Dh playing mind games

[Plumbs]

Hello there. Just realised today that my dh of 18 years is playing mind games with me and has been for some time. This is by withdrawing affection but then doing very very small actions that look like he's being thoughtful. It's all very confusing and controlling and trying to keep me off balance. I don't know how to react to this without giving me any power. Has anyone experienced this and how did they react?

Thanks too for your support. Some others on here have been a bit goady but nice to know there's still some kind and understanding posters on here. That's a good plan and I started with that approach this evening and something he said didn't have its usual effect and he looked a bit like 🤔!

And his reaction proves that you were right! He is doing it on purpose to see what you do about it.
You carry on, girl!

Yeah too right! I got the side eye- was very fleeting but I saw it!

Be aware that he might be 'nice' all the time (don't make the mistake of thinking it's come to an end and it'll be okay now, once and for all) or escalate, as he notices your strength building up. His little boat will be rocking as he loses control, do whatever you need to to keep yourself safe @Plumbs and keep posting if it helps

Thank you. He can't keep the pretence up for long even when being nice. He has a short fuse and always gives it away as he gets irritated by minor things that most people take in their stride. It sort of leaks out iykwim.