its all a bit sad :( tips on loosing a horse?

[ilovecorey]

Since I have told my parents I am pregnant they are insisting I sell my horses apart form 2 who they know if they got rid of them they would loose me. Well one of my beautiful boys has now been sold and today I took him to the beach for our last ride together. We were galloping along the sand with the rain pouring down and I just could not stop sobbing. It was just us on the beach with the sound of his hoofs on the sand and the waves. I'm going to miss him so much after 5 beautiful years

@ dolly!
Op can I make a suggestion? Maybe you are not quite ready for mumsnet. Could I suggest maybe Club Penguin?

Maybe a nice cute little pony when baby's a bit older! You can enjoy horses with him/her! Good luck with it corey, try and keep an eye on the long term, but accept what has to be for now.

I'm getting a bit nervous now. I'd intended to buy my son a pony in a couple of years to keep him off street corners - now I'm scared he'll end up pregnant. Anyone got any advice?

@ the logistics of that! Maybe you should get him a slutty girlfriend and try reverse phsycology!

So he ends up pg with a pony???

FWIW though, joking apart, I do think corey has been a bit unfairly blasted on this thread. She posted asking for tips on dealing with the grief of letting a beloved horse go. Something most of us have been through. she has only really made one comment that made her sound a bit young and silly, about cutting ties but that seems to have been the only thing and the response has been very tough! In reality she is not just grieving the horses but also the change to her life, the parts of it that she is letting go - the horses, jumping etc. It is a big change and whilst it is down to her that does not mean it is easy or without pain.

I know she needs to man up for the great big world now but sometimes everyone needs a bit of a hug along the way, especially facing so many changes so fast and so young. It is all a bit scary to say the least and I am pretty sure all of us have been guilty of being a bit petulant at times haven't we?

OK OP - I understand that you will be losing some of your much loved horses, and that really hurts. Believe me, as someone who just had to decide to end the life of one of mine, I do understand the pain.

However, at least you have had your horses and happy memories to go with them. I had my first horse at 27 after working my teenage backside off just to afford to have lessons. At the risk of doing the thing requiring backing violins, I am also the child who cried herself to sleep because I didn't "win a pony" in the WH Smith competition they used to run, and who put a pony every year on her Xmas list from 3 to 10.

My mum said it was heartbreaking not to be able to even afford lessons, and to be told at stables where she'd suggested I could muck out in return for lessons by snot nosed county types - "Oh no, we don't do that here". I just decided that if I wanted to have lessons and then a horse I had to work hard enough to afford it myself.

If you are healthy, your pregnancy is going well, your parents are supportive (even if not ecstatic) and you still have two horses then, in the grand scheme of things I think you are fortunate.