OK. I'll do another one. As a kid I had a recurrent dream. This dream was that there was a flood or something and I was adrift, alone on the river, under some trees. I couldn't swim til I was about 10 or 11, so the dream persisted til I finally learned to swim then the water had no fear for me any more and I never had the dream again. I thought nothing of it as my dad's dad had a boat on the river Ouse and we spent most weekends on the river. And also, same river, my mum's dad had lost the family farm in the 1930s... after a catastrophic flood wiped out their uninsured livestock. Our family lost the farm we'd been tenants at for 100 years and my mother spoke about it a lot, so I assumed hence the river flood related dreams.
At university, and now a long way from home, one night I had this terrifying dream that I was in the water, and people all round me were drowning. This time was different - it wasn't the familiar river, but the sea and a place I didn't know. It was nearly xmas and there were xmas lights strung all along the shore. There was a middle aged man in the water with me and he exuded this weird calm. And I knew, like me, he wasn't really 'there'. He said to me: "Hold onto some of the wreckage - you'll be fine." Not those exact words but that was the gist. Then he went off to help people.
I was so terrified, I screamed the place down, and woke my then boyfriend up by scrambling in the dark to find the light switch. I hadn't had a nightmare like that since I was a child. I told him about the dream, in detail, and then put it down to a recurrence of my childhood nightmare, and went back to sleep.
The next day, went about my business as normal and was none the wiser til the evening news. A lifeboat disaster had happened in the night and 16 people drowned. At the same time it was happening, I woke my other half up screaming the place down. On the news you could see christmas lights strung along the shoreline, just like my dream. My OH freaked out even more than I did.
Time went on and I just put it down to mathematical coincidence. Someone somewhere will always be having a dream about some disaster or other that is really happening; maybe, like me, at the same time it happened. It meant nothing.
20 odd years later, and hundreds of miles away, I was doing my family tree and at the same time, researching a local story I felt compelled by - of an accident on the river, where a number of people drowned when a small boat capsized. I couldn't understand why I kept being drawn to the story - none of the victims' or survivors' surnames were any of my known family names.
Several years passed and I got my great grandad's birth certificate and realised my connection.... one of the handful of survivors was my great uncle X 3. He couldn't swim but when the boat capsized... survived because he held onto a piece of wreckage - an oar. Exactly like the man had told me to, in that dream in 1981. He was quoted verbatim at the inquest, and comes across as a very calm, sensible man who seems to have been massively respected by the other survivors. He was middle-aged. Just like the man in my dream who had told me to... hold on to some of the wreckage. We went to find his unmarked grave in a large municipal cemetery (he died decades after the accident, of old age). As my husband went to the gatehouse where volunteer genealogists were at hand to figure out where your relative's burial was... I wandered across the cemetery and came to a standstill. When my husband, now armed with the map and a plot number, found me five minutes later. Stood at the precise spot my great uncle x 3 was buried. I always felt this man really wanted us to find him.