Does anybody else just "know"

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I have this weird thing where I just know what's going to happen with certain things.

For example every job interview I've had I've known as soon as I've stepped into the building if I'm going to work there.

For years I have driven by a certain road junction and have had a pull to a road that I now live near to and have to use the road to get to my house from that junction.

The night I met my DH I knew we would get married and that we'd be together forever (17 years so far)

Most recently, last week my Mum passed away. It wasn't unexpected but she has been ill for a while. The night she died I looked out of my window, it was a beautiful evening and I thought "Mum is going to go tonight".

It's not something that bothers me, more interests me. Does anybody else get this?

I used to be very like this. I just knew things. But it's worn off. I've spent years explaining all the coincidences away.

My friends used to be freaked out about it. They joked I was a white witch!

My husband didn't believe it until one night I said to him (never said it before or since) watch out for the fox that's going to run in front of us.

Only time we've ever seen a fox. Only time I've ever warned him.

I can't work out that coincidence!

Like I say though. It's really worn off in the last few years.

@MillionthNameChange2020

Ill never forget this. When pregnant with my DS i asked her if she thought boy or girl. She'd said "it's bizzarre, I can see you pregnant with a little boy but i can see you with a toddler girl" which is exactly what happened*

Sorry maybe I'm being thick lol but what do you mean? You were pregnant with a boy but now he is toddler girl? I'm confused lol.

I think I have this! Annoyingly mine is related to death. A long, long time ago I thought I would lose a child after a long illness, and a close friend. My best friend then died when I was 17, and my daughter was born with a genetic condition and died when she was 1. Very freaky and scary and it makes me nervous for the future.

It's not hindsight bias for me.

Most of it is subtle for me in terms of things are off or don't add up. I can't predict what James Martin is going to cook on Saturday Kitchen. I have no idea if Megs and Harry will live happily ever after. I'm not looking into a crystal trying to predict the future then reflecting on the odd thing I managed to guess correctly.

Everything is energy and everything is connected. That's scientific fact. Some of us are more aware of energy than others.

This is a really lame one.

Something I can do, and I don’t know how and for a long time I thought it was confirmation bias or something else but...

I mention a film. In passing. Obscure or old, not of the usual type films you see on ITV2. It’ll be on tv within a week. Guaranteed.

I cannot make this happen - so I cannot consciously wonder after I’ve mentioned it whether it will be on tv. That breaks the spell.

So once I mentioned this to a friend. And he said no no, you’re just noticing films more after you’ve talked about them. And then What’s Eating Gilbert Grape came on tv the next day after we’d spoken about it. He called me up in amazement.

Years later I mentioned it to my DH. He also said it was stupid. And then Notes on a Scandal came on after we’d had a chat about Judi Dench in it. Again, he was convinced.

So I don’t think this is in anyway supernatural or some kind of weird superpower. I think I have some kind of sensitivity to the zeitgeist where something happens in the news etc which is why I’m talking/thinking about it in the first place, and a programmer sees the same thing as me and thinks - ah that’s a good film for the times! And puts it on. I can’t see any other reason why this happens. DH makes a joke of it now and calls me the TV guide.

Films like Princes Purple Rain, or Homeward Bound or Charlie Bartlett, or one about a couple who meet up every year to have an affair. Not regular TV films.

Laugh if you will. I agree that it’s ridiculous

Love this! INFP and strong empath over here :)

When I was younger there were lots of little things, like I'd often cry, not really know why as I wasn't sad, and then find out my best friend had been sad at exactly that time.

As an adult my instinct/intuition is much better honed, and my empath nature asserts itself whenever I'm around other people - I feel what they're feeling. Which can be anything from glorious to an absolute pain in the butt.

The weirdest feeling one from recent years was pacing round my house after a long call with a friend, longing for a baby and a husband, while being very puzzled because I've never wanted either a baby or a husband. An hour or so later it wore off and I then made the connection between that feeling and the sadness of my friend I'd been speaking to. It felt like my feelings, but wasn't at all.

I don't often predict stuff but I do often "know" whether people are bullshitting or sincere.

Oh one more. I once picked up the phone to call my best friend, and she was on the other end already, having called me at exactly the same time and I’d picked it up before it started to ring.

That was weird! Haha!

I have had this a few times. The first I remember was as a child. Our ex neighbour who had moved to a different part of town popped over and I stood at the door chatting to her with my Mum. As soon as I saw her I knew she was going to say she was pregnant (definitely no bump showing). I have also had a sense of when we will get earthquakes (UK only). It's super weird.

I've had it on and off over the years but just this last month it's been happening more frequently and over the most ridiculous things.

For example. Last night I had a dream there was a drunk man in my garden. It was crazy scary. This morning I sat eating my breakfast and opened Facebook.3rd post down was a local page and someone had reported a very drunk man at their window the previous night, asking to charge his phone.

Another one. I was involved in a terror incident a while ago . I had PTSD and for the main part after counselling all is well. I was really disturbed all Saturday night and had a flashback that left me in tears. I rolled over in bed and the time on the clock was significant to the event (the minutes were the date it happened). The next morning I was catching up on the weekend news (I don't go on social media or news sites after 5pm on a Saturday) and the first report was of the attack in Reading. I know it's a coincidence but it really shook me up.

I have "just known" things like one Xmas, sat watching tele with my parents, thought to myself "next Christmas I'll be cradling a baby" I was single. Didn't think anything of it because i was on a career path that didn't make room for kids and I certainly didn't want any at the time . Sure enough after a fling later that year I got pregnant and my DD was born on 23rd December. I sat cradling my newborn on Xmas day sat with my parents.

I thought of a another sort of similar thing where i’ll be thinking of someone i’ve not seen or heard from in a while and a day or two later they’ll text or i’ll physically see them, pretty much bump into them. This happened with my old neighbour who moved out over a year ago... i was just sat on my balcony wondering how she was getting on but never sent a txt. That was a friday and on saturday afternoon i had a txt from her saying she was in the old neighbourhood and had stopped by to see if i was home. I wasn’t but luckily my son was, he let her in and she was sat on my balcony when i got home and we caught up like we’d never been apart. Or i’ll go to write someone at the very same time they are typing to me? I do like to believe in all of these spooky coincidences though so perhaps i read into them more than i should...

Yes! I get this, and it’s so random I really don’t think it can be explained by confirmation bias.

Recent example - there are two routes to our house. One is via a proper road off an A road, which is how we always get home.
However there is also an earlier turnoff down a private road/ track which we never use because it is unmade, full of potholes and you risk damaging your tyres.
A couple of weeks ago DH was driving us home and as we approached the earlier road I suddenly said, “oh, we need to go this way today because there’s been a major traffic accident up ahead.” DH was a bit but went that way anyway. An hour later DS came home and said “did you get stuck in that long queue because of the accident?””

I also just know when people are lying and I just can’t understand why other people don’t see it! That could be about being really attuned to the tiny signals sent out by liars though I guess (eye and body movements etc)

I’m also very attuned to my children’s emotions. I woke up one morning last year with a terrible sense of foreboding and thought “oh no, DS1 has split up with his girlfriend of 18 months” - I phoned him and they had broken up! It was unexpected and he hadn’t said anything to me previously.

I have "premonitions", on several occasions I have had uncomfortable anxiety about one of my DC, on each occasion I have been proved right, the most recent being a few weeks ago, DS had fallen & broken his leg on a hillside (I didn't know he was out helping a friend clear scrub on a rocky massif. )
My H came home & said DS is in hospital.
I said, "I feared that."

I also know instantly if I am going to like someone. When meeting a new person, in a few seconds I know if they are truthful or devious or bringing impending drama, etc
My H thinks I'm OTT, but I am always proved right.
Ex. I met my niece's new bf, Everyone thought he was a keeper, they got married. I had immediately known, I "felt" physically cold, & loathing on meeting him. he turned out to be a violent wife beater.

One day my H, said, you'll never guess who P is going out with, I said its M,
I had only vaguely met her once at a mutual friend's bbq.

My uncle in law. Sees an "aura" around people who are going to die soon, they appear double. Clearly a curse

I think we pick up far more in the presence of other people than we consciously process: everything from how they are dressed, holding themselves to whether their mood seems out of step with their words. Our brains go to work and the end product is a hunch or intuition. I personally pay serious attention to my intuition.

Otherwise, yes, I’ve had odd ‘just knowings’ about situations from the mundane to the serious. And I usually come out as INFJ on the Myers Briggs for what it’s worth!

@cooldarkroom Same as you, I have the same 'feeling' about my friend's boyfriend. In fact, I heard 'here comes trouble' when I first met him. They were planning to buy a house together just before lockdown and I did try to warn her but she pretty much dismissed it. Now I'm just sitting and watching and hoping I've got it wrong this time.

All of us saying we get this seem to be INFJ and INFP. It can't be a coincidence, can it?

These are so interesting. I get ISFJ from the link PP put on. I am a defender and it's scarily close to my personality.

I'd love to be better at reading people. I do pick up on feelings but not to the extent of some on here.

Most recently for me was in January this year.

We had been planning on booking a few holidays in the January sales as we hadn’t been away the year before and we planned to take a honeymoon and a few weekend breaks before baby came.

We found some really amazing deals and each time DH went to book it I just couldn’t bring myself to.
I had it in my head that something would stop us going and not to book

INFP here too and I experience this type of thing all the time. Also seem to have a 'link' to a couple of people and we often experience 'coincidences' together, even to the point of sharing dreams. I also tend to know when someone is pregnant, long before it is announced.
I always put the personality type down as a factor, the two mentioned types are highly empathetic which would explain a lot of it, although it doesn't explain why I know a song is about to come on the radio Other personality types such as defender may have the ability but they are too headstrong and focused elsewhere to notice. That's my take on it anyway.

I totally get the one about films being on the TV, that happens to me also with songs on the radio or particular episodes of TV programmes.

I also often “know” that something's going to happen in advance, nothing major just little not really important things and not confirmation bias either I don't think.

I don't know what personality type I am but I regular find myself saying “how odd I was just thinking about that” or similar.

Do other posters who experience this find they are somehow more switched on to things that other people and wonder how some people just don't seem to notice stuff?

Interesting topic.

I think a lot of people just don't see things in the same way.

I secretly think of it as my superpower and try to use it to my best advantage.

I get a lot of comments from people that they value my judgement. I'm also told I give insightful feedback. Will often come up viewpoints that other people haven't thought of.

michelle1504

Sorry maybe I'm being thick lol but what do you mean? You were pregnant with a boy but now he is toddler girl? I'm confused lol

He died shortly after he was born and my next child was a girl. So she saw i was pregnant with a little boy and didn't see him in the future. But she saw my daughter,

This thread is fascinating. I'm Infj too. I've don't things I can't explain like know someone's name before I'm told, know someone is pregnant before they do and what the sex is, knew the last time us see my mum etc.
I sort of absorb people's personalities and it can be a bit overwhelming. It's like I can read people straight away, don't know why.

It was relatively late in life when I suddenly realised that other people didn’t see things in the same way!
At work we’d have meetings with suppliers and everyone else would think they were good, but I’d say “what? They were clearly lying about their experience with x,y,z” and when we checked it out it was true.

When I was 16 I went on my first girls holiday, I had a fling with a boy I met, holiday romance. But I knew when I met him I'd marry a man his height with dark hair and from a certain town that he was from. I only seen him twice but I knew all this. And now I'm married to dh, for over 20 years, who is exactly as is seen him at 16,same height, hair and from same town.

@Divoc2020 Yes! I'll often get the completely opposite impression to everyone else. Problem is, I feel like a doom monger for saying it! My line manager (bloke) is such a pollyanna. I really love him but he regularly gets his fingers burnt!