

If I could get out of some of these holidays I would. It’s not about wanting global warming or economic disaster, it’s just a feeling of being on a holiday hamster wheel…

It's not offensive either, but people are going out of their way to be offended by it.

Sorry to hear you’re dreading the holiday. Could this be a learning experience not to bother until DD is old enough to be left alone?

You’d have saved lots of money and stress just not going away surely. Save the cash for when she’s older and you and husband can go on better holidays just you two!

Side note, if her behaviour is that bad, I wouldn’t be rewarding it with a family holiday no one wants. I’d be having serious talks with her about what’s acceptable in your family and what’s not.

Let the child spend 6 weeks decompressing. Boredom is great for sorting out things in your head.

Holidays are overwhelming if you're not wanting to go, don't get any choice, etc.

Why fight the battle?

you are allowed to have a light hearted joke on here! I hope that the holiday goes well and you have a good time

I get it OP. Secretly hoping something happens to get us out of doing something we'd rather not isn't unusual 🙂

So what’s up with your teen?

Op you just sound really, really unhappy.

Maybe in the summer just send everyone else off on holiday and stay at home and have a rest by yourself.

Feign work being too busy or something ; but don't work.

Who actually wants to go on this holiday, then? You don't want to go, and your teen clearly doesn't give a shit either so why bother? If your DH is the only one who wants to go, can't he go with friends on his own?

I don't really get the whole thing of people doing things they don't actually have to do and then complaining about how awful it is. Just don't do the things, if you don't have to. And you don't have to.

She’s a teen! They are moody.

Jesus. Listen to yourself. LIGHTHEARTED.

You want everybody's holiday cancelled just so you dont have to go! Selfish much? By all means hope for yours to be cancelled, but leave the rest of us out of it.

Maybe @Decisionsdecisions1 needs to learn to put “Lighthearted” in title for something that is not obviously funny or lighthearted. A travel ban is serious and causes job losses, even a short ban would damage our economy even more than the wars and everything else causing shortages and inflation.

Sure, wish for a self inflicted injury or illness if really can’t cope but to wish massive financial misfortune on masses is not funny.

Sounds like 2020 all over again

OP I don't know why people are getting cross with you - it's not like you have the power to influence global events!
Your situation sounds really difficult, I'm sorry.

No no no! We booked our flights and hotel separately as flight times, airport location and costs were much cheaper. We are f*cked if the flights are cancelled. We will lose £8k on what was supposed to be a celebration of end of A Levels/18th birthday treat for our son.

It would be devastating for us.

She put it in her OP - it's not her fault if people CBA to read her post and see it

If people are stupid enough to just read the title and then post their views straight away, that's on them

The prospect of losing thousands of pounds, which may of us face, is absolutely not lighthearted. Nor is the underlying escalation of events (loss of life, officially entering a war) that would lead to this in any way light-hearted.

But to be lighthearted, @Decisionsdecisions1 can’t you jus book to see your GP and look at management/treatments for the eczema and or see if you can change chalets??

Glad I'm not your friends. You must be a bundle of fun to be on holiday with. Just cancel and spend time with your daughter, you might find the attention helps the relationship.

@Beachforever

EasyJet has issued a public statement that they will not be imposing fuel surcharges or cancelling any flights in 2026 as they have plenty of fuel to see them through the year.

Be interested to see where/when Easy said exactly that.

AFAIK they are well hedged (so probably no fuel surcharges) but that doesn't mean they actually have the fuel.

Given the not great supply situation it would be a very brave UK/EU airline that promised no flight cancellations in 2026 due fuel shortages.

Just putting this out there but if you don’t want to go on holiday, you could just cancel it. Or better still, not book it in the first place.

Oh yes war is "hilarious"

It sounds like OP is having a tough time in general. And yes, teenagers can be horrible. My eldest was an absolute witch at times - she's now 27 and is lovely - good job, in her own home and very happy with her partner, just passed her driving test. It's like a different person. The transition from childhood to adulthood can be a rough ride.

Is this your middle DC, OP? So late teens? I take that to mean 17, 18 or 19. In which case leave her at home! We're doing that with our DC3, who is 16, this summer, not because she's a pain in the arse - she isn't, she's actually no bother at all - but because she doesn't actually want to come with us. Lots of teenagers past 15 or 16 don't.