Do the long deceased really come back to take loved ones when they die

[Heatherjayne1972]

Or is it wishful thinking a dying brain hallucinating or something else
What do you think? Any experiences you're willing to share?

The consultant told him that the horizontal lines are a recognised way of confirming that someone died and came back, as for that moment the cells in the body have died.

Horizontal white lines on nails (Muercke's Lines and Mees lines) are common with serious illness, such as kidney failure. It doesn't mean the body has died and come back.

I like the idea that someone is there.

I feel like someone is watching us now, and that’s nice. For nice family members.

But what about nasty family members? I don’t want them coming to get me, or ‘watch’ out for me.

Anyone else scared shitless at the thought of abusive family members dying?

Ah I hope there is, I belive we just turn back into an energy.

Tangofandango

Kidney disease can cause lines and ridges in the nails.

blackdoctor.org/457125/symptoms-of-kidney-failure

My mum is a nurse, she worked in old folks homes for years and has seen many people pass away. She told me that when a person is getting close to death, their parent's often come back for them. So many times they've said "my mother's come for me" and they'd look at the end of the bed, obviously there's nothing there. My mum would always say, "it's ok go with her" and they'd soon pass away.

Whether it really happens or it's the hormones released right before death that cause hallucinations is another thing. My mum likes to believe it does really happen and that when her time comes her parent's will be waiting. It makes it easier to deal with death I think.

I find this thread wonderful but quite sad. At the moment I don't know anyone who I feel loved me enough to greet me, my grandmother maybe but we weren't that close.

My ex boyfriend perhaps but as much as we loved each other he married after we split so I doubt he will be there!!

Maybe my beloved pets will meet me, 2 cats. I love my dog and my mum, brother and of course DH and DC3 but they are all here thank the Lord!

Who knows, maybebill bd the first and be the one waiting for them! It has to start somewhere!

Sorry I will be the first !!

I was hit by a car 4 years ago, and was unconscious for a while- I don’t know how long but long enough for ambulance and police to be present when I gained consciousness.

I felt like I was asleep in bed being cuddled (was single at time) and felt that person pushing me back with a sense of great sadness, knowing that they had left too early. I know who the person was, and they had been passed over 15 years.
It could be wishful thinking, or the unconscious state. Or a dream. What I do know is I woke and felt deeply saddened.

The reality is we will never really know so I live my life to the best I can- so that if there is nothing after I can on my death bed look back and think I lived my life with love and dignity, and by grace did I live it!

My Grandparents had a picture of my Grandad and his siblings (well half his siblings, he was the baby in the pic and the youngest but i know there were 6 more after him) on their wall and My great aunt X was middle centre of the pic, about aged six.

You could stand her aged six next to me aged six and you wouldnt be able to tell us apart.

She had one son
I have one son

She got widowed aged 43
I split from my life partner age 43

She was a nurse
I was a nurse

But spookiest of all is she died 3 days before I was born.

My grandad in his later years would occassionally forget who i was and call me X.

Nan said I was just like her all the time....

i am am not aware of anything else similar... intriguing isnt it?

Just telling you what the highly trained, highly qualified, highly respected, highly experienced consultant/surgeon told my brother.

Maybe she should have Googled it first!

My mum held his hand and said come xxxxxxx (my grandma his mum) come and get your boy. Dad smiled turned his head to the corner of the room, the first purposeful movement he'd made since the stroke (He never regained consciousness) and then he passed.

I hope for such a sweet passing when the day comes.

A very young, very close relative of mine was in hospital and I was sitting next to his bed, holding his hand, my forehead on his arm. The medics had said he was never going to recover so I was just talking, quietly - I'm not sure what exactly but about how it was ok to go. I felt someone put their hand on my head and the room was filled with a certain scent I hadn't smelled for decades. I sat up but there was no one there. I am certain that one of our relatives, I had adored before their passing had come to collect him. The scent remained for his last hours. It was hugely comforting for me and I hope for him too.

I worked in a nursing home for a few years, I have seen plenty of people dying. Almost all of them "see" somebody waiting for them. Usually their parents or other family members who have died, although one woman simply pointed into the corner and said "he's come to take me hasn't he?" She didn't appear to know who it was but didn't seem scared or worried.

So yes, I believe it. Seen it happen too many times. And if it is just a hallucination then I hope I have one when I'm dying because it seems to bring great peace.

Years and years ago, the only time I've ever been ill enough that dying was a possibility, I woke in the hospital to a strange woman speaking to me. She wouldn't face me and essentially was saying she was disappointed that I hadn't been looking after myself. None of the hospital staff saw her or knew what I was talking about.

When I was in a coma on life support, I had such realistic hallucinations that I am still able to recall each one even 7 years later. One of them was my beloved grandmother who had passed a year previously, and interestingly, my step-Grandad from the other side of the family that died a month before I was born, but every time I’ve seen a medium they’ve told me that he is looking over me. Anyway, in the hallucination, the nurses told me I had 2 visitors and named them, and I distinctly remember telling them that it wasn’t possible as they had passed away. They let them in, and even now I can picture them, standing at the end of my bed grasping it, smiling and shaking their heads at me. There was like a light around them both. I wasn’t scared, just puzzled.
When I was brought out of my coma I told my mum about this and it bought her immense comfort, I truly believe that they came to take me but that it wasn’t my time.

I was with both my grandad & nan when they passed. My grandad opened his eyes and stared into the air for a moment he looked scared then a calmness came over him and he passed. My Nan on the other hand went in a type of sleep her eyes didn’t open but again a calmness came into the room she actually looked younger. I do believe in more than this life as I have experienced 1 moment that’s irrefutable evidence, science could not explain it.

Just telling you what the highly trained, highly qualified, highly respected, highly experienced consultant/surgeon told my brother.

Sometimes Drs will say something because they know that it will be of comfort.

My mum told me what her mothers last words were ...... Her nan was lying in bed with my mum by her side and family near when my nana eyes opened and looked into the corner of the room and my nan said "mum"........then she passed away .

That has always comforted my mum hoping that was her mothers mum taking her to heaven X

* my man was lying in her bed with my mum by her side

MY NAN *
Ughhhhh auto correct

My mum is dying so I really hope so because it means I may get to see her again someday.

I’m so sorry LadyFlumpalot.

I don’t know whether anyone came for my mum, although she did talk about her dad in the days before she died. I wasn’t with her when she died; she told me ‘to bugger off so [she] could kick the bucket in peace’. Typical of my mum; I miss her.

Thank you @Knittedfairies - your mum sounds awesome. Similar to mine. Mine had been divorced from my dad for a long time, I said that my dad would want to come to her funeral and she replied "I don't care, I'll be dead, won't have to see him!"

I looked after my mum full time after a stroke. Early last year she became very ill and though not dying was struggling with something the doctors could not quite figure out other than her age.

She started going through spells where she would suddenly turn and look at someone and wave her hands about. Unable to talk because of the stroke years before she just smiled and gestured.

I kept saying nobody was there, but she was shaking her head and indicating there was.

In the end I took a photo with my camera and showed her there was nothing where she was pointing. She just pushed the camera away as if saying, I don't care there is, and kept pointing back and whoever she could see.

Over the next few weeks she got weaker and these visions carried on - not all the time - just an hour or so a day. They calmed her. I brought photos to show her and she took the one of my dad (who died years ago) and I could tell he was who she was seeing.

By the end days on the other side of the bed she was seeing her mum there too, based on the photo she took from me.

Only at that point did they start medicating her and she slipped quickly and quietly away.

I have no doubt she believed she was seeing my dad and her mum over several weeks when not fatally ill or under any meds.

Were they hallucinations? Perhaps.

But they were real to her and on the last day she just fell asleep and drifted quickly away. She was at peace.

So really whatever they were they helped her through this time.

It is hard to watch this happen and not wonder.