Ghost? Something else?

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Hi, I'm quite freaked out to be honest and, whilst I don't mind skeptics, I don't need to be told I'm being ridiculous. I'm really scared.

Bit of background:
As a teenager, I did stupid things at sleepovers with my group of friends (we did a seance o and we tried to 'communicate' with spirits). It sometimes 'worked' and sometimes there was nothing. My best friend literally horizontally floated in front our eyes when we were around her in a circle (no alcohol or drugs had been taken). We never broke it so I wonder if this is the effect.

Anyway, fast forward. There was a spot sometime after that in my room that I always 'felt' something watching me at a certain time (roughly between 2-4am). Not particularly nice but never harmed me. Now, four years later, I live with DH, 2 kids and his grandmother temporarily and three dogs. There's always been a 'spot' (next to the bottom of the stairs) that I've had that same feeling of energy at night (once in the living room too). Again, never been touched. Since the beginning of this year, I've felt it in my room. Pretty much continuously on and off, more prominent at night (this room is a lot smaller and the spot is next to the door). Anyway, up until this point, it's all 'feelings'. However, last few weeks DD (3) has been waving out of the living room door into the hallway. I asked who she was waving to and she said 'the man' (DH was in the room too). I asked where he went, she said upstairs. DH went but obviously no-one was there. I keep seeing 'it' out of the corner of my eye but definitely there (one year old keeps smiling and waving at thin air and the dogs bark at the same time he does that). Then, last night, DH was downstairs as he couldn't sleep (this is about 4am now) and came up (I was awake giving one year old milk) and he asked if I was calling his name. I said no and he was really freaked out, said it was clear as day. He even woke his nan up and she said it wasn't her. I'm really scared, I don't know what to do or what it is. Has anyone had anything similar or got any advice? I promise I'm not making it up but if you're sceptical then please just leave it, I'm scared. TIA.

I've had similar experiences as well tbh although sometimes I struggle with trying to rationalise.

Are you religious in any way?

You have to he careful when opening spiritual doors and not being careful about closing them again. There are things that you can do that would vary depending on your spiritual direction.

It doesn't sound malicious though, so sometimes in situations like this you just need to change your perspective and try and figure out what it wants and it might go away. It also could just be slowly feeding off of your fear and that's why you see and feel it more.

Any way you look at it, fear is never good or useful in situations like these.

All you have to do is tell them to leave you alone and go away, you have to say this very assertively and not like you are scared.
They should then leave your home as they know they are not wanted.

Yes like the other poster said don't show or allow yourself to feel fear as that's when they attach to you even more. It won't harm you but it's attached to you for some reason just assertively and fearfully tell it to leave your home and not to come back.

But what if that just makes it really angry?!

Spirits cling to lower vibration energy like fear, anger, sadness, despair, anxiety, hate etc.
Before you tell it to go away you have to not have any of that energy inside if you.

It’s good that your little one isn’t scared of it - they do say that younger children are much more ‘in touch’ with the spirit world. If it was a bad spirit, your child would know this I think.
Could you try to talk to the spirit when it’s around?

You must just be susceptible to attract spirits, not many people are.

Didn’t you post this elsewhere?

Don't ask the sprit questions as you don't know what kind of spirit it is and it could tell you all kinds of nonsense. There are different spirits on different levels and I think you've picked up a earth plain spirit (which is one that's passed over via murder or suicide or a death they're still confuse about) hence why they are still trying to stay in the earth plain and not pass to the other side.

These spirts are confused and are on the next plain to the earth, they don't understand where they are, or about their death etc....so they latch onto humans still.

These sprints are easy to connect with as they have passed to a level that is still so close to earth, they're what I call the naughty spirts.

I did @notsureneversure, it said there was an error so I didn't think that this one posted.

@priya38 but why me

It isn’t a ghost, OP and the fact that a bunch of suggestible teenagers once frightened one another with an ouija board is entirely irrelevant. There’s absolutely no need to be scared. The feeling of something watching you in your bedroom is one of the classic symptoms of sleep paralysis, and while it’s terrifying, it’s a purely physiological phenomenon. And I’d discount children ‘seeing’ things — I used to be afraid of the witch in my room, which turned out to be a coat hanging on the door which frightened me at night. My son’s imaginary friends are occasionally creepy.

Have you considered natural explanations for the spot by the stairs?

But what about the calling DH's name @Plurabellicose, or that he senses it too and that I see it out of the corner of my eye?

I don't care what other replies your getting you gotta spirit in your house whether you like it or not. Do what I told you to do and it will listen and go away.

Some people are more susceptible than others but that's going into a whole different story.

Honestly, OP — and I’m not being dismissive as you’re obviously frightened — it was 4 am, and your DH hadn’t been able to sleep, and must have been exhausted. I know I’ve heard and seen things that weren’t there when my sleep has been disordered. And if you have a one year old, you’re probably equally tired too...?

And once you’ve become unnerved by something, it can be easy to start finding a pattern to add to your unease.

You both sound as if you have disordered sleep, if your DH is insomniac (which is miserable) and you have sleep paralysis (which it does sound like, as the sensation of being watched at night has occurred in more than one house), and you have (exhausting) small children, I would see that as the most likely explanation.

I could write a dissertation on my nasty hallucinations when DS was a non-sleeping newborn — the wallpaper turning into threatening faces, some black yawning gap in the hall floor I had to step across to get to the bathroom etc.

That must be terrifying, OP.

It's a spirit, definitely - especially if it causes so much fear. It has more than likely "followed" you since dabbling in the occult.

The good news is - it will go, under specific instruction.

I don't know if you believe in God? (I guess if people believe in supernatural spirits, there's no reason not to...)

In my experience, the only way spirits like this will leave is by being told, boldly:

"I repent and renounce of all my involvement in the occult and anything that brought you here. But you must leave right now, in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, who has defeated all darkness"

You might want to pray the Lord's Prayer too. Especially highlighting the "deliver us from evil" bit.

There will be many who scoff or mock this advice - that's their prerogative. But I personally know that it works. You just need the smallest amount of belief and faith that it will.

Xxx

Bit of an update- maybe?!

Earlier on, I came into my room and there was a black dog on the bed (we don't have a dog) and I screamed, put my head round the door to shout for DH and when I looked back it was gone. Unless I have a runaway dog in my house

I just whispered 'are you there' and my book fell off of my chest of drawers and slowly slid into my bin please tell me I'm not going mad. Or maybe I am? I'm even more frightened.

It's messing with you like a child would, playing games.

Be firm and tel it to go away and leave you alone. Just don't be scared when you say it.

It's easier said than done though, I'd be freaked out just as much.

Sorry I don't believe it

@GreyGardens88 that's fine, you don't have to, I'm asking for people who believe in it for advice.

I don’t ‘disbelieve’ in it, OP, I just think you’re exhausted and nervy, and have convinced yourself something supernatural is going on.

Time to call for a priest and have an exorcism done. (Not joking). You definitely attracted something by meddling with doors to the spirit world. It’s been with you for years, it’s too strong now for you to tell it to go away on your own. You need help from the church.

Exorcise me?! But I'm not possessed

Friends of mine had a similar episode of escalating intensity spanning nine months or so. It got so that there were daily events that freaked the pair of them out completely.

In the end they got the local Catholic priest in, who told them such happenings were more common than many were prepared to admit. He walked around the house saying a couple of prayers and splashing holy water about, and the activity ceased.

You could try @FTstepmum's suggestion, and if that doesn't work, maybe the Catholic priest option?

Ignore the sceptics. They would be as freaked out as you are if it happened to them; human perception and understanding of the world is extremely limited - there is so much we just don't know.

Thank you @Shinjirarenai, that explains my feelings towards sceptics well. It's all baloney until it's you. I used to be sceptical but personal events have changed that, obviously. I'm a Catholic (not strictly, don't go to church and don't agree with everything), but surely a priest coming over would be unattainable right now due to lockdown? It's ridiculous how much it's escalated over months.