Does anybody else just "know"

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I have this weird thing where I just know what's going to happen with certain things.

For example every job interview I've had I've known as soon as I've stepped into the building if I'm going to work there.

For years I have driven by a certain road junction and have had a pull to a road that I now live near to and have to use the road to get to my house from that junction.

The night I met my DH I knew we would get married and that we'd be together forever (17 years so far)

Most recently, last week my Mum passed away. It wasn't unexpected but she has been ill for a while. The night she died I looked out of my window, it was a beautiful evening and I thought "Mum is going to go tonight".

It's not something that bothers me, more interests me. Does anybody else get this?

Not sure this is quite a reply you were hoping for as I wouldn't say that i've experienced the same as you. It does sound fascinating though and must be quite reassuring. Does it ever happen that you know exactly what won't happen? Maybe life really is mapped out for us and you have had a flash preview? what i tend to experience is turning up to places i've never been to but their so familiar. Even towns in countries i've never been to i know how to get to places or street names, cafe's and stuff. Or meeting people for the first time but i feel like i've already known them years already and we get on like we have too.

confirmation bias.

"For years I have driven by a certain road junction and have had a pull to a road that I now live near to and have to use the road to get to my house from that junction."

I have read this about 12 times and can't work out what you mean... :/

Me. Which personality type are you on Myers Briggs? I'm INFJ and I've read before that our intuition is so strong, it's spooky.

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"For years I have driven by a certain road junction and have had a pull to a road that I now live near to and have to use the road to get to my house from that junction."

I have read this about 12 times and can't work out what you mean... :/

Sorry I don't know how to explain it. The junction I am talking about has 5 roads off it. Usually we would be going straight up the road but I always had a pull to go right. I now have to go right at that junction to get to my current house.

Naimee87 it does happen where I know I won't get a job but that's the only time I know something won't happen.

BoomShacks I haven't heard of Myers Briggs, I'll have to have a Google.

Yes me!

Very similar to you. It took me a long time to realise/trust it. For a long time, I used to dismiss it or put it down to paranoia/overthinking. I base my decisions on gut feelings and hunches all the time now. I rarely discuss it anyone because very few people 'get it'.

Something that has also recently started to happen is 'seeing' someone's truth. Very difficult to explain but it's almost a split second snapshot of someone's mood when I look at them. A few months ago, I saw someone I used to work with. We always got on fairly well (or so I thought) and parted on good terms. I unexpectedly ran into her on a job recently. She wasn't expecting to see me and despite being very friendly and nice I gauged her reaction from a split second. She clearly wasn't happy to see me at all! It is the weirdest thing but oh so helpful because I will be polite but limit contact if I see her again.

I also got a rather random reaction to my new boss when I first met her. I actually attributed it to something else at the time. Upshot is that despite being relatively friendly/professional to each other I actually can't stand her and I think she feels the same way about me! Life was great until she came along but everything has started to go wrong for me. It has helped me realise that it's time to move on.

INFJ here too....

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Have done Myers Briggs loads of times and I always come out the same. People make snidey comments about it but I have found it really helpful personally.

I got chills reading your post about your mum as I had a sense my mum would die, she was young, not ill but I remember 2 years ago trying to take a picture of her and my young kids (she hated having her photo taken). Mum died very suddenly last year and I've felt guilt like I'd brought it on.

Knew I wanted to work in the building / sector I'm working in now, as a kid I'd drive passed it and think it would be nice to work there, now 12 years in the building and job I wanted.

As young as 14 I knew I'd only be a mum to two girls, my first pregnancy I found out the sex and it was a boy, lost him at 26 weeks then went onto have 2 girls.

Have a feeling I'll die quite young (by today's standards), around 67-68 but hope I'm wrong on that one!

I dont experience premonition as strongly as you but myself and my mother often get a strong sense of foreboding a few days/week before something happens. When we were going through a particular difficult time in our family , I used to just know things werent right and would ring my mother and it would turn our things werent.
I've also seen a few ghosts over the years as well. My first in childhood.
My oh used to think I was losing it when I would tell him I have to ring my mother, somethings not right , but one night I didnt and in the middle of the night I woke up to a family member calling my name. Which was impossible as they were hundreds of miles away, I rang the mother the next day and that family member had ended up in hospital the night before.

Omg I get it! I've been trying to explain this to my husband for so long!
My daughter was born premature by 2 months and I knew it was going to happen. She was born on the 31st January and from the 1st of January I started researching premature babies and telling my husband this child is going to come early we are not prepaid! That was the first time I realised it. Now on a lot of things I just have a feeling or I see it and it comes out that way.
I recently predicted my sisters pregnancy, she didn't even know she was pregnant! She had done a test a week before and it had come out negative. She had come around my house and I told her to do a test she's pregnant she kept telling me there no chance she just done one! There was something about here ora that had changed! She went and done a test that afternoon came back positive. When she lost the child I felt it before she even knew. I cried 2 hours before I got the call. I kept telling my husband she's lost the baby! Even he was shocked!
Also IM knew to this so I don't know how to tag someone on response, but someone said about seeing someone's truth! I get this all the time I just feel it, I can sense if it's a good person, bad person, if they r lying!
It's crazy I don't know how to explain it!
So glad I'm not alone!!

Yes, I know when someone is lying. I suddenly feel irrationally angry.

It’s called confirmation bias.

Try testing yourself by predicting next weekend’s PL football scores or lottery numbers & writing them down. See how many you get right. Then you will be able to measure how much you ‘just know’.....

It's very strange isn't it.

I'm not very good at reading people, I'm too much of a people pleaser I guess.

Love hearing everybody else's experiences.

I've name changed for this

Im apparently an INFP. I just "know" things. It's a gift and a curse. Similar dooratheexplorer I get a glimpse of people's true selves. And I get flashes of my future that have all come true.

But I personally believe that our life was already chosen for us and i believe the bad things that I went through were because i went off my path.

Years and years ago I had an awful nightmare that I gave birth to a premature baby girl who died in my hand. 2 weeks later I found out i was pregnant. I gave birth at 23 weeks to a little boy and he died 2 hours after he was born. I don't care what anybody says, my body knew. It knew and it warned me. I didn't buy anything during my pregnancy, I just couldn't see a baby at the end of it

When I fell pregnant with my DD I had an early scan at 6 weeks ( id had my DS and 2 miscarriges by this point ) and i knew she was a healthy little girl. I went and bought pink and purple baby grows and knew she was here to stay. She was my 4th pregnancy and the 1st one i had bought things for.

After fleeing DV and being placed in a random hostel by the council I had a little flash of my children coming in from school in red uniforms and i had a baby boy in my arms.

A few weeks later the council moved us to temporary housing in another random town and the school closest to our house was a red uniform! My DS starts the school in September and I can't wait to see them in their uniforms. I'm not pregnant ( and have PCOS ) but when i do have my next son ill come and update this thread

get this all the time I just feel it, I can sense if it's a good person, bad person, if they r lying I get this and if im talking to them I can't concentrate on what their saying because my head is screaming bullshit or their lying I can spot fake people a mile off, DP isnt surprised anymore if i say someone isnt nice and they turn out not to be

I couldn't sleep one night. I had awful anxiety that somthing bad was going to happen. I eventually fell asleep at maybe 3am and at 6am woke up to a frantic call off my mum saying step dad was in a coma in hospital after a driving accident

My mum is really good at knowing things

Ill never forget this. When pregnant with my DS i asked her if she thought boy or girl. She'd said "it's bizzarre, I can see you pregnant with a little boy but i can see you with a toddler girl" which is exactly what happened

I have plenty more examples but my brain has gone blank

I don’t really believe in all this but a few things like this have happened to me.

Once, drunk on the weekend with my mates and and stumbling through town to the cab office, I looked up at some flats that had a lovely balcony and were right in the middle of town. “Wouldn’t it be lovely to live in those, can you imagine?” etc etc went through my head.

My now DH lived in the flat. I also lived in the flat for 2 years. It was as amazing as I imagined

I saw a friend from School had lost her husband and there was a very clear voice in my head that said "you next" - then a few months later I saw a couple in the airport that looked just like we would in fifty years and as I thought "aww, that will be us one day" the voice as clear as day said "no, it won't" - he died a few years later, totally unexpected. I felt like I always knew.

testing yourself by predicting next weekend’s PL football scores or lottery numbers & writing them down
@AgeLikeWine not really the same now is it?

I've had it on occasion, like when my grandad died and with the gender my second child. And the odd complete conversations that I realised weren't out loud. I'm fairly awesome at tarot both mine and other peoples.

If it worked on lottery numbers that would be awesome. But it doesn't

No, it's not cognitive bias. It's not like me buying a red car and suddenly noticing lots of red cars on the road.

I also do not profess 'to just know' everything or be a psychic or whatever. If I did, I would have won the lottery by now.

It's usually much more subtle than that. So, sometimes I will get a feeling that something is off or doesn't add up. I can rarely pinpoint why at the time. So if it's a person, I will make a mental note to be wary of them. I don't necessarily assume they are an axe murderer but more of a threat (for whatever reason) to me personally and possibly not someone I should try to get too close to.

I really started to notice it with my XP. I was much younger then and far more trusting. After quite a while together, I started to notice random reactions I was getting to some of things he was saying. It was generally feeling of being a bit puzzled and questioning myself. It was textbook stuff. If I did question anything (innocently), I was being a bit paranoid and slightly nuts. So, I played along with it and started to make notes of things he said about where and who he was with on particular days. A week or so later, I would subtly test him. If he said he had seen his friend Mark on a certain day I would ask him a month later if he'd seen him at all. Needless to say, he rarely remembered the conversation and would say he hadn't him for at least six months. Clearly all those gut feelings I was getting (but not really understanding why) were because he was a chronic liar. I think I've honed my antenna a bit since then and I now have a bit of fun with it. Along the lines of, noticing stuff and trying to predict what will happen. I'm not very good at the predicting but I am good at identifying when things are off. It's always interesting to see how things pan out and I generally get into far less scrapes and unsuitable situations these days.

Another thing that has happened a couple of times is being somewhere and feeling unsafe. In the US a couple of years ago we drove through two places where I had a hideous sense of foreboding (the first was a small town and the second was past some houses next to a very large lake). In those moments, I was absolutely desperate to get away to the point that I almost felt physically sick. For me, that is an exceptional reaction and I rarely worry about anything. In both cases, I have no idea why I felt like that. I just put it down to the fact that we were potentially in danger and needed to keep driving or that something not particularly nice had happened in that area.

If you haven't experienced it then it's very difficult to 'get it' hence the reason I rarely discuss it. I don't even bother to mention it to DH.

I'd like to add that if you met me you would probably think I'm quite a nice normal sane person. Everything about me is fairly normal. I hold down a professional job.

It sounds very much like hindsight bias:

en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hindsight_bias

I often know when babies are born. I knew the day and full name of a childhood boyfriend’s baby - maybe lucky guess but I didn’t even know how pregnant his wife was. Common enough names though.

I often know when people or animals are going to die. I dream that a fair bit. I wouldn’t say it’s ubiquitous - I just feel quite tuned in with certain people.

I'm enfj and that's similar. I think I am very attuned to other people's emotions. It's not always a blessing. I find it hard remain bouyant in the presence of somebody else's negative emotions.

I think that kind of thing does leave you regularly feeling ''I predicted that''. You've been recording facial expressions and reading between the lines and you get to the point where you just know your intuition is a good guide for you.

I can't concentrate on what their saying because my head is screaming bullshit or their lying

Yes yes yes!

Every now and again, I will be having a chat to someone who seems to be really nice and a random word or sentence will pop into my head. I've had 'sneaky' and 'don't trust her'. I hear it clearly in an instant and once only. It generally takes me completely by surprise and I'm trying to continue the conversation thinking where the hell did that come from?! The best one was me blurting out 'I love you' to DH on our third date. I wasn't even thinking about it, it came from somewhere deep inside me. We still laugh about it now but he is seriously the best thing that has ever happened to me and on some level I think I must have realised it in that moment.

I also agree that it is a blessing and a curse. My life is calmer and much happier these days but I have fewer close acquaintances because I am very careful who I let in. A very wise friend (who I used to see for Reiki) nodded knowingly when I said I'd concluded that it's a bit of a jungle out there.

Three times in my life I've had this and I just can't explain them away.

First time my mum phoned. Before I looked at my phone I knew it was her and I knew she was telling me Dad had been given a massive honor at work. It's not the sort of thing you can work towards, and there was no previous thought he would get this thing. It hadn't even crossed my mind before that moment that he might get it. But I knew. I remember answering the phone saying 'Dad's been given xxxx honor' and Mum's response was 'How did you know?'

The next one was Mum again telling me Dad's oldest friend had died. He wasn't ill. He was someone I'd met maybe ten times in my whole life. Again I answered saying 'Bob M has died' and again Mum was flummoxed as to how I knew.

The third one was the weirdest. I was tutoring an adult. I got on well with her, but we weren't friends and our sessions were about the tutoring, not chatting about her life. I went to answer the door to her and as I put my hand on the door knob I thought 'her husband has left her'. Again I was right. So very, very odd...