Child not collect from school

[Fullofthought]

If my daughter was not collect from school by her father what would happen at your school. He is responsible for every wed and alternative Friday pick ups? On my days I'm never late to pick her up/ drop off. I'm worried that she's going to get really upset over this and that the school will hold it against me in some way. He has physically said he cannot do it but has been court ordered to do it so has to unless he goes through the solicitor to change the agreement. If social services do get involved would that be with me too or just him? Thanks

[Scabetty]

He has to arrange after school care

[RickyGold]

I paid my childminder for the times my ds was meant to be with his dad, I know that I shouldn't have had to but the reduction in stress for me and my ds always been collected was well worth it.

[IggyPoppers]

Sadly no one can be compelled to parent their own children be there a court order or not. If the OP has parental responsibility for her child and refuses to collect her then this will be seen as a fairly serious. TBH social services won't give a fig that there's a court order in place. Both her parents will have failed her and she's being used as a pawn. Collect your kid and go back to court. But would it not be in your child's best interest to show some flexibility in the schedule? I don't know anyone with a blended family doesn't occasionally need to change the schedule around.

[StealthPolarBear]

If he physically can't do it then he needs to make arrangements.
I agree there's no way I'd leave my child at school knowing this, whatever the rights and wrongs, but will it cause problems if he miraculously turns up after two minutes and the mother has 'taken' the child? Op get his "can't do it" in writing.

[ApolloandDaphne]

Are his reasons for not being able to collect her valid and reasonable? If so can you get her from school like usual and keep her until he can collect her? If you both can agree on a course of action surely the court mandate isn't something too worry about too much.

[Fullofthought]

I would of course be there in a heartbeat to pick my dd7 up if I got the call to say she hasn't been collected. My solicitor said as I argued in court that this would be the case i Have to allow him to not collect her and the school to take the relevant action against him for the order to change. I want to get a idea of what this action involves. He is constantly trying to change the order and we are only on week 5. First unsupervised vist this Saturday and due to pick her up from school the following week where he told her that he is going on holiday the Friday when he is ment to pick her up from school but has not told me. He is using the excuse that he lives too far away to pick her up which to me is not a accepted reason and he has a few options over this that I suggest in court but in court he said he could 100% be there to get her. I offered phone contact instead or for him to pick her up from my parents but he wasn't happy with either of these and wanted to pick her up.

[Smoggle]

The only action the school will take is they will call him (if they know he is picking up) and then if he says he can't/won't come they will call other contacts until someone collects.

[Smoggle]

The day he is supposed to collect I would go into school when you drop her off and inform the teacher and the office that he is collecting, it's his court ordered contact, and give them his number to call. Bring a copy of the court order with you.

[IggyPoppers]

I'd just let the school know he's meant to pick her up but if he doesn't to please just call you. Then if it goes back to court you can say he didn't collect her and the school can back that up. But most parents do take holidays and usually contact changes when that happens...

[Fullofthought]

Right, I've managed to sort this where he is now going to be picking DD up from my parents on one day and from myself on the other day so he has no involvement with school pick up and drop off now which is much better.