Unisex toilets. Toilet seat left up.

[applesauce1]

There are only 3 staff toilets at my 2 form entry school. They are unisex.
I have been spoilt by a husband who has always put both seat and lid down (great training, MIL!) and am disappointed to continually find the seats left up in the loos.
I don't go to the loo often at work- it's a luxury to have the time to piss. When I do find time to have a sit down and release the half drunk coffee and sip of water from my bursting bladder, I want it to be a pleasant experience.
These male teachers swan out of the loo in front of me, leaving that seat up, smiling at me. How dare you, sir, smile at me, when you are simultaneously inviting me to touch a public toilet seat?
Why am I posting? I'm looking for solutions, or an alternative view point to settle my loo related annoyance. I also just wanted to vent a bit.

Fgs op. Just lower the seat

Use toilet roll to put the seat down so you don’t have to touch it directly. Then wash your hads after. Stop acting like this is a male vs female problem. Men have to touch the toilet seat too. They don’t have a moan.

How dare you, sir, smile at me, when you are simultaneously inviting me to touch a public toilet seat?

But it's fine for the men to touch the toilet seat?

Or buy a she wee. No worries then!

No sympathy here. Your DH is wonderful, your male colleagues less so. Lower the seat, pee, wash your hands. End of. I can't believe this is all you have to worry about

I don't see why you should invite the men to lift the seat if you don't want to simply put it down??
YABU

Um - when you’ve finished on the loo, do you put the seat up for the men?

If not, what the hell is your issue?

Yes, very true. I knew I was being unreasonable.

This probably stems from a past experience when I house shared with two men. I'd just moisturised, then went into the bathroom, sat down on the loo seat and fell right in because the seat had been left up. The best response to this would probably be to look first, sit later rather than get annoyed about the seat being up in the first place!

I disagree with PPs and hear you OP! It's just another crappy patriarchal thing isn't it? Women can't pee standing up so every time it is left up it is an inconvenience to us. Men can pee sitting down so they don't have to touch the loo seat if they don't want to. Ergo, the 'neutral' option is to leave the seat down; it's rude not to.

You sat on a toilet without looking and fell in the bowl? Seriously?

I don't get the angst on this one. If you leave it down, they have to put it up (or wee on it). Why is you having to touch a toilet seat worse them having to do the same?

I just expect that they leave it clean, and although ime women aren't too great at that either

Who sits on a public toilet???

@incorruptibledream I've sat on a closed toilet before. Very nearly weed on the lid. Sometimes, I am not observant when very tired and desperate for the loo.

I must have a fat arse.

Actually I do have a fat arse

@Bestseller I do agree. One gender has to touch the seat so why shouldn't it be me. I wasn't being very fair.

@NoNewsisGood
I am 7 months pregnant and find squatting hard. Sorry for being gross as well as irrationally grumpy!

Totally with Bestseller on this! I never lift the seat up for the males in my house, why should they put it down for me? Always struck me as an odd gripe

I would focus on the positive. If they had wee'd into the bowl while the seat is down they may have missed and either given the spilled urine a quick wipe or left it to dry. With a toile seat up you know this hasn't happened.

There are two sexes - two possible uses of toilet:

Female / wee / seat down
Female / poo /seat down
Male / wee /seat up
Male / poo / seat down

So, total of three out four combinations require seat down. Thus seat down is default postition. At least this my reasoning

Get a godsend shewee.

I went into a unisex toilet in a cafe the other week. The seat was up and the toilet was absolutely covered in pee splashes..... I was keen to go but couldn't bring myself to touch the seat let alone sit on it. I drove home like Penelope Pitstop being chased by the Hooded Claw

What a vile concept unisex toilets are. Few men piss in the toilet, most seem to prefer to mark their territory all around it.

@Hushnownobodycares
I have a shewee! Never managed to use it without weeing on myself (during the recommended shower practices). Any tips?

applesauce1

I you-tubed a few tutorials because I didn't think it looked man enough for the job when it arrived. Best tip I found is to position it over the clit. I also got the extreme which has an extension pipe. No disasters so far and I've used it lots. Even invested in another so I can keep one in a suitcase for holidays and have an everyday model

I'm with other posters. It's a minor inconvenience. Someone has to touch the seat. Who actually cares?

It's not like the men are thinking "gosh I will leave the seat up to remind the world of my place as head of the world".

YABU.
Either way somebody has to raise/lower the seat. It's a bit precious to assume that the job will always fall to the men, tbf.