its all a bit sad :( tips on loosing a horse?

[ilovecorey]

Since I have told my parents I am pregnant they are insisting I sell my horses apart form 2 who they know if they got rid of them they would loose me. Well one of my beautiful boys has now been sold and today I took him to the beach for our last ride together. We were galloping along the sand with the rain pouring down and I just could not stop sobbing. It was just us on the beach with the sound of his hoofs on the sand and the waves. I'm going to miss him so much after 5 beautiful years

No oneobviously understands where I'm coming from so let's just end it. Now.
Not a strop? Granted I can't hear you stomp up the stairs and shout I hate you but it sounds like a strop to me. Congratulations on your gcse's you've worked hard. But no where near as hard as your going to have to work now. And you have the added mix of a baby! We are just trying to help. If you don't want the answers you've had..... Maybe don't post?!?

What I meant was it felt like for me no one really understood where I'm coming from. If that came across in the wrong context then it wasn't meant to

I had a baby this summer, I'm now back at work full-time, I have 2 dogs and 1 horse on full livery. My boyfriend is the primary carer, we're lucky - we can afford it - I've not got my hand out to my parents.

Even with the help from my boyfriend, full livery and working flexi hours and sometimes from home - it's hard to find the time to ride and I can only ride 2-3 times a week. It's not as easy to find the time as you think really. You've only got the time if someone else is picking up the bills... if you're going to have to work for mone you won't have time.

We all understand how hard it is to part with horses. We have all had to do it at one time or another. What we don't understand is why you feel hard done by. You have several horses and your parents are paying for them. You have become pregnant at 17, and they are supporting you in this, and instead of casting you out into the big wide world to support yourself like many parents would, they are not only keeping you whilst you are at college/uni but are prepared to keep on two of your horses. The picture I'm getting here isn't one which particularly demands my sympathy I'm afraid. You have done nothing but complain that they are making you give up your babies. What about thanking your lucky stars they are helping you as much as they are. You could be writing a thread about how you are pregnant and penniless and your parents have turned you out of the house.

This will probably sound terribly patronising, sorry it isn't meant to be, but if you don't like to listen to the advice people are giving to you on an internet forum you are going to have a terrible shock when your baby comes along.

I haven't read any of your previous posts, but if you have 4 or 5 horses (I can't quite tell quite how many you have), then actually you are pretty bloody spoilt. Forget about the costs of purchasing them, the upkeep of 4 (or 5) horses alone is a lot of money a month, even if they were just diy grazing.

The bare facts are that you have got yourself pregnant and you now need to think about your future with your child. I am quite frankly flabberghasted that your parents are allowing you to keep two horses. One is quite enough.

'Corey' - I made the mistake of NOT selling my beautilful horse when I first got preggers. I was married with a good job and in my late 30s and the pregnancy was the result of a a vasctomy reversal i.e very much planned.. At the time I could not bear to part with her. I am now struggling like MAD to afford her as I only work PT. She went to various loan homes, but is now 18 and has health problems so not loanable or sellable at all. I wish like hell that I HAD sold her when she was 10 and fit so she could now have someone who could afford to keep her in comfort and pay for her treatment. Think of the horses too. How will you be able to afford them going forward. You will NOT have time to ride 6 horses believe me. How will your bring yuor youngters on?? Who are you planning on dumping your baby on while you ride eh??

It's sad to have to get rid of them, but you can ride again later. The baby must come first! If you think you love your horses - you just wait to see how much more you love your child - It just doesn't compare!!

"The bare facts are that you have got yourself pregnant"

that's clever!

Mitchy, no, it really isn't. Not when you have 4 or 5 horses you want to keep. Obviously it takes 2, but the OP does have to take 50% responsibility for her situation. The father of her baby may choose to do the same. Who knows.

Mitchy is correct: it is clever (and quite gymnastic) to impregnate oneself!

ilovecorey - you are amazingly lucky to have such generous parents, but you seem blind to this and some other glaringly obvious facts about your situation. Instead of having a shit fit that your parents are selling 3 of 'your' horses (and btw, to say you're not spoilt and that your parents pay the keep etc for 5 horses for you is a contradiction - you do get that don't you?) you should be thanking your lucky stars that they are willing to keep paying for 2 of them as well as supporting you and your new baby.

Perhaps instead of yelling 'life is soooo unfair, everyone hates me' you should be apologising to your parents for being a brat and thanking them from the bottom of your heart for their unconditional love and understanding.

Hit the nail on the head Callisto. Corey - as well as being horsey, on MN we are mostly all parents too. We can see the other side of the fence!

At that one particulary bitch post SHUT THE FUCK UP. I have a father in tears and my mother will not talk to me.how would you like that? This is only the loss of my horse I was talking about. If you had any idea of the other shit that's going on in my life you would all feel guilty abourt the torrent of abuse and un helpful advice

Maybe when you post something that doesn't sound whingy and petulant, you will get more help and support. That's what mumsnet is about. Supporting those that need it. If you had posted about your other shit instead of weeping like you have just dropped your toffee apple in a puddle, you would have seen the true meaning of mumsnet.

Wow! So not only are you the first 17 year old to get pregnant, the first woman to "love her horses" but you also have some amazing shit going on in your life too. What happened? Did you lose your paperound?

Paper round do be serious. I have qualifications. I have more seroius personal stuff going on that I would dream of posting on here for fesr of what might come out of your mouths.

To be fair OP, if you only give us the superficial stuff to go on, then that is what people will go on. We do not have second sight.

Korma - I think she's genuine - nobody could keep up that level of spelling spanning so many posts! I think it's just not knowing the difference betwen 3 and 5 week's pregnant due to OV...

Corey, you cannot blame mumsnet for your mother's tears - I doubt she does either. You're about to become a mother - Mum the fuck up?

Am I the one who wrote the 'bitch post'? Dear me, did I hit a nerve there? Perhaps if you had a little more empathy for those around you, you would realise that your father and mother are devastated on your behalf and wondering where they went wrong in the way they parented you. I'm sure the last thing they wanted for you was to be pregnant at 17.

However, I think Korma is right - you just sound too much of a prima donna to me to be for real.

I thought getting your daughter into horses was to prevent teenage pregnancy

Right, I'm selling DD's pony...