Do you let other people ride your horse?

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A friend keeps nagging me to let her DD ride my DD’s pony, I got a bit fed up with being nagged, and now we’ve had a bit of a falling out.

Pony was abused way back in the past, every time she’s clipped her scars are uncovered and DD breaks her heart. DD is super protective of her and only ever let’s very close, trusted friends ride her.

Pony is a total love, she’s safe as houses really, DD just doesn’t want friend’s DD to ride her

I think that’s fair enough.

I’ve had a fair bit of nagging from friend, and other mutual friends about it, that I should have a word with my daughter about how selfish and unkind she is, that DD should get over herself, she is extremely privileged and not all children are so lucky.

DD is very lucky (and DD is fully aware of just how lucky she is) but I don’t think that means she should let people ride her pony if she doesn’t want them to

I’m sticking to my guns, it’s DD’s choice and she’s said no, but I was just wondering to myself really if other people got stick like this?

This makes me angry!!! You wouldn't ask to borrow someone's car?? I wouldn't even be happy with someone taking my 3 dogs out for a walk! Animals aren't "things" to be lent out! They have their own emotions!

What was the eventual outcome from that last exchange?!

Sorry, missed the last few posts

Heard nothing from her.

She didn’t reply to my last text and haven’t heard from her since

Good, it is bizarre. The audi analogy is very sound, people would be horrified if you asked to borrow their new car but seem to see no issue in asking if they can ride your horse. I’ve had it so many times eg dc starting school, parents social evening, mum says oh I will ride your horse ( me wtf), bought dc4 a pony, a few weeks later acquaintance says oh my dc and yours need to be friends, why I ask, so he can can ride your dcs pony!